https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 15:47:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-first-cyberbully#post-2926778 Sat, 16 Apr 2022 15:11:18 +0000 ALV91711 2926778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m sorry that she had to experience this. Definitely reach out to the school. </p> <p>My oldest is in third grade but we have not had to deal with this yet. I kind of hate that they are growing up with all this technology. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-first-cyberbully#post-2926774 Sat, 16 Apr 2022 06:18:05 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2926774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whoa. That's terrible. I definitely would get the school and teachers and principal involved. It's not okay.</p> <p>My girl is also in the 3rd grad. School starts a year later here, so technically 4th grade in the US, but I feel that maturity-wise it's about the same. Before the pandemic there was an incident with the older kids at school and certain things were shared by a student on Snapchat. I don't know the exact details, but the police was involved and all the parents were formally briefed on cyberbullying and the dangers of social media. This needs to be stopped before it gets too far. Those kids shouldn't be able to even have cellphones in class. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-first-cyberbully#post-2926748 Thu, 14 Apr 2022 13:53:05 +0000 JCCovi 2926748@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also have a third grader and this is horrifying. They are definitely full into the talk about crushes and who likes who, but nothing online. My daughter has asked if she can have Facebook messenger for kids because some of her classmates have it, but that’s a hard no for me. I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I would definitely bring it up with the school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-first-cyberbully#post-2926747 Thu, 14 Apr 2022 12:34:37 +0000 agold 2926747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is absolutely terrible all around. I would go right to the parents of the kid making the tik tok videos. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-first-cyberbully#post-2926746 Thu, 14 Apr 2022 11:55:53 +0000 Anagram 2926746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>also in 3rd grade....what we have here is an issue of poor parental supervision. It would be nice if the other parent was just busy and THIS ONE TIME didn't notice her kiddo posting that kind of thing/was temporarily checked out of her own kid's tiktok posting.</p> <p>But generally, I'd say a parent not being aware of what their 3rd grader is posting online is a red flag. Either the parenting is just not there or the parent doesn't care--either way, you may not get far with the parent, so the appropriate avenue is the school.</p> <p>As far as your DD---I'd love to hear from others what their strategies are for this stuff in general. It's good that she's coming to you for help. That's the first step. Maybe the school teacher or counselor can facilitate some lessons where they go over Online etiquette--what is and isn't appropriate to post online. It sounds like this girl needs it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-first-cyberbully#post-2926745 Thu, 14 Apr 2022 11:52:23 +0000 Anagram 2926745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Corduroy: so sorry this happened to your kiddo! I don't think it's really "typical" for 3rd grade but I'm sure it does happen, and it gets much more prevalent as kids get older and their screentime increases and the parental supervision decreased. Do you know the other parents in this situation? I'd definitely reach out to the teacher AND the counselor--I wouldn't let the school brush it off (if they try). They need to nip this stuff in the bud now before the kids get older and the mean online content is much more damaging.</p> <p>Personally, my own 3rd grader is very much offlines. I haven't even let her do Roblox and Minecraft even though she claims every other kid in her class has it and is on it--and that's why I won't let her have it. I don't need her to be online every evening with her classmates. She's busy with after school activities and homework as it is, so I've told her we don't have time. We've also had long talks about screen time and brain drain and a bunch of other statistics (I actually teach middle schoolers about screen time safety, 21st century skills in a 21st century world, balancing media with real world activites, etc).</p> <p>I know there are *some* positives to certain types of screen time, but to me that negatives greatly outweigh the positives at this age. My kids do get some screen time, it's just heavily limited and heavily supervised. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-first-cyberbully#post-2926739 Thu, 14 Apr 2022 06:54:38 +0000 LemonJack 2926739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whoa! 3rd grade seems so young for this! I would contact the school asap. I’m a middle school teacher and these sorts of things happen at our level. Even if it happens outside of school, if it affects students IN school, which this definitely would, it’s something the school deals with. </p> <p>If this student has a pattern of targeting your daughter, I would definitely push it. It may fit the definition of bullying.</p> <p>I’m so sorry you (and her!) are having to deal with this.</p> <p>Edited to add that I would make sure to contact both the counselor and her classroom teacher. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-first-cyberbully#post-2926738 Thu, 14 Apr 2022 06:46:56 +0000 bhbee 2926738@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m sorry this happened! Agree with @hitchhiker: they do tease a bit about who likes who (my oldest is in 4th) but definitely nothing online … although I know my daughter is somewhat protected by having friends without phones and walking to school so no bus time. </p> <p>I would email the counselor to discuss it and get advice. They should at least know about it. But we have family friends who have said the struggle related to the bus ride is terrible because there are phones, inappropriate content and a lack of adult supervision (same age, oldest in 4th). So I could see it happening there … :bummed: I hate the digital age sometimes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-first-cyberbully#post-2926737 Thu, 14 Apr 2022 05:34:11 +0000 catgirl 2926737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly not sure if this is typical third grade behavior. BUT i would reach out to the school - even if some people think it's normal, it is not okay. The behavior is bullying, without a doubt. </p> <p>I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-first-cyberbully#post-2926736 Thu, 14 Apr 2022 04:13:46 +0000 hitchhiker 2926736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is terrible, I’m so sorry you’re dealing with it. This does not sound normal based on my child’s school (I also have a third grader). The crush talk has definitely ramped up, and I know they are lightly teasing each other about it. But (as far as I know) it hasn’t moved online, and the school counselor is engaging with students about the teasing. I would definitely reach out to the school about this—it’s unacceptable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/los-first-cyberbully#post-2926735 Thu, 14 Apr 2022 02:09:44 +0000 Corduroy 2926735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD came home today upset that someone in her grade made a TikTok of her revealing her crush. I knew this was coming but this is 3rd grade! </p> <p>I downloaded the app and couldn't find anything so I told DD the kids were probably making it up. Unfortunately I found out after bedtime that the video is real. Another parent found the profile by asking a youngin for help. Her school name is in the profile name and there's a series of 'guess who in my school' videos. The video has the first letter of her name, her teacher's name, a cartoon gif of a redhead (like her) with an exaggerated butt twerking and 'annoying' written largely, along with 'likes Sam but says she doesn't'. The song is inappropriate and the actual video just points at the ceiling. I shouldn't have looked at the comments but I was relieved to see they all essentially said 3rd graders shouldn't be on TikTok. </p> <p>I don't know what to say to DD. She was upset enough just thinking her (not?) crush was named. She'd be devastated to see the other images. I hope she doesn't come across the video. I'm almost certain this was made by the girl that has been making her life hell in person for the last few years. There was a video for that girl too but it was flattering and called her a 'hottie'. I'm now ready to label the behavior as bullying which I've been dragging my heels about. </p> <p>Is this typical 3rd grade behavior now? </p>