https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 08:49:10 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-asking-a-certain-parent-to-do-something#post-2377124 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 15:16:42 +0000 Foodnerd81 2377124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MUI831: same, she pretty much always asks for me. </p> <p>We give her an option- do you want daddy to brush your teeth and mommy to read bedtime stories, or mommy brush your teeth and daddy read bedtime stories. But she always chooses daddy for teeth so I can put her down. So, sometimes we don't give her a choice, since I want her to be used to daddy doing bedtime stories and putting her down too, for when the new baby is here and I'm busy with her. She fights it until they are in the room and then she's fine. </p> <p>The mommy preference is draining! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-asking-a-certain-parent-to-do-something#post-2377096 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 15:04:50 +0000 Mommy Finger 2377096@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Basically, he always asks for me. And while I'm sure I'll miss it when he's older, it's getting draining. Can't daddy help you wash your hands? I know a lot of it stems from having DS2 but he's always had a strong mommy preference. I feel bad for DH but he just usually gives in to not have a fight. But I also fear that we're creating a monster! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-asking-a-certain-parent-to-do-something#post-2377063 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:52:16 +0000 Bao 2377063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: same with my DH! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-asking-a-certain-parent-to-do-something#post-2377061 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:50:42 +0000 LuLu Mom 2377061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>all the time, daddy lays her down to bed (because he is more of a pushover at night than I am) but I have to brush her teeth and hair. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-asking-a-certain-parent-to-do-something#post-2377050 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:44:30 +0000 Smurfette 2377050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We ask her, who is doing bath and who is reading stories? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-asking-a-certain-parent-to-do-something#post-2377043 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:40:58 +0000 mrsrain 2377043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd just ask her to choose ahead of time. No changing her mind allowed! :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-asking-a-certain-parent-to-do-something#post-2377039 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:39:07 +0000 regberadaisy 2377039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. She almost always ask for me. So we've gotten to where we say ok, I put you down tonight but daddy does it tomorrow. She's caught on and will now negotiato. Literally on Monday night this is the conversation:<br /> "Okay, okay. Mommy. What day is it? Monday? Okay, You put me down tonight. And daddy put me down on Wednesday. Okay, mommy?" </p> <p>DH works late on Tuesdays. </p> <p>Last night, no battles, no negotiating. At bedtime she told us, "tonight, daddy put me down!"</p> <p>Sigh. She's a strong negotiatior. I'm thinking trial lawyer is a fine occupation for her. 😂 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-asking-a-certain-parent-to-do-something#post-2377029 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:36:01 +0000 Jess1483 2377029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd ask her up front and let her choose who does bath and who does story (or whatever) so you can eliminate stalling. Then you aren't "giving in," you are asking for input. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-asking-a-certain-parent-to-do-something#post-2377020 Thu, 03 Dec 2015 14:33:56 +0000 Bao 2377020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 3 year old is in this phase right now where she wants a certain parent to do something for her/with her. I think it's more of a "what can I get away with" thing, or possibly stalling or seeing how much control she has over a situation. </p> <p>For example, when we are doing the bedtime routine if I start to brush her teeth she will say she wants daddy to, or if I start reading a book she will say she wants daddy to read. I try and not let it hurt my feelings, sometimes I will let him go ahead and do it but sometimes I won't. Or I will say mommy can read half of the book and then daddy can read the other half. Unfortunately, LO2 is picking up on these habits as well. </p> <p>Does your LO do this? If so, how do you handle it? I don't want it to turn into a thing where she thinks she can control us...but I also want to choose my battles! </p>