https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 11:14:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2558119 Fri, 27 May 2016 10:40:58 +0000 BSB 2558119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty stubborn and I research the hell out of my reasons, so I usually have better ideas. I'm a scientist so my reasons are logical.</p> <p>DH is stubborn, too, but he doesn't look into his reasons as much as me. It's usually, this is how I want it with no logical reason behind it. (He is still adamant about pointing our son's penis down when putting on a diaper... I still don't understand it...)</p> <p>As for little things, like what color rug should we get? I usually let him decide since he has an eye for those things. Putting pictures up on the wall? That's his thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2558087 Fri, 27 May 2016 10:20:02 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2558087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just have to add: if it's more about letting stuff go, then I feel like we both do that. But DH lets go of the small stuff really easily, a lot more than I do. But as for arguments, I don't think we've ever let anyone win - it's more agreeing to disagree. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2558030 Fri, 27 May 2016 09:13:51 +0000 Mrs. D 2558030@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I let him win a lot, but I don't think he realizes it because when it's something I'm sure/passionate about he gets upset that I always have to have my way, lol. He gets his way more than I do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2556708 Thu, 26 May 2016 05:39:53 +0000 ValentineMommy 2556708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH has literally never been right in an argument.....literally. Never. :silly: :silly: :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2556646 Wed, 25 May 2016 20:53:56 +0000 hb3233 2556646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think we really have discussions or arguments where I see it as one person winning. I definitely let stuff go - i.e. I ask him once to do something and when he doesn't, if it's not that big of a deal, I'll do it - or I just don't bring stuff up in the first place, because it's not a big deal. And he does the same. Fortunately, so far on the big things we've been in agreement. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2556615 Wed, 25 May 2016 19:29:19 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2556615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: You just made me realize that I may be the more stubborn one because DH doesn't usually engage in those kinds of arguments ... but I do (especially obvious when we first met), which frustrated the hell out of me because he's pretty damn stoic in that sense.</p> <p>@Mrs. Sketchbook: Bringing up a sore spot, yeh, ok. I'm guilty! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2556604 Wed, 25 May 2016 18:53:07 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 2556604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SugarplumsMom: maybe for example letting DH do some minor childcare thing his way vs. Yours? Or like, no longer bringing up a sore spot re: the in laws that you can't seem to resolve? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2556603 Wed, 25 May 2016 18:51:46 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 2556603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: not to resurrect an old thread but letting your spouse win is classic "wife work"/emotional labor. That said as I get older I do let things go more easily but I also have harder boundaries. Having hard boundaries allows me to let go for the small things. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2556575 Wed, 25 May 2016 18:06:27 +0000 mrbee 2556575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SugarplumsMom: Just that if you're debating or arguing about something, you don't fight to the death... you concede the point. Or alternatively, you think of it less like a fight and try to understand the other person's perspective - and allow yourself to be persuaded (or realize you don't care all that much). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2556410 Wed, 25 May 2016 14:55:00 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2556410@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I still don't exactly know what you mean by winning. Examples? :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2556039 Wed, 25 May 2016 09:50:33 +0000 ElbieKay 2556039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Rarely. I am good at picking my battles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2556038 Wed, 25 May 2016 09:50:30 +0000 MaryM 2556038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't "let" anyone win an argument. </p> <p>But if it's one I don't really care about, I just let go. </p> <p>Or if he actually IS right, I make a big deal out of saying that he's right. </p> <p>In general though, we rarely argue or disagree with each other, so normally it's something not at all personal that we're arguing about. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2555996 Wed, 25 May 2016 08:49:07 +0000 cascademom 2555996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it's about something really stupid, I'll be the first to forgive and let it go. It keeps our communication going as well as puts aside a small issue. It's all about picking your battles. It's been a hard lesson to learn over time, but has worked for us. If it's about something bigger like not doing what I asked a few times over, it gets addressed and I don't back down from it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2555984 Wed, 25 May 2016 08:29:00 +0000 JenGirl 2555984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try to let him win stuff that I don't care about. And I think he does the same. I really try to evaluate if something really matters and is worth even bringing up. Makes life easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2555983 Wed, 25 May 2016 08:28:59 +0000 peachykeen 2555983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're both very stubborn. It's a problem. :bummed: I'm trying to do better... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2555940 Wed, 25 May 2016 06:36:38 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2555940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hmm ... we're both pretty stubborn, but at the same time, we're also easy-going. He's more laid back than I am, but at the same time, more stubborn (although he insists I'm the more stubborn one). So I don't exactly know what you mean by "winning". Lol. I'm not exactly sure if that's ever really happened :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2555927 Wed, 25 May 2016 05:59:58 +0000 Cherrybee 2555927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I nearly always let him win, unless its something I really care about. I'm always the first to apologise, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2555801 Tue, 24 May 2016 19:58:28 +0000 Bao 2555801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Almost never ;) because I'm usually right. Kidding...but really. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/letting-your-so-win#post-2555792 Tue, 24 May 2016 19:35:05 +0000 mrbee 2555792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read that one of the keys to lasting happiness in a relationship is to let your SO win arguments, especially if it's an argument you could live with losing.</p> <p>I am pretty easygoing across a wide range of things, so I'm willing to lose a lot of arguments. But not all of them! I think that's ok though... but haha, I"m biased.</p> <p>How often do you let your SO win when you get into an argument/debate? </p>