https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 00:16:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2810100 Thu, 15 Mar 2018 13:55:22 +0000 Mrs. Twine 2810100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I support snuggles. All day.</p> <p>I still lay with Lorelei until she falls asleep. She's six next week. I stopped with Ellie when she was five. She's also way less into being all up in other people's space, so she was ready. I don't like sleeping all by myself, so I feel sympathetic. I think it's like most stuff-- find what works for you and your family. But probably if it works for you and your kid, your significant other might not be on board. :silly: I just try to communicate regularly so we can compromise if either of us have strong feelings. So far he sees that it didn't hurt our oldest's independence, and he doesn't really care too much (though I suspect he'd have Lorelei falling asleep on her own already if it was just them). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2810094 Thu, 15 Mar 2018 13:28:44 +0000 themrsgoff 2810094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO is 17 mos and though I don't lay with him, on seldom occasion I let him nurse to sleep. I don't mind the snuggles, but he's not much for cuddling unless he's bone tired. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2810056 Thu, 15 Mar 2018 10:11:23 +0000 BlueWolverine 2810056@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to with older DD (now 5) before she started sharing a room with DD2 (almost 2). Even then, I would lay with her for a bit, but I wouldn't always stay until she was asleep (usually only if I fell asleep first :-) Now, if I try to lay down with DD1, DD2 will freak out. She doesn't freak out if I put her in her crib and leave. Kind of sucks for DD1, but she wants to share a room with DD2, so it's the price we pay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2810049 Thu, 15 Mar 2018 09:43:25 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2810049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do! Like you, we had to stop around 3 because he was taking too long to fall asleep, and that was creating a bad habit. At that time, we would lay with him for 5-10 minutes, and tell him that was our max, and leave. </p> <p>He's 5.5 now and swims, plays baseball, and runs with me. So, he's EXHAUSTED every night. One of us will lay with him for 5 minutes, and he's out like a light. </p> <p>DS2 is 2.5, and he wants to jabber as you rock with him for a bit. So that's our new routine. He tells us about his day, and then we tell him it's time to go to sleep. We'll lay him in his crib (yes...I'm keeping him in his crib as long as possible), and he'll talk to us as we're leaving, then say goodnight as we're at the door. He falls asleep rather quickly these days too. If he had a longer nap at school, he'll sing to himself and then go to sleep after about a half hour. </p> <p>But...you're right. They're not going to want you forever. And at 4, she's past the stage of needing you there to fall asleep. I think she'll be fine! DH sounds like he was just mad that he had to get the baby :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2810002 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 23:24:53 +0000 Dahlia 2810002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH lays on DD's floor until she falls asleep every night. When he's out of town and I have to do bedtime, I don't have the patience for it so I use the "I have to get water" excuse to leave and only come back if she starts freaking out. Most of the time I'm not actually in there when she falls asleep. </p> <p>I'd love to cuddle her to sleep/co-sleep, but I don't think she would actually go down, and I don't want to have to do it every night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2810001 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 23:22:31 +0000 travellingbee 2810001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We lay with both. One of us with the 2yo and the other with the 5yo. :silly: I’d love to just say”goodnight” and leave but it’s never happened so... oh well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809980 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 21:02:47 +0000 MamaG 2809980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In our house it’s both of us. We divide and conquer and most nights DH snuggles with our 6.5 year old. It might be 5 minutes or he might fall asleep and come out an hour later. There are also nights he doesn’t. I take the 3.3 year old. She still likes to be rocked. We rock and sing and she goes to bed. We don’t make it the goal to stay with them til they are asleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809964 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 19:00:49 +0000 Silva 2809964@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>sometimes. if i don't feel like it i usually just say "i will come check on you in 10 minutes" and she's asleep by the time i come back.</p> <p>our struggle is her middle of the night waking. Co-sleeping doesn't work, and if she doesn't fall back asleep right away she turns her light on and starts reading in bed. she was up from 2:30-4:30 last night reading (we had put her back to bed at 2:30 and we had no idea until she came into our room at 4:30 that she hadn't fallen back asleep) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809945 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 16:55:22 +0000 oskarsmommy 2809945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep - every night. He is 4. I work from home a lot at nights and my computer is in my bedroom. But the nights I do t have to work, I just bring him in my bed. Feom about 1.5- 3 he was a great sleeper. Now he needs us. We did sticker charts, night lights, treats in the morning - all the things. But they dont replace us. We are in a sweet spot. He can fall asleep alone, and some noghts we ask him to, but he never makes is more then2 days before asking for a cuddle. So sometimes if we have lots to do we say we cant, and he is okay because he trusts us and k ows that he will get it again, when we have the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809944 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 16:43:00 +0000 kiddosc 2809944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We lay with our 5 year old just long enough to sing two songs to him and then peace out. We never co-slept because my husband was terrified of smothering the baby, we never let the toddlers in our bed because they take up too much room and we wouldn't get any sleep, I don't lay with my preschooler because it's the only time of day I get to my own activities. That's what works for our family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809940 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 16:30:01 +0000 MrsBucky 2809940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly I say do whatever works for your family! I don’t think that would work for me, but that doesn’t me it’s wrong for you! It sounds like you DH has big feelings about it, so I’d want to talk through that and get to a place where it works for him too, or I’d reconsider, unless it usually doesn’t impact him. I’d also worry about my ability to support that/ manage it with two but I also strongly believe in crossing bridges when you come to them so 🤷‍♀️. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809939 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 16:20:43 +0000 LCTBQE 2809939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha, I wish! My kid is so not snuggly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809914 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 14:32:49 +0000 HappyBaker 2809914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh man this was totally me until super recently! DD is 5 and DS is 3, DS goes to bed with a hug and a kiss and is totally awake and DD would require one of us to lay with her for like 30-45 minutes. That person would ALWAYS fall asleep in her bed and then wake up at like 10pm. Since I've been pregnant with #3 I've told her I can't lay with her anymore because its (truthfully) super uncomfortable to get in and out of her bed from laying down. So now I just rub her back for a few and leave while she is awake. It is SO FREEING to be done with bedtime and not have fallen asleep myself haha. We also had issues where DS would walk in needing to use the potty or something and be like "hey why are you laying with her?!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809911 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 14:27:57 +0000 Ajsmommy 2809911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: ha!! I've done that when she was taking forever to fall asleep.. I'd say I had to go check something and then not go back at all and she'd fall asleep! I'll do that in the middle of the night too if she wakes up and I can talk to her over the monitor and tell her that i'll be in in a minute but not really and she just goes back to sleep :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809910 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 14:22:08 +0000 snowjewelz 2809910@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: Hahah yes to this. Whoever is not doing bed time is washing the dishes/doing other chores so no one's getting a break here! </p> <p>@yogifish: We co-sleep with BOTH kids! It's what work for us and we love it! </p> <p>@Ajsmommy: A way of weaning that I read somewhere and I keep in in mind if we ever need to; is to make an excuse that you need to go out to do something and to wait for us, and gradually increase that time being gone but obviously go back if they're up waiting. I remember reading the more often than not they'll eventually fall asleep waiting for you haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809909 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 14:21:46 +0000 hellobeeboston 2809909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do this with our 5 year old! Its bad... It only started about a year or so ago too. Our 2 yo goes down easily, awake in the dark, but he's still too little to be scared of the dark.</p> <p>We are trying to stop it with our older one, but part of it is we get SO cozy in bed it's impossible NOT to fall asleep! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809908 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 14:21:31 +0000 Mamatimes3 2809908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS1 is 5 1/2 and I do! We read a book and then I wait for him to fall asleep. Though I usually fall asleep before he does! It doesn’t bother me at all. But all my kids have slept with me. Lately he wakes up at some point and then come finds me in my room and climbs in with us. </p> <p>I don’t worry about it at all! This time passes by so fast. One day he’ll decide he doesn’t need me the same way. I’m enjoying all of it for as long as I can! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809906 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 14:15:10 +0000 bhbee 2809906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: my dh always falls asleep with the kids for hours and hours! For me it’s one advantage of having trouble falling asleep, i rarely do it without meaning to. </p> <p>My oldest is 6 and we actually had a period where we almost never stayed after the routine and it was fine - and then somehow we got back into it?? But when i solo bedtimes she knows she has to go to sleep herself because I have to stay with my second (I won’t stay long in his bed because he can’t relax with me but I sit outside his door to keep him in there). She falls asleep quickly so I don’t mind the cuddling but I like knowing she can do it herself if needed (which will probably be the case more often when #3 arrives). She’s growing up too fast anyway so I say why not! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809905 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 14:10:59 +0000 snowjewelz 2809905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: Oh that's happened to. Then I'm wide awake till like after midnight :meh: I usually tell DH to wake me up so I can stay on a normal sleep schedule! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809904 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 14:10:01 +0000 Mamaof2 2809904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I don't lay with them until asleep but both my 9 and 7 yr old ask me to lay with them for a few minutes - I will do this as long as I can :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809903 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 14:07:50 +0000 looch 2809903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: Yep, it started when my son was 2, and sometimes, at age 7, he still asks that I lay down next to him to help calm him.</p> <p>I am thinking of getting a weighted blanket for this purpose, not that I lay on top of him, but that I think he needs a feeling of someone near him to relax. His sense of physical touch is very strong. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809901 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 14:04:33 +0000 Ajsmommy 2809901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: I have thought of this.. but I'm banking on DD growing out of it just as DS starts needing or wanting it. HA. Of course it all depends on how long we can keep him in his crib. DD was in her crib until 3 yo so if we can keep DS in that long DD would be almost 7 by the time DS might start wanting it bc we move him into a big bed. Only time will tell though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809899 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 14:00:58 +0000 KT326 2809899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I still can't watch that movie or I have nightmares for weeks! My DH didn't believe me until I woke up crying after seeing some kind of commercial or preview of the movie. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809898 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 14:00:10 +0000 erinbaderin 2809898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We used to, off and on over his first 2.5 years, but it was taking him upwards of 90 minutes, and he wanted to hold hands through the bars of his crib, and we kept falling asleep on the floor of his room, so we had to cut it off. The only problem I can think of would be if she can’t fall asleep without you - like, if you wanted to go out for dinner what would happen? I might also be concerned that when your son gets a bit bigger he’s going to want you to lie with him too. But if it works for everybody, do what works! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809897 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 13:58:50 +0000 yogifish 2809897@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: Awww I totally do this too...but worse probably. Once our now 27 month old stopped nursing to sleep I just lay with him until he (or let's be real here, both of us) falls asleep. We are also committing the other evil of having him co-sleep with us in our bed...to the point he has never slept in his crib. He moved right out of his mini crib beside our bed, into our bed around a year and since we are sleeping well, we just can't bear to kick him out. </p> <p>We only have one kid and I like to go to bed early at his 9pm bedtime 99% of the time and my DH is 100% on board so for right now it's working. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809896 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 13:55:52 +0000 Ajsmommy 2809896@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: I wake up 45 mins later when her lullaby shuts off! bahhahahaha happens about 95% of the time.. there's maybe one or two nights a week where I don't... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809894 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 13:55:29 +0000 Anagram 2809894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our girls share a room and have twin beds, so it's increasingly hard for one of us to really *lay with* them, but 90% of the time, one of us will sit on the foot of DD2s bed and read our phones till they fall asleep. They like it, and we like it, and luckily they both fall asleep pretty quick, so it's just part of the whole bedtime routine.</p> <p>Also, the parent that ISN'T doing that has to clean up dinner, lol. So both parents are"working", haha. We trade off nights, but I almost prefer to be the one waiting till they fall asleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809893 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 13:53:56 +0000 snowjewelz 2809893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I am the worst.. If I am tired I 100% fall asleep too, and then I wake up at like 4am :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809892 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 13:50:17 +0000 Ajsmommy 2809892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Carrot: I'm not worried either! thanks for your reply.<br /> @josina: lol.. that's exactly how I feel, enjoy it now bc in 10 years she'll be slamming the door in my face<br /> @snowjewelz: sounds familiar. when dd took longer naps it took forever for her to fall asleep and I had to end it. but now she's exhausted from preschool so she's out pretty quick..... (I kinda left out the part that now with 2 LOs I'm exhausted too and tend to fall asleep with her! ha)<br /> @shabang: @KT326: I too remember being scared of the dark when I was little and I really don't want her to feel that way.<br /> @KT326: I was scared of vampires bc a baby sitter let us watch some old black and white movie with them!!! ha! scarred me...... for life! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-a-co-signer-i-promise-my-credit-is-good#post-2809890 Wed, 14 Mar 2018 13:47:06 +0000 nana87 2809890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do! I'm a wait-it-out parent when it comes to sleep. It can take lo1 foreverrrrrrr to fall asleep but she's gradually moved at her own pace away from total dependence on me/dh for sleep. Like, I nursed to sleep, then rocked, then pats on her bottom/back, then sat by her bed reading, then singing, then lullabies on our phone, and now just silently sitting next to her. She'll be 4 in a couple weeks. At school she falls asleep by herself. Eventually she will at home too. </p>