https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 17:17:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1790098 Wed, 30 Jul 2014 16:11:56 +0000 raintreebee 1790098@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally get this. Right now I am contemplating whether to wean my LO at 1 year (who was conceived after 3 IUIs and 3 IVFs) just so we can do IVF before I'm too old. Sucks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1790075 Wed, 30 Jul 2014 16:01:22 +0000 bhbee 1790075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh I understand this feeling. I so wanted #2 to be easy, and it was harder than #1 (longer, more treatment). and I think because of that harder emotionally too. I hope you get a quick sticky baby when you are ready! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1789740 Wed, 30 Jul 2014 13:52:34 +0000 duchessdina 1789740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: I agree with you completely. We have been NTNP since my 18month old DD was born and nothing so far. We've tried 1 month with progesterone supps with BFN. I'm hoping it doesn't take much to conceive this time around. It doesn't help that I have a coworker who accidentally got pg with natural triplets when her son was less than 1 year old. Not that I'm envious of all that craziness but she accidentally got pg with triplets!!! It's frustrating that some women have such a difficult time getting pg and others it just happens without any trying. It makes me feel like why did I bother using bc pills for 10 years prior to having DD when clearly I'm not going to accidentally get pg. I would have been happy with Irish twins if it had happened because it would have been natural and without medications or monitoring to TTC! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1787340 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 13:25:15 +0000 mrswin 1787340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Leialou: This! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1787270 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 13:03:07 +0000 FaithFertility 1787270@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: Amen!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1786646 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 09:21:01 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1786646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't even imagine what life after IF is like. It will be so nice to be able to save money for something other than treatments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1786611 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 09:09:27 +0000 sweetooth 1786611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wouldn't it be nice to just <i>get pregnant</i>? Sigh... I found out this week that my friend is pregnant with her 5th child. Yes. 5th. She has had two miscarriages, which I know are devastating. But 5 pregnancies...and here I am just hoping we have the chance to experience it maybe one more time.</p> <p>We are on our way to the RE next week to discuss the process of trying for #2. My son was conceived on our 3rd IUI last fall. I'm getting a little nervous about jumping in to the medications &amp; monitoring again, but I don't feel like I have the time to continue to NTNP since I am 35 1/2 and it took us 20 months to get pregnant with our first.</p> <p>I wish I was like your neighbor ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1786493 Tue, 29 Jul 2014 08:31:55 +0000 alohaorchid 1786493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree 110% </p> <p>We have had two surprise pregnancies (in three years of no BC), and neither of them have ended well. I think the worst thing right now is having no idea when/if it will happen again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1786122 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 23:33:55 +0000 MsMini 1786122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was all geared up for a struggle with TTC #2. I had PCOS and it took 13 months and metformin to conceive S. Well, this time we were completely shocked when NFP failed and gave us baby #2! </p> <p>It was completely unexpected, and in some ways I am always on edge this time, feeling like I didn't "earn" this pregnancy :( it is tough, I feel like I am waiting for the other shoe to drop, but 22 weeks 4 days and so far baby is doing well. </p> <p>I hope for surprise babies for you all though, and I hope that those of you who get them don't struggle like I do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1786027 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 21:55:11 +0000 jetsa 1786027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: yea. We're still debating a second and I never went back on bc because if it happened well decision made. I really wanted Irish twins but nada. My son is now 10 months and I feel like we're going to have to go the testing/clomid route again if we definitely want another &amp; which while fine and way easier than for some others was one of the most depressing times of my life and I don't know that I can do it again. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1786022 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 21:51:42 +0000 ladybee 1786022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AmeliaBedilia: @jetsa: @winter_wonder: @swedishfish: thanks for understanding. Lacking the control of fertility is so anxiety provoking for me. I know I would like my kids 2-3 years apart. That brings the questions like when should I go off bc, will it take 3 years? Ugh! Then my neighbor gets pregnant every time her husband cuts the grass. Blah. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1786020 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 21:49:13 +0000 ladybee 1786020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: we got pregnant cycle one off bc and mc'd. I thought I was one of the lucky women. Joke was on me. I feel the exact same about where in life. I think every woman who has experienced IF is worried they won't get pregnant (either at all it again). IF really helped me see what a miracle a baby truly is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1786015 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 21:46:25 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1786015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I woke up one day and I was just "SURPRISE: pregnant!!", I don't think I'd care where in life I was. I would take that miracle and run with it. I don't think it'll ever happen though.<br /> I feel ya. It's a beautiful surprise that we may never have:/ it isn't fair.</p> <p>Eta: I did get pregnant by surprise after I had my LO, but MC'd and it's been 18m of trying and intervention since then to conceive again (still not there). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1785983 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 21:18:32 +0000 AmeliaBedilia 1785983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. It is SOOOO frustrating not to be able to control your fertility. I am so jealous of the women who do fine on birth control, stop it and are pregnant immediately. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1785770 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 19:12:11 +0000 jetsa 1785770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand as well and this this too often. *hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1785741 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 18:47:56 +0000 winter_wonder 1785741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladybee: I'm so sorry to hear about your loss and struggle getting pregnant :( </p> <p>I've also thought about how amazing it would be to get pregnant on a whim without all of the other things you mentioned above. What a precious gift. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1785716 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 18:32:15 +0000 swedishfish 1785716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand. Vent away, my friend. :heart: it's not fair. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-infertility#post-1785696 Mon, 28 Jul 2014 18:13:06 +0000 ladybee 1785696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It took DH and I 1 miscarriage, then 1 year of trying, Clomid, Femara, and lean PCOS to get pregnant with DS who is amazing and 9 months old. I've been on BC since having him since the PCOS has nasty side effects. I am out of refills so I decided to take this month off.</p> <p>Of course my sex drive is incredible and all I want to do is "it". DS said the other night, "we can not get pregnant right now." I know he is right but inside I thinking, "I want to be one of those women who don't have to think about getting pregnant." It would be awesome to have a surprise pregnancy without charting, medication, and OPKs. Even if it is a year earlier than we planned.</p> <p>Just a vent/sharing my thoughts that others would never understand. </p>