https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 20:24:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/limited-gift-giving-for-lo#post-1190829 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 13:01:19 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1190829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: This is exactly our logic. </p> <p>1) I want to emphasise the religous aspect and the spirit of giving (not all about getting gifts).<br /> 2) I don't want to set a standard that we don't want to maintain for years to come. For example, if we start giving her 15 gifts per year this year, then she would expect us/santa to continue that amount later on even as gifts get more expensive.<br /> 3) We do not believe in going into debt for christmas and she will still get other gifts from family that we will not limit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/limited-gift-giving-for-lo#post-1190772 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 12:45:56 +0000 blackbird 1190772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ah well that's different, than. I feel the same way about trying not to spend too much on our LO (from us/Santa). We are giving her one gift (she's not even 1, whatever) and letting everyone else spoil her. </p> <p>Does your husband think there should be a pile of gifts under the tree or something? Or does he just not like the idea of being picky/choosy about gifts in general? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/limited-gift-giving-for-lo#post-1190768 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 12:44:52 +0000 cmomma17 1190768@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I struggle with this too. It's not because of the religious aspect of the holiday for me personally, but because I have seen how spoiled rotten my nephew is and also because I want to raise LO to be a smart spender financially (so dropping $100's on one holiday isn't a good lesson).</p> <p>I don't know what to do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/limited-gift-giving-for-lo#post-1190685 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 12:22:58 +0000 looch 1190685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: ok, gotcha!</p> <p>What is it that your husband wants to buy that you feel is too much? Does he have something particular, or is he focused on the amount of things? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/limited-gift-giving-for-lo#post-1190656 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 12:17:29 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1190656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'M ALL ON BOARD WITH YOU! We did this for lo's bday. Grandparents went NUTS (I knew they would) with gifts, as did uncles and aunts. We only got LO one thing (a toy vacuum-$29 bucks). DH and I laughed about it, but hey, everyone else got him huge gifts and of course he's too young to care/notice. Especially because my parents got him a swingset, water table and bookshelf. I mean, really? He needs nothing else. And that was the tip of the iceberg. He's 12m.</p> <p>I don't know how to convince your husband. I think 4 gifts is plenty (plus grandparents' gifts). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/limited-gift-giving-for-lo#post-1190641 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 12:13:15 +0000 jedeve 1190641@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I was talking about gifts from us. I edited it to clarify. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/limited-gift-giving-for-lo#post-1190625 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 12:09:44 +0000 looch 1190625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you want to limit the total number of gifts, cut down on what you give your child. Some people get a lot of joy in buying for others (my parents are like this) and I have found it easier to deal with if i cut back on my personal stuff and let them do what they want.</p> <p>Eventually, it will even out, infant and baby toys are very inexpensive (for the most part). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/limited-gift-giving-for-lo#post-1190622 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 12:09:16 +0000 jedeve 1190622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: not from others but from us/Santa. </p> <p>My reasoning is that is a religious holiday for us and I don't want it to be a commercial thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/limited-gift-giving-for-lo#post-1190613 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 12:06:32 +0000 blackbird 1190613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally I'm not keen on limiting gifts that others give my LO, either. What is your reasoning? I think you can raised a non-spoiled child who is appreciative of what others give him/her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/limited-gift-giving-for-lo#post-1190608 Fri, 01 Nov 2013 12:05:20 +0000 jedeve 1190608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to do the want wear read need thing for LO but DH doesn't like the idea of limiting gifts from us or Santa. </p> <p>I think he will get plenty spoiled from grandparents even if we only buy him 4 gifts. And I don't want Christmas to be a big gift grab. We were both pretty spoiled in Christmas growing up. My mom grew up poor and once asked her mom why Santa didn't love her as much as the girl next door. So she over compensated with us. She still thinks we need a certain amount if things to open. DH doesn't think it's fair to do less for LO than we had growing up. </p> <p>How can I get him on board? </p>