https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 27 May 2026 17:07:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-thrilled-to-have-a-sibling-but-not-happy-with-me#post-2510380 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 11:41:04 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2510380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Janet lansbury has lots of articles about this. Lots of big feelings...and they take it out on us because we are their safe place. Embrace the feelings and love them through it...it will get better! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-thrilled-to-have-a-sibling-but-not-happy-with-me#post-2510376 Wed, 30 Mar 2016 11:37:29 +0000 fussygal 2510376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks everyone! Makes me feel better to hear that others have had similar situations. Sometimes it seems like you only hear about the kid acting out toward the new baby! Luckily yesterday and today (so far) seem to be going much better!</p> <p>@hilsy85: I'll have to go back and look at some Janet Lansbury stuff again! </p> <p>@JoyfulKiwi: Thanks for the link!</p> <p>@lilteacherbee: Thanks! :) That sounds similar to our situation. She never really acted out before so this was kind of new territory for us to navigate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-thrilled-to-have-a-sibling-but-not-happy-with-me#post-2509741 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 14:52:12 +0000 lilteacherbee 2509741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, we went through the same thing. LO1 was a few days shy of 21 months when we brought LO2 home. The first 3 or so weeks were awful. He didn't act out toward the baby, but he refused to be around me and threw massive tantrums (when before baby, he rarely acted out). It broke my heart and I honestly felt like I had ruined his life. BUT after those 3 weeks, he adjusted and his behavior went back to normal (or close to it). Hugs!! It will get better :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-thrilled-to-have-a-sibling-but-not-happy-with-me#post-2509711 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 14:31:56 +0000 Cherrybee 2509711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoyfulKiwi: Thank you for this article. Its just what I needed. I'm so worried about the effect our new addition will have on E. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-thrilled-to-have-a-sibling-but-not-happy-with-me#post-2509693 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 14:14:30 +0000 Adira 2509693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unfortunately, this is soooooo normal! Xander was only 21 months when we brought Logan home, but he definitely started acting out and tantruming and hitting us more. It sucked. Luckily, it seemed to only last about 6 weeks and then things got better.</p> <p>Hugs to you, Mama! This is a challenging time for everyone! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-thrilled-to-have-a-sibling-but-not-happy-with-me#post-2509688 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 14:03:17 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2509688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep. DD is 11 weeks and our son (3 years old) went through a really aggressive phase with my husband. We tried to track when he was most upset/physical &amp; we think he was angry that my husband gave our daughter a lot of attention during the time they used to play together (after work/before dinner). It got a lot better when my husband started playing with DS first for 10-15 minutes before tending to the baby. He also does the whole bedtime routine now and I think that helped too. I read this article and it helped me during that time to understand why he was acting that way (the situations are different but the advice fit for us) <a href="http://www.ahaparenting.com/ask-the-doctor-1/preschooler-jealous-of-baby-developing-attitude" rel="nofollow">http://www.ahaparenting.com/ask-the-doctor-1/preschooler-jealous-of-baby-developing-attitude</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-thrilled-to-have-a-sibling-but-not-happy-with-me#post-2509143 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 08:37:01 +0000 hilsy85 2509143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had this exact issue. LO never acted out toward the baby but was SO angry with me and DH. We tried a bunch of things, but Janet Lansbury was very helpful--finally, we just let him "feel his feelings"--there was a lot of reflecting his anger back to him during tantrums--"it's okay to be angry. We can see you're really upset. We love you all the time, even when you're angry." It took 2-3 weeks, but then things got better. It was really hard to feel like he was just so mad at us for changing his whole world :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-thrilled-to-have-a-sibling-but-not-happy-with-me#post-2509070 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 07:29:06 +0000 Foodnerd81 2509070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everyone warned me about this before G was born, but we have had the opposite- she would only let me do things and wanted to be on me 24/7, and would tantrum anytime Dh tried to do things. But she's always been in love with the baby so I guess if she's going to act out better to do it towards us? It's been really rough and i am just starting to feel like we are turning a corner- baby is 3.5 months now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-thrilled-to-have-a-sibling-but-not-happy-with-me#post-2509062 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 07:20:56 +0000 travellingbee 2509062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. He never acted out towards baby but there were a few weeks of tantrums towards me and dad </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-thrilled-to-have-a-sibling-but-not-happy-with-me#post-2509008 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 04:06:03 +0000 Kemma 2509008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, it's pretty sucky for awhile by it does get better! Give yourself some time and grace to find your new normal and hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lo-thrilled-to-have-a-sibling-but-not-happy-with-me#post-2508991 Tue, 29 Mar 2016 00:47:30 +0000 fussygal 2508991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS in nine days old and DD (2 yrs,) absolutely ADORES him and loves being a big sister. So far we haven't had any problems with her acting out towards him, if anything she wants to love on him too much! However, she seems less than thrilled with ME since we brought him home and is indirectly acting out (more tantrums, biting me?!, etc.). I've been making room for one-on-one time with her at least a few times a day, but I still feel like I'm getting the cold shoulder from her sometimes. I'm trying to think of it as just a phase and I realize we need to find a new rhythm, but in the meantime it's breaking my heart. :sad:</p> <p>Anyone else go through a similar situation and if so, any advice? </p>