https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 04:16:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-554342 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 15:43:22 +0000 MrsH 554342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rosie Girl: I had a m/c in July and would have been due this month. It still hurts but the frquency of the tears has certainly lessened.</p> <p>I'm sorry for your loss. Like pp if you need to talk I'm here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-553839 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 11:59:10 +0000 Ash 553839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FutureMrsMcK: Wow, thanks for this. I cry myself to sleep after DH is asleep... it's all I think about. :( Good to know things will get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-553805 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 11:52:50 +0000 Ash 553805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss! After going through one, I'd never wish this on anybody! I'm still grieving, 5 months later. What I've learned is that it's okay to be sad and mad and every other emotion you will feel. Luckily for me, I came to HB and realized how important it is to talk about it with girls that have gone through the same thing. It's the hardest thing I have ever gone through... and I still haven't recovered. :(( I'm always here if you need to talk. Prayers for you &amp; your family! *hugs </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-553749 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 11:37:12 +0000 photojane 553749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just wanted to say you're in my thoughts &amp; prayers. I'm so, so sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-553307 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 05:54:34 +0000 mrs. bird 553307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry for your loss! I hope you find some closure soon &amp; that with time, the pain lessens for you. Hugs to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-553304 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 04:04:43 +0000 tequiero21 553304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss!!! lost baby in 2010 and now, I think the only things that really took off the sting were time and having my now 10-month twins... I think it was because I was so busy.... Do things to take it off your mind, but first, I would wallow in it and let it out.... For the first few days, I just kept reading other people's stories, cry my heart out, etc. I hope you have people around u for support! We r here for u too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-553297 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 03:32:27 +0000 Sweet T 553297@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-553296 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 03:28:42 +0000 mrsjyw 553296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh gosh I'm so so sorry friend. Prayers your way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-553294 Thu, 07 Feb 2013 03:24:02 +0000 Rosie Girl 553294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you so much everyone. It does help to talk about it, especially with people who have gone through it. I feel like I should be moving forward, and I go through the motions, but I feel like inside I"m falling apart. </p> <p>I need some kind of closure so DH is making a little sign for us to stick on a tree. I am also planning on tattooing the date where I have my other kids' names. </p> <p>I am angry that life is continuing when I really just need it to stop for a bit. I need to catch up and not feel so rushed. I try to stay busy to keep my mind from wondering, but it doesn't help too much. I feel bad for being so depressed and for DH having to pick up the slack. I feel like I have checked out of everything right now. I am also angry that God gave us something just to take it away. I want answers and reasons that I know I will never get. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-552190 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 13:07:08 +0000 Crisark 552190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-552180 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 13:03:17 +0000 Bao 552180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. Lots of hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-552127 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 12:40:41 +0000 shopaholic 552127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss @Rosie Girl:. I went through it last year with my first pregnancy. We were TTC and I was so very excited, so the loss hit me really hard. What really got me through it (esp, since I wasn't telling anyone about it) were all the other women on these kinds of community boards and blog posts where I read stories. Stories worse than mine, stories that had happy endings.<br /> Also, focusing on trying to be healthy during the months in between getting pregnant again and when the Dr. ok'd it, trying to get pregnant again. (Though my GF who went through it last year too, she just didn't even want to focus on trying to get pregnant again - so everyone works in different ways.) Like PP said, it's OK to grieve and feel sad. That's the one thing I think even the very very few people I told about it, couldn't understand or relate to. Even to this day, if I think about it for a moment, I will get sad and teary-eyed. But it does get better eventually. Those are just some of my tips, and listening to a lot of Florence! Seriously - I played "Shake It Out" on repeat for weeks! {hugs} </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-552124 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 12:39:45 +0000 MrsCastro 552124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rosie Girl: i am so sorry for your loss...i had a m/c back in August and it still stings...i still cry to think where i could have been and the fact that i havent been able to get pregnant again. </p> <p>Best i can tell you is to just "feel", let yourself feel your emotions, cry, scream, be angry...but just be okay with greiving your loss...again i am sorry... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-552018 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 11:56:23 +0000 lovehoneybee 552018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so so sorry for your loss. When I lost my first baby I was was bitter and angry--I didn't understand how something we wanted so badly and tried for for so long could be taken away so fast. I was terrified that it would take us another year to pregnant again, and then I'd lose that one. I was furious at my husband for being relieved that we'd finally been able to get pregnant, furious at my traitorous body for not holding on to it. And all the while my heart was breaking and I cried myself to sleep every night. The first few weeks were especially rough. </p> <p>I wish I could say there is any easy fix, a switch that makes it okay, makes it bearable, but there's not. The only thing that helped me was time. Time to grieve, time to forgive myself, time to realize I had nothing to forgive myself for, time to realize walking around pretending I was fine and crying all of the time when I was alone was straining my sanity and my marriage. </p> <p>And eventually, I did feel better. It helped that we got pregnant again within a few months, and even now I'm still sad when I think about it. </p> <p>I know how hard it is right now, but it's okay to grieve, but I hope you can find some peace. Much love. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-551991 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 11:46:12 +0000 Mrsbells 551991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sending you a big hug!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-551983 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 11:43:51 +0000 twinmama 551983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry sweetheart. Love and hugs and peace to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-551942 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 11:27:06 +0000 birdofafeather 551942@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>sorry for your loss. i know that many in the HB community have gone through it and i hope you can find some comfort in their words/stories. hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-551768 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 10:12:54 +0000 MapleMoose 551768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss hun. *big hug* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-551708 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 09:50:12 +0000 bunnylove08 551708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-551690 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 09:46:00 +0000 Alivoo01 551690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so, so sorry for your loss. It took me many, many months before even coming to terms with it. Let yourself grieve and cry all that you need to. Only as time passes does it get a little easier. Just know we're all here for you for anything you need. *hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-551651 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 09:34:24 +0000 Mrs.Someone 551651@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have anything new to add to what others have said, but I want you to know we're all here for you and so sorry for what you're going though... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-551640 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 09:28:36 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 551640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First off I am so sorry for your loss.I had an early loss in January. Not sure if you are religious or not but this is what helped me. Here is my post about it. <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-brought-you-comfort" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/what-brought-you-comfort</a></p> <p>I still have moments where I break down especially when we go to mass. I see so many happy &amp; healthy babies. I pray a lot for understand that it is God's will and not my will, and it helps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-551635 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 09:27:33 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 551635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-551624 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 09:24:27 +0000 autumnlove 551624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-551600 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 09:11:18 +0000 Honeybee 551600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-551598 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 09:10:09 +0000 winniebee 551598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss.</p> <p>I had an early miscarriage with my first pregnancy and it was very difficult. I didn't know if I could get pregnant again or if we would ever have children. I cried a lot and didn't want to talk to anyone about it. Then I sort of distanced myself from everything baby for awhile, which was difficult because I wanted to have a baby so very badly and all of my friends were pregnant or had newborns. Then, it really helped fo rme to speak with people who had had losses (IRL and via weddingbee, at the time). It got easier with time, though almost 2 years later, I do still think of the baby I lost. </p> <p>Chin up and keep on truckin. It will get easier eventually. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-551581 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 08:59:05 +0000 futuremama 551581@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rosie Girl: I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I'm suffering through the same thing right now, for the second time. I know it seems impossible now, but you will feel better in time. Make sure you and your husband take time to grieve. If you need to talk, I'm here. I've been there before. It got easier. We can do this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-551558 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 08:36:41 +0000 heffalump 551558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So so sorry for your loss :(</p> <p>For me it helped to have some closure. For miscarriage we don't get a funeral or anything, it's kind of like well all of a sudden your baby is gone and that's that'. I'm Jewish, and we put rocks on gravestones instead of flowers so I found a nice rock and wrote a message to my LO and placed it in my front entryway outside of my house. I see it whenever I go in and out, and I get to remember my LO.</p> <p>That..... and I let myself grieve..... a lot. I cried and cried and cried. I woke up in the middle of the night crying for months. DH and I would be having a normal conversation and I'd just burst into tears. You just lost a baby, it's ok to be sad about it, it's a sad thing to go through!</p> <p>It's been a couple of years for me, and I still think about the LO that I lost. Usually it hits me the hardest on my due date. I don't think the pain of losing a child ever goes away. But it does get easier, promise! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-551519 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 07:46:10 +0000 Smurfette 551519@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/life-after-miscarriage#post-551512 Wed, 06 Feb 2013 07:39:45 +0000 NerdBee 551512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so so sorry for your loss. *big tearful hugs* </p>