https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 22 May 2026 07:19:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/long-term-cosleepers-tell-me-about-intimacy#post-705961 Wed, 10 Apr 2013 16:19:02 +0000 runsyellowlites 705961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just found the couch... which we're both fine with. About once every 1.5-2 months P would stay over night at grandma's so we got bed time then. Once we get a new bed then we should be able to quietly resume fun time in our own bed since we use white noise (well ocean waves) to drown out noise for her anyways, our current mattress squeaks if you just look at it so yea.. not happenin'. lol</p> <p>We've been co-sleeping &amp; co-bedding for a year and haven't had any negative repercussions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/long-term-cosleepers-tell-me-about-intimacy#post-705958 Wed, 10 Apr 2013 16:15:09 +0000 sarac 705958@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was a full time room sharing/bed sharing cosleeper until my baby was 8 months, at which point she got moved to her nursery. We did this to try to improve her sleep, and because I wanted to reclaim my adult space back. I am curious about the experience of other long term cosleepers, especially bedsharers. How do you find the space to maintain intimacy (sexual and non) with your partner? Do you feel like cosleeping has impacted that negatively? </p> <p>I wonder about long term bed sharing, because in my personal life, I've seen it contribute to some really negative marital outcomes. I know that a lot of people do it, though, and most of you must be happy, right? So I'm really curious about your experiences - the positives, negatives, etc. How you make it work. </p> <p>My own answer is that we did what most cosleepers did, and just found another space for sex. I hated that - it felt like the sneaking around I did in high school, which I never cared for. But what I really couldn't stand was the loss of just the quiet time together in bed before we fell asleep. That was an absolute dealbreaker for me. I'm a SAHM, so I always feel like my needs are filtered through hers, and never come first. At the end of the day, I wanted my own space, at least to sleep, where my needs were the absolute. </p> <p>How do you make this work for you? </p>