https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 22:56:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-opinions-and-advice#post-1129639 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 16:20:35 +0000 deerylou 1129639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Now that I'm a mom, I'm admittedly less enthusiastic about events that will consume more of my money, time, and energy away from my daughter. I've declined many an invite in favor of staying behind with my infant. That being said, it's important to still be there for close friends. </p> <p>If I were you, I would evaluate how much you would like to attend the bachelorette party, and then reach out. Maybe something like, "So excited for your upcoming wedding. I'm sorry it's taken me a while to get back to you, but I'm still working with DH to see if we can swing it, financially/logistically/whatever. Would you mind if I touched base with you in a few days?" If she responds and says that they've already started planning out room shares, than I would probably just wish her the best, and skip it. If she is more receptive and sounds excited about you possibly attending, I would try to make it work. </p> <p>I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I know how tough it is to still remain actively in the loop with friends who have yet to have children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-opinions-and-advice#post-1129616 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 16:08:46 +0000 Mrsbells 1129616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would feel the same way as you. I would probably just go to the wedding but skip the bachelorette. I'm not a big fan of them anyway </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/looking-for-some-opinions-and-advice#post-1129613 Thu, 03 Oct 2013 16:07:14 +0000 sweet_p 1129613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like the title says, I'm kind of torn about a situation and could really use some advice on what I should do. One of my friends is getting married soon and sent out a last minute email letting us know about her bachelorette party. The location would require me to book an airplane ticket and hotel, which isn't a problem but obviously requires a little more planning now that I have a LO. </p> <p>I found out today from a mutual friend that the bride is already working on rooming arrangements and sent out a separate email to those that confirmed they will be there. I can't help but feel kind of sad because she just assumed I wouldn't be going, rather than taking the time to check with me first. The first email was literally sent a few days ago, so I figured I had more time to decide. It makes me feel like maybe my presence isn't that important if she couldn't be bothered to take a minute to ask me. </p> <p>I'm normally not this sensitive when it comes to these types of things, but it's already a hard situation because this is a friend I used to talk to everyday. After LO was born, we've definitely drifted away and I feel like all of my attempts to reach out to her, have been half assed in return. I was already feeling hesitant about leaving LO for a weekend and now I'm really torn on whether I should go or not. </p> <p>Any opinions or advice would be really helpful. What would you do in this situation? Thanks! </p>