https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 29 Jun 2026 19:01:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-139790 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 08:31:37 +0000 heffalump 139790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO sees my inlaws and dad weekly, and still hasn't completely warmed up to them! She she's my mom a lot more so she loves her. She's getting better with her grandparents, and will let them hold her occasionally, but it's not consistent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-139712 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 04:18:23 +0000 Andrea 139712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: @NYCaliMama: wow ok, maybe this is something that is common for 2 year olds? here is hoping that it will be better when we see them again at the end of the year!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-139702 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 02:03:10 +0000 looch 139702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son was super clingy to my husband when we were visiting my parents this past December. Then, all of a sudden, there was a switch and he didn't want to know anything about my husband or I.</p> <p>We skype with my parents every week, and I do think that helps. We also have a photo book that my son likes to look through every now and again.</p> <p>It makes me so sad to read these kinds of stories because family is so precious! I know it's not possible for everyone to live in the same town, but that would be my ultimate wish! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-138863 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 15:27:21 +0000 regberadaisy 138863@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: not sure yet? We typically go back at least 2-3 times a year to visit. And my mom said she wants to be here for her birthday every year. So I'd imagine they'll see each other at least 3-4 times a year? It will be a lot easier now that my nieces and nephews are older so that they can fly up with her. She watches my niece full time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-138850 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 15:16:50 +0000 SAHM0811 138850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my eldest was like that too around 2 yo.... I have no advice though because it's still something we are working on. We see my parents once or twice a year, she talks to them once a week on the phone and we FaceTime on holidays and birthdays... I'm thinking it's just a stage, but it's hard to work on it because of the distance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-138833 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 15:02:42 +0000 Modern Daisy 138833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea, she was almost 2 when this happened and it was the second time we saw her. The first time she was a newborn and slept the entire visit. We've spent time with her since at my IL's house and she was better, but still didn't want to have anything to do with us and would run away if we came near. Of course we weren't upset about it, we know she'll eventually grow out of it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-138831 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 14:55:18 +0000 Andrea 138831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pointybird: oh yeah! i didn't notice that. cool! :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-138830 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 14:54:03 +0000 plaidpants 138830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: I know! And I just reached "Olive" level. I'm thinking about keeping my posts under 100 so I stay an Olive! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-138784 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 14:23:08 +0000 Andrea 138784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pointybird: btw, how cute that your LO's name is Olive just like Mr. and Mrs Bee's DD!</p> <p>@BoogieBea: that is a lot more than my parents get to see the DD. that is too bad about your MIL. was she really bummed out?</p> <p>@Modern Daisy: oh no! how old is she? i do feel really terrible but there is not a whole lot we can do either. oh well, i am glad to see that at least we are not alone in this situation! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-138774 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 14:07:47 +0000 Modern Daisy 138774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We flew across the country to visit with DH's niece/god daughter who we never get to see and she screamed the entire time whenever we were in the same room as her. Which was especially unfortunate since we were staying in the same small two bedroom apartment! </p> <p>We were fine with it obviously, but I felt bad for her parents who clearly felt terrible. Nothing they could do would soothe her, and we did nothing to provoke it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-138733 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 13:38:20 +0000 BoogieBea 138733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: Twice a year so far. We also visit them multiple times a year as well. And he talks to them on the phone every other day. We were already having issues getting him to sleep in general so we wanted to try to avoid a complete melt down prior to bed time. So MIL didn't get to put him to bed at all while she was here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-138718 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 13:31:16 +0000 Andrea 138718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BoogieBea: how often do they visit? </p> <p>i had my mom bathe her last night just so that they could have some alone time together. the LO was crying a lot at first but calmed down so they got through it. but then she started crying "mommy, mommy" once my mom put her in the crib. it wasn't too bad though. i just wanted them to spend SOME time together! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-138701 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 13:18:33 +0000 BoogieBea 138701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My ILs were here a month ago and LO was the same. He was happy to play with them while either my husband and I were both around. But he would not want to spend prolonged one on one time with them. When we leave him with them, he's crying and screaming. He used to let my MIL bathe him at night but this time, not at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-138678 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 12:54:57 +0000 Andrea 138678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pointybird: i think that is why she liked them to begin with because there were gifts on the first day but there can't be gifts every day! :-D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-138675 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 12:53:45 +0000 plaidpants 138675@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: Oh, gotcha! That's so tough! I'm still able to use the "She's just a baby!" excuse, but I think we'll probably have the same problem when Olive is older. Maybe Skype would help? Or bribery? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-138668 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 12:49:37 +0000 Andrea 138668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: how often will your mom be visiting?</p> <p>@pointybird: LO knows exactly who they are, since she is 2, so it is not a recognition issue. We don't Skype but we call them all the time so she knows their voices when she hears them, too. I just think she doesn't want them to take her away from Mommy. She is very clingy to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-138664 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 12:46:26 +0000 plaidpants 138664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is 4 months and is pretty shy around all new people, and my parents are no exception. She sees them maybe twice a month, never for more than a few hours. My dad doesn't care, but my mom is really worked up about it. I feel bad, but I try to tell remind her that as Olive gets older, she'll start to remember her!</p> <p>Have you thought about making a photo book so at least she will know their faces well? A friend has an 18 month old and he is so good at recognizing his faraway family members now, and he gets so excited when he sees them in person! It's really cute. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-138656 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 12:41:22 +0000 regberadaisy 138656@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>awww I have no words of advice but I'm afraid of this happening with my LO and my mom too! :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-did-not-warm-up-to-my-parents#post-138654 Thu, 26 Apr 2012 12:40:13 +0000 Andrea 138654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents have been visiting for a week and they leave on Saturday. The DD was excited to see them at first but then started clinging to me more than usual. She does OK with them when I am not around but I work from home so I can't just leave. My parents aren't comfortable driving far so they can't really take her anywhere except for a walk. I feel bad because they traveled all this way and didn't get to spend a whole lot of one-on-one time with the LO. Has this happened to anyone else with grandparents that your LO rarely sees? </p>