https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 04 Jun 2026 09:39:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2309059 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 14:44:55 +0000 Herrade 2309059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sophs Mama: Your patience and love will be rewarded eventually, I'm sure. That's no consolation now, because sleep deprivation is the absolute worst. I'm so sorry mama. There were weeks and weeks in the last few months when I felt so desperate and alone with my very fussy newborn. Like your LO, mine won't be soothed by DH or her grandma. It was such a heavy burden to bear alone, and I felt like I would be stuck in that misery forever. </p> <p>This is such a hard gig. I really admire your strength for guiding your LO through this tough time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2309048 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 14:23:24 +0000 Mama Bird 2309048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hang in there! We dealt with that for maybe a month (thanks, molars...) I ended up cosleeping with DS on the couch because he refused to go back to the crib, and I wouldn't take him into our bed because what if he didn't want to leave? The crib was in our room so even if he hadn't been feeling bad, CIO wasn't an option. When the teeth broke through he was back to sleeping all night. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2309000 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 13:14:11 +0000 jape14 2309000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same experience as @gingerbebe: even with a sleep-trained and night weaned kid around the same age. I chalked it up to separation anxiety (DS is also a fairly graceful teether and we weren't shy about giving him ibuprofen). He has a lovey so I'd sleep with the backup lovey so it smelled like me, and then switch them out at the first wake up. A nightlight also seemed to help. It did last for about 7-10 days at our house so you have my sympathy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2308986 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 13:01:57 +0000 Mae 2308986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I"m so sorry. That really really sucks. My daughter also FREAKED if my husband tried to calm her MOTN until she was like a year old so I was on my own too. </p> <p>The only thing I can tell you is we have had crappy sleep and better sleep and AWFUL sleep and AWESOME sleep and until 14 months, no phase every lasted more than 2-3 weeks. And usually it was not anything I did to fix (or break) the situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2308984 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 13:00:46 +0000 Mrs.Someone 2308984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sophs Mama: Thats pretty much my thought on molars too! This is kid's 7th tooth, so we have a long way to go :( Have you tried baby Motrin? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2308979 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 12:57:03 +0000 snowjewelz 2308979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sophs Mama: Ugh, that so tough! Seems like def has enough wake time. My 10 mo old has roughly 4 hrs from last nap to bed time. I dealt with this when she was younger, when she wanted to stay up for longer and I didn't realize it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2308974 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 12:50:41 +0000 Sophs Mama 2308974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: I'll try the humidifier tonight, but I'm feeling so defeated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2308973 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 12:50:34 +0000 josina 2308973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 10 month old has done this a couple nights this past week... he wakes up around 2 and after nursing decides he wants to play vs. going back to bed. My solution is to just bring him to bed with me and lay him down. Both times he fell asleep... (he might play with my face/hair for a bit, but as long as he's laying down, he does fall back asleep).<br /> Worth a shot?<br /> (He does usually sleep in his crib, and I've been bringing him to bed when he wakes up at 4/5 to nurse/sleep). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2308971 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 12:49:31 +0000 Sophs Mama 2308971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: She "usually" goes to bed at 8:30, and aside rom waking to eat a couple times, will not wake up until 9. She has a nap around noon for 2-3 hours, and then is awake until bedtime! That's 5 hours! I don't really know what else I can do.</p> <p>@Herrade: One of the main problems is that she doesn't have her own room, and so her crib is in ours! My husband is a teacher, and deals with kids all day long, so he really needs the sleep, but with her in our room it's not like I can just let her cry a little or spend time in "her" space, because she has none! She doesn't really like to co-sleep because my husband runs hot at night and she's like me and needs to be cool. Another reason she hates it when he picks her up - she gets too hot.</p> <p>@Mrs.Someone: She won't let me look in her mouth long enough to see if she has another tooth coming in. She has 8 already, so are molars next? Kill me now. She's a fairly graceful teether, but if this is what molars are going to be like I am doomed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2308969 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 12:46:54 +0000 gingerbebe 2308969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well my son is fully sleep trained and he still had the same sleep disturbances at that age - he would wake up at like 11, 1, and sometimes even 4 and then waking up for the day at like 630am or earlier (normal wake time was 730am). And all the moms in my birth month had the issue at the same time, regardless of how they were feeding or sleeping their babes. Not hungry or dirty or sick - just wake up screaming but then ready to party when you went to their room. I would just try to keep things as dark and boring as possible to not stimulate her. Marching around made things worse for DS. </p> <p> All I can tell you is that it will pass! It lasted about a month for me, although each wake up took 30-60 minutes with 2 hours being our worst. And I did all the wake ups too! </p> <p>Can you get her a humidifier and slightly elevate her crib on one end with a rolled towel under the mattress to help her cough? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2308912 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 12:01:47 +0000 Herrade 2308912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@junebugsmama: Amen. I remember reading in Weissbleuth something like, It's normal for a baby to fight sleep, because s/he would much rather be with you than in a dark room all alone. Of course, that led to the conclusion that you should get them used to being in a dark room all alone ASAP. That may work for some babies, but not mine -- at least not so far! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2308904 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 11:55:46 +0000 Mrs.Someone 2308904@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're dealing with this off and on too :( it seems to be a molar this time. We don't take him out of his room, keep the lights low or off, and only talk if absolutely necessary. The point is to keep things boring and sleepy. And I'll send my husband in when I'm frustrated and need a break, but it often makes it worse. DS is 13mo, but we've had this happen for a while. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2308901 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 11:53:58 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2308901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Herrade: I agree. Thank you. I don't "believe" in sleep crutches really. I know my baby needs me or DH to sleep and I expect that. He needs us for everything! He's a baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2308899 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 11:53:43 +0000 Herrade 2308899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Sophs Mama: Have you thought of cosleeping for a while, maybe in her room? It sounds like she's really fighting sleep -- is she afraid or lonely in her room? Cosleeping might not be the forever answer, but both of you might be able to get some sleep until her wakeful phase passes, or until she gets more comfortable in her own space. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2308894 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 11:50:17 +0000 Herrade 2308894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@junebugsmama: I'm new at this mommy thing, but I say do what works for you until it doesn't work anymore. </p> <p>We bedshare, and my 4-month old is currently going through her sleep regression. I feel like she's on the boob half the night these days. But so what? We're both getting more sleep that way. If I refuse the boob, we'll both be awake and miserable. If she had the ability to STTN, she wouldn't be waking and looking to nurse in the first place. So I'm not worried about becoming a sleep crutch... Because she needs a sleep crutch right now. I expect that as she develops the ability to stay asleep, she will come off the boob. And if she doesn't we'll deal with it then. I'm not going to treat it like a problem now just on the off chance it may become a problem in the future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2308888 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 11:46:02 +0000 snowjewelz 2308888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no! Do you think you need to adjust her wake time before bed?</p> <p>I def dealt with that before and it sucks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2308885 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 11:44:23 +0000 Pumpkin Pie 2308885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry. That was me a couple weeks ago minus the 3 year old. I don't know what it was, but my LO seemed so restless when she woke in the middle of the night. Thankfully, it only last a few days. Hang in there, mama. I think you get a pass for being snappy. It is really exhausting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2308869 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 11:35:49 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2308869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It sounds so brutal. I feed my baby to sleep and we cosleep. I enjoy it but I am realizing he eats more and more frequently at night and never really does longer stretches like he used to. I am terrified that it may worsen until I can't magically stick him on the boob, my magical snooze button. And it will be no ones fault but my own! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-commiseration#post-2308830 Fri, 02 Oct 2015 11:00:03 +0000 Sophs Mama 2308830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 10.5 month old has lately started waking up in the middle of the night (like, 2-3 am) and will stay up for at least 2 hours. She isn't hungry, and if I even try to give her a bottle she freaks, and doesn't need to be changed. Usually I have to walk around our house for what feels like forever with her on my chest, head resting on my shoulder, to get her to sleep, but even this doesn't work at these times. I literally have to sit up with her while she roams around the basement (she's been walking for a month now) until she becomes so tired she gets clumsy and then it's more walking to get her to sleep, and then hopefully I can get her in her crib without her waking up.</p> <p>And to make matters worse, she got over a 2 week cold and now has a cough that is only aggravated when I lay her down in her crib so it wakes her up and we have to start the process all over again.</p> <p>I don't know what to do. I get all snappy at my husband, because she absolutely refuses him at night, so I can't even have him watch her because she'll lose it - and I'm EXHAUSTED. It'd be tolerable if I didn't also have an almost 3 year old who is so high energy ALL DAY (no naps for her!).</p> <p>I've never been able to put her down drowsy in her crib and have her fall asleep, it just doesn't work, and I'm sure it's 100% because I have fed her to sleep her whole life.</p> <p>Help me. </p>