https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 21:50:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028716 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 18:46:59 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2028716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@photojane: thank god for hellobee! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028715 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 18:46:31 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2028715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@rachiecakes: that's hard. As we look to when my maternity leave ending in May, I know it would be better if he could switch to am shift and then we would need no childcare. But I don't think it's totally worth saving the money! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028713 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 18:44:45 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2028713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HTownMom: thanks a lot!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028712 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 18:44:22 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2028712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMccarthy: thank you!!! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028711 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 18:43:33 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2028711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Deer: I can't imagine with a husband deployed! See I feel so lucky to have the mornings together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028708 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 18:41:35 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2028708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Seattlemom: lol good idea! This girl for sure has no idea about being a mom, she's very supportive but it kind of feels like we are on different planets at times! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028707 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 18:40:26 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2028707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@jedeve: I am trying to learn to just expect that I'll be stuck on the couch cluster feeding and definitely make good use of netflix! And my cluster feeding finally paid off last night with a 4.5h stretch of sleep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028706 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 18:38:31 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2028706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsScottish: all good advice! I think looking at different activities and moms groups and other stuff I plan to try when he gets a bit bigger is totally helping. And getting out for a walk every afternoon. Thanks for the support! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028702 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 18:36:11 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2028702@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Little Misters Mom: I totally agree, one of my friends said with her second child she tried to just embrace the lazy movie watching book reading awake time as almost a vacation. As I learn his schedule and he gets into some what of a routine, I am figuring out what times to try and put him down to get stuff done and what times to just embrace the cuddle nursing marathon. I honestly love that part, but it's so helpful to hear from all these other moms who have felt the same overwhlrmed lonely evening feeling! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028477 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 12:35:22 +0000 Little Misters Mom 2028477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The evenings were so hard at that point. Hormonally, I think something happened as the sun set and I thought about facing another night of waking up. That started leveling off for me around 4 weeks, and by 6 or 7 I felt more like myself. Make sure you're taking a little time for yourself while your husband is home in the mornings. Pumping a bottle for DH to feed in the mornings (and allow me an extra few hours to snooze) was huge. Even just taking a shower. As for the evenings, I binge watched a ton of bad TV. I found getting into a show on netflix helped pass the hours of nursing and naps. Also, it's ok to feel a little bit like you're just surviving. Yes, they are teeny and you're grateful for each moment. But it's so so tough and can be isolating and lonely. I've started to be a lot better with setting boundaries with people. Tell your friend "I would love to see you, I'm dying to catch up and have adult time, but you have to promise you'll force me to go to bed by 9:30." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028462 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 12:01:08 +0000 MrsScottish 2028462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Understand your pain! Dd is 11 weeks old. I am on mat leave ( in Canada) and DH started a new job 3 weeks before Dd was born. He works 12 hour on call shifts so is gone all the time. Working 60+ hours a week. I am alone a lot. Now that she is a bit older I can go out, we have been going to some mom and baby fitness classes but by far the evenings are the worst. I am tired, and lonely and just want someone around. I have found with me a lot of the times when I am loosing it, if I take even 5 minutes to do something small for me- feel human- make something to eat besides toast or a salad that can be eaten fast and one handed, take a shower, put nice clothes on and not yoga pants and a tank top etc, I feel a bit better.<br /> DH has been working the last 3 days 10 am-10 pm, so I maybe see him an hour in the morning before he leaves to commute to work, and am asleep when he gets home. He works today and tomorrow then is off Monday and Tuesday. It's my small light at the end of the tunnel. </p> <p>Find something small to do for yourself!! Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028425 Sat, 17 Jan 2015 11:19:43 +0000 jedeve 2028425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry! Just wanted to let you know it's completely normal that evenings are tough. Little babies who don't know morning from night still somehow all know to cry in the evenings. Or to clusterfeed! It is a tough time to be alone. It's not just you!</p> <p>Are you getting enough sleep? Does your DH let you sleep in in the mornings? That will help you get through. </p> <p>In the meantime, do what it takes. Drive thru fast food, letting baby nap on you while you binge on Netflix - some of the best parts of having a newborn, haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028191 Fri, 16 Jan 2015 22:42:00 +0000 lady grey 2028191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@junebugsmama: Keep inviting friends over but be very clear ahead of time about what time you need to go to bed! </p> <p>I'm guessing your friend doesnt have kids? One of my besties (with no children) came to see me one day when my son was a few weeks old and she started asking for food...I was like, what! you didn't bring me anything?! of course I'd give her whatever she wanted but its funny how people can just be kind of clueless, especially during that difficult newborn time </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028173 Fri, 16 Jan 2015 22:16:29 +0000 FaithFertility 2028173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ughhh I can imagine...</p> <p>I am dreading my DH going back to work :( he works 7pm-7am... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028168 Fri, 16 Jan 2015 22:10:44 +0000 Mrs. Deer 2028168@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@junebugsmama: I'm so sorry, I know it's tough! My husband deployed when my first daughter was two weeks old and evenings by myself were the hardest (he's currently on duty today/tonight so solo parenting as well!). Hopefully as your babe gets older and you get into a nightly routine things will feel a bit easier. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028160 Fri, 16 Jan 2015 22:01:55 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2028160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks guys!</p> <p>He was home for a week and I really wanted him to take more time off. Even though it would be unpaid. My mom is working and we'd really butt heads if she were here but I still wish she were! Actually what I really wish was that my sisters didn't both live out of state. The timing was hard, cause they both got to see us for just a little bit over Christmas break after he was born dec 28. </p> <p>I am just trying to enjoy my time with my little guy while he's so tiny and precious. And not yell at the dogs all day! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028158 Fri, 16 Jan 2015 22:01:11 +0000 photojane 2028158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm a SAHM, and my husband works 1-9:30 too. It's so hard. I completely understand. I wish I had some helpful advice... just here to commiserate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028152 Fri, 16 Jan 2015 21:57:48 +0000 rachiecakes 2028152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband works a similar schedule and I work 8-4:30. We never see eachother during the week. Oct-Apr he works nights too... it's a loooong winter.<br /> No advice, but I can relate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028149 Fri, 16 Jan 2015 21:55:18 +0000 HTownMom 2028149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! You will get thru it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028142 Fri, 16 Jan 2015 21:47:30 +0000 Mae 2028142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had my husband home with me for two weeks, and then I was too scared to be alone so I had my mom come stay with me for a week, and the day she left there was about 2 hours until my husband would be home... and I cried. Newborn life is HARD. </p> <p>No advice. Just assurance you'll get through and life will start to feel normal again someday &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028136 Fri, 16 Jan 2015 21:44:35 +0000 MrsMccarthy 2028136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww just want to send you a hug. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/lonely-evenings#post-2028133 Fri, 16 Jan 2015 21:42:40 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2028133@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just kind of a vent, I am on maternity leave with my 3 week old, and I love it! However... My SO works 1-930 pm, and I normally loved his schedule cause I work PM shift at a hospital, 3-11pm, and so we had our mornings together. But now that I am on maternity leave, it stinks! I find the evenings hard with my son, I get really lonely, and most overwhelmed around that time. It's definitely getting better as my hormones seem to be leveling out a little bit (i.e. my "cry button" is MUCH harder to press thank god!) but I think it will also get a bit harder as I get more stir-crazy. I guess I need to encourage more friends to come over for dinner (bring me dinner!). The other day a girlfriend did bring me dinner but she stayed later than I would have liked and I started to feel panicked about getting to sleep! </p> <p>Anyways, this is just a long vent. Thanks for letting me blab a bit! </p>