https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 24 May 2026 00:28:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-hitting-sibling#post-2023995 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 17:22:50 +0000 Chuckles 2023995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: Hopefully you can do something similar and it works for your LO. It's just like the blog post on behavior today - usually hitting is just a sign that kids don't have the communication skills yet (and aren't quite there with impulse control) to do something more appropriate when they are upset </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-hitting-sibling#post-2023986 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 17:20:09 +0000 swurlygurl 2023986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Chuckles: I think that's great advice - give them something to do instead!</p> <p>L has started 'hitting' recently (not quite hitting, but I know that's her intent and it will get there quickly), and telling her 'no'/timeouts/redirecting her hasn't curbed it at all. I think she needs me to give her an acceptable outlet so she knows how to handle her frustration. I can't really think of anything I find acceptable though... haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-hitting-sibling#post-2023976 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 17:12:41 +0000 Chuckles 2023976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How old is LO1? I would suggest thinking of some behavior she can do or say (e.g., "I'm mad" or "stomp your feet") when she is starting to feel upset. That way, when you have to stop her from doing something or she isn't getting what she wants, you can be proactive and prompt her to say or do the new behavior to get out her frustration before she has an opportunity to hit. And you can practice it when she isn't upset. Something like, "It's hard when LO2 takes the toy you were playing with. That makes you feel mad, but hitting is not okay. When that happens, you can stomp your feet instead to show us you feel mad. Let's practice together." Hope this helps! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-hitting-sibling#post-2023920 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 16:38:15 +0000 lemondrop 2023920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My SIL's suggestion was to put feelings with the action, "It makes mommy/baby/daddy/etc sad when you do x, y, or z behaviors. The problem is we haven't really covered happy, sad, etc so we are working on it :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-hitting-sibling#post-2023636 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 13:57:29 +0000 prettylizy 2023636@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've found that reading books about bad behaviors helps, and making up a Daniel Tiger style song to remind her not to do it makes a big difference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-hitting-sibling#post-2023630 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 13:54:49 +0000 skipra 2023630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO1 went through a hitting phase soon after LO2 was born. Similar to what it sounds like you're dealing with, worst when he is tired. We did time outs and made a big deal about holding the baby and asking if he was ok, giving kisses, etc. the making LO1 give apology hug and kiss. When he was particularly bad he got sent to bed for a little while. Just a time out in his room usually but sometimes an early nap. He has since outgrown that and moved on to taking away or throwing toys. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-hitting-sibling#post-2023584 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 13:35:49 +0000 Rubies 2023584@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hitting is a very big no-no in our house. LO1 gets a very firm timeout plus a confiscation of a prized possession. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-hitting-sibling#post-2023572 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 13:31:11 +0000 autumnlove 2023572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO 1 shoved her sister the other day when they were fighting over a shopping cart. I took her aside and made her sit on the couch, calm down and say sorry. :-(</p> <p>Following! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-hitting-sibling#post-2023567 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 13:27:23 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2023567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have an issue with LO hitting only me (never DH). We're doing our best to hold his arms when he does it and tell him that it hurts Mommy and gives her a boo boo. He's quick to say he's sorry, but he does it again. I try to stay as calm as I can and let him know that Mommy doesn't hit him, and he shouldn't hit anyone. I think he's starting to get it. He really only does it when he's really frustrated or when I won't let him do something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-hitting-sibling#post-2023558 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 13:21:47 +0000 Mommy Finger 2023558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have the same issue with DS hitting when he gets frustrated. The problem is that time outs don't work for him. He thinks they're sort of fun so I'm at a complete loss as to how to deal with it. We tell him no and read the "hands are not for hitting" book a lot. He knows better but still isn't to the point where he can or will communicate what's wrong before we get to the hitting stage. I can only imagine what's going to happen with DS2 comes along. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-hitting-sibling#post-2023550 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 13:13:42 +0000 Bao 2023550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm glad I'm not the only one dealing with this, but man this is a hard one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-hitting-sibling#post-2023547 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 13:10:43 +0000 Raindrop 2023547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bumping and following.</p> <p>LO tries to hit us when he's frusterated too. It is more like he puts his arms up in the arm and brings them down really fast over and over again while he is near us or tries to get near us. We usually hold his arms down and say we don't hit or try to hit and give him a time out and usually try to get him to talk it out. He is good at talking but when he's like this he talking ability goes out the window and he just gunts at us. (edit : he is almost 3 right now and I should be giving birth in a few weeks)</p> <p>So I can see him doing that to the new baby too. </p> <p>I'm not sure if it's right or if it will work. I guess our plan is just to do about the same thing... hold down his hands, tell him it's not okay, give him a time out and when he settles down have him say sorry to the little one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-hitting-sibling#post-2023544 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 13:08:42 +0000 lemondrop 2023544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are dealing with the same thing with our 3 year old. :bummed: we started time outs and taking away the toy that he plays with during the hitting issue so he can start learning consequences. </p> <p>He has to stay in time out until he apologizes, "I'm sorry baby" and pat the baby on the head (he's still kind of afraid of him, so we haven't been making him hug). I'm also trying to teach him to call me or move (up on the couch) when the baby bothers him. </p> <p>I'd love to hear more from others though, it hasn't been working too well so far. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-hitting-sibling#post-2023462 Wed, 14 Jan 2015 12:29:36 +0000 Bao 2023462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have been struggling with LO1 (two) hitting her little sister when she becomes frustrated with something LO does or something we aren't letting her do and she takes it out on her sister. DH and I usually firmly tell her that is not ok and put her directly in a time out. We make her apologize and give her sister a hug afterwards. I'm not really sure this is working because she still does it a few times a week. A lot more often when she is tired or not getting what she wants, which is toddler behavior but not ok. </p> <p>For those of you who have dealt with hitting, what is your best advice for handling it? Is it something we will just have to deal with because of her age or is there a way we can fix this issue? </p>