https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Apr 2026 23:03:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/long-term-birth-control#post-2928351 Mon, 28 Aug 2023 13:02:25 +0000 Bluemasonjar 2928351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>During my last pregnancy I was having a planned c-section and after telling my OBGYN this was our last kid he suggested a tubal but DH was surprisingly not on board. He felt that I have done enough so he offered to get a. vasectomy. Unfortunately he had a complication (they cut the wrong thing) and had to go back for a second time but after that it was smooth sailing. </p> <p>My periods have also gotten much heavier but my OBGYN doesn't want me to go back on the pill and I don't want an IUD so just living with it. </p> <p>@alphagam84: I agree with everything you said! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/long-term-birth-control#post-2928350 Mon, 28 Aug 2023 12:28:32 +0000 alphagam84 2928350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband had one as soon as we were done having kids. We are the ones who are pregnant for months on end and give birth...he can handle five minutes of discomfort. Tell him to man up and get it done. I'm sick of periods tbh but I don't want to go on hormonal bc again (risk of issues since over 35) and I refuse to get an IUD. Too many horror stories of them migrating and just the pain of insertion alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/long-term-birth-control#post-2928349 Fri, 25 Aug 2023 12:21:55 +0000 karenbme 2928349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’ve never tolerated birth control well, I have migraines and they get much worse with any kind of hormonal birth control. We’re 9 months out from the birth of our second and last baby, and have agreed on a vasectomy. But DH has not made any appointments yet 🙄. I think I might have to do it for him as others have said. Periods suck, but not as much as chronic migraines 😅. I also have a strong family history of cancer on both sides so different gyns would only ever prescribe me mini pills (not sure what made them mini) because of breast/ovarian cancer risks, but that was also 10+ years ago so info may have changed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/long-term-birth-control#post-2928348 Fri, 25 Aug 2023 11:54:49 +0000 LadyDi 2928348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a tubal done during my last csection, it did not impact my recovery at all (I had three c sections so I knew what to expect). I would not have done that if I wasn't already open though, if I had vaginal births my husband would have gotten a vasectomy. I feel the same as @erinbaderin. I grew and got three humans out of my body, so I think the men can take an afternoon of discomfort. </p> <p>That being said I hate having regular periods! They are much heavier now that I am older and just linger for so long. I've considered going back on an IUD just so I don't have to deal with it (I had mirena for years before I got pregnant and had no issues) but I'm hesitant to put hormones or a device back in my body when I don't really have a need to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/long-term-birth-control#post-2928347 Thu, 24 Aug 2023 14:26:31 +0000 JJ2626 2928347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: hahah your last sentence made me lol. I totally agree! </p> <p>I’m only 99% sure we are done but once I am, my hubs will be getting a vasectomy. But for now, I’m good with the pill and it has benefits for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/long-term-birth-control#post-2928346 Thu, 24 Aug 2023 12:01:11 +0000 Lahela017 2928346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: I totally agree with this.</p> <p>My husband will be getting a vasectomy soon. My youngest just turned one, and DH is just waiting on my to tell him I'm for sure done with kids. He had his intro appointment though, and he's on board. I currently have a IUD, but will have it removed when the time is right and probably not do anything else afterwards. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/long-term-birth-control#post-2928344 Thu, 24 Aug 2023 09:43:34 +0000 MACSUNSHINE 2928344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My ob recommended a tubal sterilization, it does reduce ovarian cancer I think he said. I am currently pregnant and if I have a c-section I will have it done but only if I am open from the c-section. My primary care said it is more invasive, longer recovery vs the vasectomy and the reduction of risk may not be worth it. This is all different for everyone and risks etc.</p> <p>I just emailed to get a vasectomy referral for my husband to get that ball rolling. If you are on Instagram, there is an obgyn that has posted a few reels on the topic: biglovefiercejuju. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/long-term-birth-control#post-2928343 Thu, 24 Aug 2023 08:31:50 +0000 erinbaderin 2928343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband got a vasectomy, and it was seriously a non-issue - they have an almost completely non-invasive method, they gave him, like, two advil and a xanax for the anxiety, and then sent him home with two more advil for "pain management". It was easy, quick, and like a previous poster said, done right in the office, not in a hospital. No offence to any husbands but I have very little patience for men who balk at doing this, after everything women go through. I'm sorry, I grew some amount of humans inside my body and then got it outside my body either through a phenomenal feat of endurance or a major surgery, and you're hesitating about a minor in-office procedure? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/long-term-birth-control#post-2928342 Thu, 24 Aug 2023 08:02:03 +0000 josina 2928342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JJ2626: I did some more googling yesterday and that's what I found also, that BC can prevent certain kinds of cancer, so I'm not sure which cancer my OB was referring to (she did say she had breast cancer and that was an issue for her). </p> <p>She did say I don't have any risk factors so I think I'm just going to stay on Nuvaring for at least a few more years, but its definitely something to be aware of.</p> <p>@julie31: DH has at least been talking with some of his friends about it, and MOST of the couples we know, the guy has gotten a vasectomy, so hopefully he'll come around. I just don't want to force it on him.</p> <p>@Chuckles: Agreed, its definitely tricky and a very risk vs reward thing to look at. My OB also didn't bring it up, I did, which I feel like should be something she should mention, although to be fair I'm not 40 'yet', so maybe next year she would've. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/long-term-birth-control#post-2928341 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 23:24:17 +0000 JJ2626 2928341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don’t know what “feed the cancer” means. I’m 40 and on hormonal birth control pills and my OB told me (and I’ve confirmed through research) that they are actually protective against cancer. They also help with symptoms of peri-menopause. So I’m likely going to stay on the pill. I haven’t had any negative side effects (have been on for over 20) and I love that I barely get my period. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/long-term-birth-control#post-2928340 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 22:55:30 +0000 julie31 2928340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH got a vasectomy a year after the birth of our last baby. It was such a quick procedure, in the doctor’s office (not hospital). At the time, I got the name of his doctor from my ob-gyn who said wives were usually the ones making it happen ;-)<br /> We are both super happy he pulled the trigger - nothing changed for him and I don’t have to worry about birth control. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/long-term-birth-control#post-2928339 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 18:37:58 +0000 Chuckles 2928339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@josina: It's a tricky time to figure out. I'm 43 and we've been done for a few years. My family has a strong history of stroke and heart attack, so I don't want to go back on hormonal birth control. I had assumed that DH would have a vasectomy, and he was sort of open to it, but now he's basically refusing by doing nothing about it. I also don't want an IUD because of the horror stories. For now we're using condoms unless I've just very recently finished my period, and then nothing. It's not ideal, especially since menopause could still be years ago, but it's working for now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/long-term-birth-control#post-2928337 Wed, 23 Aug 2023 13:26:30 +0000 josina 2928337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I are done having kids, and I'll be 40 next year so starting to think long term...</p> <p>I've been on the Nuvaring since I was 20 and honestly love it, and would happily keep taking it forever - but my Dr mentioned that the estrogen 'feeds' cancer if I were to ever get it. It also has increased risks of blood clots, heart attacks, etc. after 35. I haven't had any issues, yet.</p> <p>DH isn't keen to get snipped, but I just said it was something to look into. Honestly though the idea of having regular periods again is not something I want to do. He feels like he'd get snipped and then I'd get sick of periods and get back on BC anyways.</p> <p>I'm scared of an IUD after reading too many horror stories of them migrating, and seems like it'd be the same problem with estrogen, unless I get the copper IUD which has an even higher chance of migrating.</p> <p>Any thoughts on any of the above? Anyone just plan to stay on b/c until menopause? Other suggestions? </p>