https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 11 May 2026 13:24:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones/page/2#post-840259 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 14:36:13 +0000 purrpletulips 840259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is 9months and just now starting to sit on his own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones/page/2#post-840124 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 13:54:49 +0000 kiddosc 840124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is an awesome update! Shame on daycare for making you second guess yourself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-840080 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 13:44:59 +0000 edelweiss 840080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh that's very reassuring--your instincts were right all along! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-839808 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 12:33:44 +0000 runsyellowlites 839808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: That's a great update!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-839803 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 12:32:48 +0000 loveisstrange 839803@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: Im glad you had a good update! Sounds like your daycare means well, but maybe they need to butt out a little.</p> <p>I'd have been a jerk and made him write a note about how fabulous your LO is doing and given it to the daycare teachers like "I told you so". lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-839778 Fri, 07 Jun 2013 12:26:34 +0000 78h2o 839778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Quick updqate:</p> <p>LO saw the pediatrician today for her 6 mo visit. Pedi said LO had wonderful, sustained eye contact and is very close to sitting unassisted. She said she really was impressed with her eye contact/interaction and she could not imagine why daycare had a concern about that. She said that it was fine that she wasn't sitting unassisted yet at 6 months.</p> <p>Her height (28.75") was 99th percentile, weight (17.5 lbs) 74th percentile, and head circ 60th percentile. LO had doubled her birth weight. The pediatrician said she's done awesome on bm alone and that I shouldn't feel bad about ignoring daycare's request for solids. </p> <p>I know daycare was just trying to help, but I'm glad the pediatrician was reassuring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-816700 Wed, 29 May 2013 22:47:09 +0000 Pink Champagne 816700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always think its SO WEIRD when daycare providers try to make it out that they're some sort of children experts, when what they are is well-educated babysitters. The concept of a "parent-teacher conference" and the idea of a daycare provider being a "teacher" always makes me roll my eyes.<br /> I think I would ask the doctor and trust their opinion- I personally think there's nothing wrong with where your LO is at with sitting up, since mine was maybe 6.5 months when he was finally able to sit without the Boppy- I bet your LO will be there in no time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-816696 Wed, 29 May 2013 22:43:22 +0000 googly-eyes 816696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd ignore them. Honestly I would ask what guidelines they are going by because it concerns me that they said that! My daughter didn't sit up very well at that age either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-816683 Wed, 29 May 2013 22:26:31 +0000 lepamplemousse 816683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not sitting up at 6 months doesn't seem like such a big deal to me at all. LO is almost 8 months and just started sitting up by himself now. And he also just started acknowledging me when I come to pick him up from daycare. When I drop him off he's usually so distracted he never notices me. Our pedi specializes in child developmental problems and didn't seem concerned at all. I know your daycare is just trying to be helpful but I would be really annoyed that they made it seem like it was such an alarming thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-816580 Wed, 29 May 2013 20:44:00 +0000 78h2o 816580@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: Lol! Yeah, I do think J is super busy right now and distracted a lot of the time. Thanks for the reassurance! I'm glad H caught on so quickly. I do think J is improving since we started practicing sitting over the weekend. I'm going to make a point to really work on it with her and hopefully she'll get it. I don't know why I'm worrying, my gut tells me she's fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-816419 Wed, 29 May 2013 19:39:33 +0000 PrincessBaby 816419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: H was only sitting unassisted for like 2 seconds at a time and we JUST started working on it the past couple of days...Today is the first day she did really well with it, but before then, she really wasn't interested bc she wanted to lunge for her toes or lean toward something she saw, like a toy or the dog...And I SAH now so we've had the time to work on it consistently for a couple of days and she still just got the hang of it today, and her birthday is the same as your LO, as you know. But if we hadn't worked on it, she'd still be in the same boat so I really don't think it's abnormal AT ALL! And sometimes I think she knows her name and sometimes she ignores me- but she is super distracted by EVERYTHING (we call her Distraction Jackson) and sometimes she is so fixated on something, like the dog, that she doesn't care about anything else. They are so busy right now! I'm sure she is just too busy/stimulated to look at your husband or the teacher! She's like, "Ummm, busy here! Do you not see how fascinating this key on this rattle is???" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-816403 Wed, 29 May 2013 19:31:39 +0000 MrsF 816403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>M didn't sit unassisted until last week (almost 8 months) and the doc wasn't concerned at all. One day she couldn't do it at all and the next day it's no problem. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-816393 Wed, 29 May 2013 19:26:15 +0000 MsMamaBear 816393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They just sound concerned to me, minus the form. Just ask her doctor about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-816120 Wed, 29 May 2013 16:30:12 +0000 Maysprout 816120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I kept a general idea of milestones and do try and work with her on skills she's acquiring and mention it to the ped if we have any concerns.</p> <p>But I'd be super annoyed with signing something, they don't know what's going on at home and that's insulting and presumptive on their part. I'd be having a phone call with them to express concerns over that conference because that seems a bit over the line. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-816100 Wed, 29 May 2013 16:23:15 +0000 Springtime 816100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's kind of crazy to me! All babies do things differently at different times. My LO didn't sit up (good) unassisted until 7.5 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-816097 Wed, 29 May 2013 16:22:17 +0000 78h2o 816097@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@NovBaby1112: she's 59th percentile for weight, but 99th for height (was 27" at 4 mo)... my husband thinks that her length might be making it harder for her to sit.</p> <p>@mrskc: @NovBaby1112: @MungBean @mrbee: : I'm glad I'm not the only one who would be annoyed about the paper. Obviously if they tell me they're concerned about something I'm going to do my best to work on it. I don't need the accountability of signing a paper! </p> <p>@hellobeeboston: @zippylef: @stargal: @rattles: thank you! </p> <p>@rattles: lol at being "overly eye contact-y" - I will totally be doing that when I get home tonight. :)</p> <p>Thanks, everyone! I'm feeling a little better now. I'm going to try not to worry about it but will ask the pediatrician next week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-816043 Wed, 29 May 2013 16:03:47 +0000 rattles 816043@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Totally agreed about the form! Seems like an added guilt trip with little benefit. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-816033 Wed, 29 May 2013 16:01:03 +0000 mrbee 816033@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>&lt;&lt; All kids hit milestones on their own time. &gt;&gt;</p> <p>@zippylef: Most kids definitely hit milestones on their own time! But not all do alas...</p> <p>@78h2o: Dang, they made you sign a form? That seems kinda intense for a six month old child!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-816027 Wed, 29 May 2013 15:59:06 +0000 rattles 816027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry they're stressing you out! For what it's worth, DD will be 6 months on Saturday, and she can't sit either. She'll stay that way for a couple of seconds and then faceplant ;) Sometimes I think she recognizes her name, but I think it's just wishful thinking since it's really only when I say it in a way that would have gotten her attention anyway. Now I've spent the day being overly eye contact-y with her! Anyway, it sounds like our LOs are the same age and level, so you're not alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-815944 Wed, 29 May 2013 15:33:09 +0000 stargal 815944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>ds didnt sit up completly by himself until almost 7 months! your dd is fine, im mad at your daycare for stressing you out!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-815941 Wed, 29 May 2013 15:33:01 +0000 pinkcupcake 815941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: gosh that sounds so stressful. I can't believe they made you sign something promising to work on tummy time. Even the pediatricians office wouldn't have you do that. I would try not to worry so much (easier said than done). My LO was a late sitter as well and I remember being a little worried- I think she finally sat up unassisted for a good amount of time when she was around 7 months old. My ped told me not to worry about it. (And she's on track with all other milestones, including walking). As for the eye contact- I agree with other posters who said it could be bc of all the distractions at daycare. If you don't notice her lack of eye contact in other situations, I wouldn't be too concerned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-815935 Wed, 29 May 2013 15:31:19 +0000 loveisstrange 815935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Meh. Id ignore it for now. All kids hit milestoneson their own time. C didnt roll until 6 months and I was super paranoid but she eventually did it and I realized how silly I was about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-815927 Wed, 29 May 2013 15:29:11 +0000 hellobeeboston 815927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>the eye contact thing at daycare when DH is leaving just makes me think there are probably a ton of distractions and new things to look at when she gets dropped off... when I drop off my son he's into all the new stimulation around him for sure....</p> <p>sorry they stressed you out :/ - but it sounds like they are over-reacting to me... especially about the sitting up - all babies develop differently, like all the pp's mentioned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-815912 Wed, 29 May 2013 15:23:24 +0000 NovBaby1112 815912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: I think their intentions are good and they are just being proactive, but I would be very annoyed that they made me sign a paper saying I would vow to work on some things. I don't think your lo is behind at all, all babies are different. Right around 6 months my lo starting sitting up better without toppling over, almost overnight. Try not to stress mama, but def bring up your concerns to your pedi. Is your lo on the bigger side? dd is a big baby and her ped said sometimes it takes them longer to sit and roll bc they are so top heavy lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-815843 Wed, 29 May 2013 15:01:41 +0000 mrskc 815843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: You had to sign something? That seems so odd to me and would annoy me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-814989 Wed, 29 May 2013 10:06:37 +0000 MamaMoose 814989@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO never watches my husband when he leaves day care! She is far too interested in playing with her friends and her toys! If you have concerns definitely voice them to your pediatrician but none of these things sounds particularly concerning to me. My LO is 6 months and definitely doesn't know her name. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-814950 Wed, 29 May 2013 09:52:28 +0000 mrbee 814950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: Six months is pretty early to respond to her name. It's definitely something to keep an eye on though! You can test it by standing behind your LO and saying her name... and seeing if she turns around.</p> <p>As for eye contact, kids often make better eye contact with their family and close friends than with others... so if your teacher is seeing an issue, I'd be on the lookout for it! That trick with putting objects in front of your face can really help! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-814941 Wed, 29 May 2013 09:49:49 +0000 LuLu Mom 814941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is almost 8 months and just started sitting up on her own, and my doctor has never had any concerns with her milestones! I wouldnt' be concerned by that. I would mention the concerns to your doctor, but I wouldn't worrya bout them, especially the sitting on! 6 months is on the early side to be sitting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-814932 Wed, 29 May 2013 09:46:46 +0000 78h2o 814932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsmenow: Tt was just a routine parent-teacher conference that they do 2-3x per year. She seemed really concerned about it though, which is what got me worrying. I can try that with the boppy, but my guess is that she'll find a way to roll off of it. She really likes to scoot around on her back. Since she discovered that, she doesn't want to hold still on her tummy. </p> <p>@dookie32: Ok, thanks. I wasn't too worried about her not sitting yet, but I did start worrying when they said they were concerned about her eye contact.</p> <p>I've always thought she had good eye contact! I'm really surprised. </p> <p>@mrbee: I agree, I'd rather they say something if they are worried. I can try that with the toy, but I think she already makes good eye contact with me. If she is engrossed in something, she won't necessary look up if I call her name, but yeah, I'm sure she would if I took her toy.</p> <p>@highwire: it was just a routine conference. I'm a little annoyed at how they framed it ("we're concerned..."), but I know they are just trying to help. I had to sign a paper saying that I would do more tummy time and work on eye contact, which I also thought was sort of annoying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-daycare-is-stressing-me-about-about-her-milestones#post-814898 Wed, 29 May 2013 09:36:54 +0000 dookie32 814898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow- that sounds a little crazy to me. At 6 months my son wasn't even rolling over, much less sitting up unassisted. I think he didn't do that until maybe 8 months. And he hated tummy time so we really didn't go crazy with trying to force it. My son's teacher is very big into the philosophy of letting kids do everything in their own time and not forcing our expectations on them. They can and will figure it out on their own when they are ready. I think unless your pediatrician has concerns I wouldn’t worry. </p>