https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Jul 2026 12:44:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd/page/2#post-954224 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 20:09:17 +0000 T.H.O.U. 954224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My lo got bit on the face once. It bruised but didn't break the skin. It was the straw that forced me to really hammer down with the director. You can see my other post for details. It was a serious issue and what I consider way outside the realm of normal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd/page/2#post-954216 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 20:06:00 +0000 T-Mom 954216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear about the bite on the face. My kids have both been bitten and it's upsetting. My day care is very responsive and they keep any eye on the kids to try and prevent, as others have said. that is all I can expect. I would feel horrible as a "biter"'s mommy.One interesting twist in our case was that my DS came home with dark bite marks twice and the teachers couldn't say what happened and I got no report. . The director got involved when I mentioned it to her. It turns out he was also biting himself, HARD and even broke his own skin. Just illustrates that biting is a developmental thing and that keeping other babies away doesn't keep them from hurting themselves. Hope your LO is gonna be ok! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-954168 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 19:47:55 +0000 littlek 954168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsmate: I'm pretty positive this wasn't supposed to be a WOHM v SAHM contest. I think what @MsLipGloss: was saying is that it's hard when your child bites or bitten and there's nothing you can do about it. I feel HORRIBLE when my son bites a child and what makes it worst is that I'm not there to do something about it. </p> <p>@Mrsbells: I'm so sorry for the thread jack. I really hope your little girl feels better! Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-954110 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 19:30:39 +0000 MsLipGloss 954110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: I am sorry for the thread jack. :(</p> <p>@mrsmate: It wasn't a negative generalization. It was an observation. It also wasn't an *us versus them* response, it was a point of view response. We're all parents, so to me, there is only *US* . . . there is no *them.* </p> <p>I did mention relinquishing control in my first response (and in my direct response to your inquiry). That being said, I am going to give your most recent response the consideration that is typically observed here on HB, and not take your response personally or comment further. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-954048 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 19:02:25 +0000 mrsmate 954048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: I wish you'd said this in the first place instead of generalizing negatively about SAHPs.</p> <p>I think what you're actually talking about is WAHPs' need to suppress reactions to incidents for the sake of their own sanity. I totally get that. But you have the wrong idea if you think SAHPs don't have to check our emotions sometimes, too. Many of us feel very isolated in the early months, so when we are able to develop a social/support network of other SAHPs, we aren't going to give it up over nothing. We're not going to yell at a parent we've been seeing for months at a weekly playdate just bc their kid is doing something perfectly normal for their age. We're not going to stop going to a playground just bc some kid hit my kid.</p> <p>You can change daycares. My DD goes 2x/wk, so I know it's not that easy. You know what else isn't easy? Making all new friends, which is what I'd have to do in my circle if I made a federal case out of biting.</p> <p>My point is there is no reason to make it a WAH vs SAH thing bc we all have our challenges. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953956 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 18:14:58 +0000 autumnlove 953956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: Sorry to hear this! :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953928 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 18:01:22 +0000 MsLipGloss 953928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsmate: Because not having control changes things. It doesn't diminish or lessen the anxiety and distress that any parent would feel(!) . . . but, the reality is, when you still have to hand your LO over to someone again tomorrow, with no more control than you had today, in order to make the best decisions possible and to be able to do it again (and again and again), you have to rationalize and try to limit the reactionary emotions because they will only make your anxiety worse, and because you have to try to instead re-direct that emotion into making the best decisions possible with regard to your LO's care. Not having to relinquish control changes that dynamic considerably. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953796 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 16:43:19 +0000 sorrycharlie 953796@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsmate: I have to agree with you.</p> <p>I would sleep on it like @mediagirl suggested and talk to the teachers/director tomorrow to find out if they know what happened. I feel for ya though! I hate when anything hurts LO, I"m trying to accept that I can't keep her in a bubble but it's hard! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953772 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 16:34:02 +0000 mrsmate 953772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: ok, why'd you have to go there? I'm a SAHM who knows that biting is normal (though not desirable) behavior in babies and toddlers. I think you'd get the full range of reactions from both SAHPs and WOHPs. Actually, poll any random 100 people on the street and I think some would be outraged and some would say, whatevs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953663 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 15:58:29 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 953663@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO got bitten in the face too! The most frustrating thing was when I asked daycare nobody saw it when it happened so they didn't know who did it. I had to just let it go, but it bothered me for awhile until the bite mark finally disappeared. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953660 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 15:56:13 +0000 googly-eyes 953660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not having seen the bite, I'd say being livid is an overreaction. I would rather talk to the teachers than the director personally, to find out their ideas on dealing with this because it is developmental and likely they have dealt with it before. If I was not satisfied with their answer, then I'd go to the director or maybe even think about finding another program for my child. </p> <p>That said I do think there are opportunities lost when a teacher spends all their time avoiding any accidents and confrontations. Yes they can control the environment and yes they should watch the children as best they can but as long as they making an ongoing effort to address the situation, I would try to comfort my child extra and let it go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953634 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 15:46:26 +0000 Freckles 953634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: When LO was around 12 months, I noticed that LO's fingers had bite marks on them. It turns out this one girl had bitten LO. I was really upset, and brought it up with the caregiver, who didn't know how she got the bite marks. The next day, she observed that my LO had put her fingers in the girl's mouth, prompting another bite on her hands! I'm not saying that it was your girl's fault, but i'd definitely find out what may have caused/prompted it or if it's a situation where this baby is a repeat biter. </p> <p>I'm sure it looks worse than it really is, and that your babe is a strong one! Hope she gets lots of hugs and kisses when you see her. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953610 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 15:40:04 +0000 littlek 953610@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: well put! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953604 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 15:39:23 +0000 littlek 953604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mewtill: correct. They can not tell you who bit or was bitten. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953537 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 15:17:54 +0000 Mrsbells 953537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: yeah I hope she doesnt start biting other kids now<br /> @littleveesmommy: thanks for that good advice<br /> @TemperanceBrennan: wow that is crazy!<br /> @mewtill: they tell me she is okay and that it didnt break the skin, but kids's teeth can be so sharp.<br /> @MungBean: Yes I have mixed emotions I feel angry and sad for her but I'm also trying to be calm about it<br /> @littlek: thanks for that... :happy:<br /> @BabyBoecksMom: yeah I wish I could leave work early but I cant, I told DH and he may be able to </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953449 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 15:01:33 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 953449@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MungBean: the problem is most toddler biting incidents aren't avoidable, because they aren't malicious. I've had a toddler bite another toddler who was in my lap - they were playing and it happened before I knew it. If a child hasn't bit before, there's not much you can do. It's definitely worth the OP investigated to make sure A) kids are being left unsupervised &amp; B) it's not a repeat offender who needs a preventative plan. Biting is something that's part of the daycare "cons" list, up there with getting sick a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953438 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:58:52 +0000 MsLipGloss 953438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think extreme(ish) reactions usually come from those who stay home with their LOs and/or who don't have to relinquish control . . . it is really difficult to understand having to deal with not only the guilt of leaving your LO, but also that you weren't able to do/not do something for them that may have helped prevent an incident. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953436 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:58:01 +0000 lisa1783 953436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a parent of a biter, I feel awful about it every time it happens. But sometimes it's just a phase they go through. They've segregated my baby and tried to keep him from getting too close to the other babies and they've given him toys. I wouldn't like it if it was my child being bitten but at least now I have perspective on the other side. He's not doing it to be mean or to hurt other people, he bites sometimes to show affection - similar to how a puppy nips.</p> <p>I'm not sure what other moms would want done - just ban the biter? I'm sure most of us have experienced a ton of instances where you just can't control your child's behavior no matter what you do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953432 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:57:00 +0000 regberadaisy 953432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mewtill: I think other moms on here of LO's whom have gotten bitten said their daycare was able to at least confirm whether the biter was a repeat offender. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953423 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:55:48 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 953423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: I don't think they'll tell you who the biter was. It's always been my understanding that its against privacy rules &amp; I've never disclosed names of children involved in incidents. You should mention your concern that it might be the same child, but I don't know if they can even confirm that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953401 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:51:11 +0000 pinkcupcake 953401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Navy_Mommy: I would like to know what will be done to avoid this in the future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953399 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:50:51 +0000 regberadaisy 953399@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @mediagirl: suggestion!!!</p> <p>LO has bitten me a few times and I get really nervous now about "play" biting her. And wince a lot when MIL plays "bite your piggies". I keep thinking any day we'll get a call that LO bit someone at daycare! :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953393 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:49:49 +0000 Navy_Mommy 953393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MungBean: what would you be satisfied with the director doing? That's what I don't understand. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953391 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:49:39 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 953391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree that I would sleep on it and approach the situation as reasonably as possible. Obviously the daycare needs to try as much as possible to prevent it, but I do agree with other posters that toddlers do often go through a biting phase. LO had a short one himself and once bit a friend's child. And I was *so so* mortified! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953385 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:48:28 +0000 pinkcupcake 953385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: I never said anyone was a "mean baby"</p> <p>@looch: no matter the circumstances, I would be angry and upset that my child was bitten on the face. That's just how I would feel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953369 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:45:55 +0000 Navy_Mommy 953369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know that I would do anything... biting, although upsetting, is pretty normal for small children. If it became a regular thing iwould want the kids separated but a one time offense? I wouldn't let it bug me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953353 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:43:49 +0000 littlek 953353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MungBean: Biting is developmental. It does not mean the biter was a "mean baby." Toddlers learn by mouthing things. They do not bite to be mean or viscious. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953342 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:42:57 +0000 Mrsbells 953342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Espion: Yes by another kid. they are all undr 18 months in that class. LO is 15 months now.</p> <p>@mediagirl: Yes she is okay they say. they put ice on her face and the mark is pretty much all gone now but a bit of red bump left. Yeah I will definitely ask which child did it, because a few weeks ago another child got bitten so if its the same child then that is a problem.<br /> @LulaBee: wow sorry about. 6 bites! that is crazy </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953338 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:42:03 +0000 littlek 953338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As the parent of a biter, I can tell you it's the worst feeling, especially when you aren't there to control the situation. My LO shows NO signs of biting at home and around me. We have tried several things to stop the biting, it's inconsistent one bite every other week, so a total of 5 bites in two months. It really is developmental. I'm so sorry your daughter got bit, I just wanted to tell you what it's like from the other side. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-got-bitten-on-the-face-wwyd#post-953306 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 14:35:23 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 953306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry to hear that :-( I agree w/ @mediagirl. I would sleep on it tonight and then talk to the director. Go give that baby some cuddles! </p>