https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 03 May 2026 08:19:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075864 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 21:01:17 +0000 PinkElephant 2075864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Chiming in because I also have strong feelings about my body image the short answer is that weight loss was the same for me both times. I was 29 and 30 when the girls were born.</p> <p>Long answer:</p> <p>LO#1 - baby weight plus an extra 5 lbs came off quickly just through breaatfeeding, eating normally, and getting back to my normal gym routine (pilates 2x/week plus cardio). I was happy feeling sting again but actually unhappy with the extra weight loss - people asked nosey questions about why it's happened, when it was just what my body did.. I actually had to cut back on the gym to conceive #2.</p> <p>LO#2 (born 22 months after LO#1): baby weight plus another 5 lbs I didn't really have to lose came off quickly with breastfeeding and normal diet. However I no longer have a full time nanny so my fitness routine consists of pushing a stroller with a baby in an ergo and running up and down stairs in the house. I'm slim but not strong, it definitely took me longer to feel like I could pick up my normal routine even if I had the childcare to do so. I'm 9 months PP and would like my abs back for a big vacation in six months :) so I bought myself a stability ball, magic circle, and resistance bands. I expect that my weight will go up a bit as I get toned.</p> <p>Fingers crossed for you your experience is similar to your first as well. But re: the clothes....between breaatfeeding and two pregnancies, my pre pregnancy wardrobe has not fit normally for 3 years! I just supplement the pieces that do fit with filler items (jeans a size down, tops a size up)and figure I'll have one hell of a shopping spree when I'm done being pregnant and breaatfeeding :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075831 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 20:25:16 +0000 Canoli 2075831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was able to lose the weight quicker after my first LO but I also did the no dairy thing for a while and was practically eating nothing so I'm sure that contributed. I am 10 months pp after my second and am about 3-4 pounds above my pre pregnancy weight with my first. I absolutely still look 3-4 months pregnant. My body is by far just not the same. But I also don't diet or exercise. It should just go away on it's own https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075691 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 17:34:43 +0000 meredithNYC 2075691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@78h2o: I agree that recovery plays a huge role. With LO #1 there was no way I could have exercised before 6 weeks and even a couple of weeks after that things were just... not right.</p> <p>Pregnant now with LO #2 and I have taken much better care of myself as far as diet and exercise go. Sadly, I have gained the same amount, though. I'm hoping that having kept the routine of exercise will pay off postpartum, though, and encourage me to get back to work-outs earlier (provided my recovery is easier). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075640 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 17:02:13 +0000 tysonja 2075640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my experience: LO#1 came off slowly, except for 10 lbs, but then got pregnant right away at 7m pp with the extra 10 hanging on for the ride....<br /> after LO#2 came off slowly again, but actually finally got it all off around 10-11 months. yay! must admit I didn't exercise or eat different... I think it would have made a difference for sure!</p> <p>@princessbaby: I like reading about your goals and successes, it motivates me :). hope it goes well for you with baby #2! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075633 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 16:55:25 +0000 78h2o 2075633@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: I think it depends in part on the kind of recovery you have. I was still about 10 lbs from my pre-preg weight at 3 months. It was really hard for me to exercise in the beginning. My stitches would jab me every time I moved the wrong way. I don't think they came out until 9 weeks post-partum. I know they didn't dissolve and were still there and still painful at my 6 week appointment. I did not dream of exercising before 6 weeks, and really, I don't remember being able to do much until 10 weeks or so. Also, breastfeeding made me starving and anytime I tried to cut calories, I saw a huge decrease in output. So I just dealt with the extra weight for awhile. I did fit back in most of my pre-pregnancy pants, but I had to buy a few new tops. I eventually fit back in most things and got back to my pre-preg weight.</p> <p>I have heard friends say it was way easier after the 2nd, since they had a toddler to chase, and others say it was harder. </p> <p>I hope it's easier, and am hoping to have an easier recovery, but I'm not going to stress about it too much if it takes a little longer.</p> <p>I think the fact that you had an easy recovery and lost weight quickly the first time around bodes well for you! Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075579 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 16:01:35 +0000 HLK208 2075579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So here's my experience...<br /> LO1, it came off easily with hard work<br /> LO2, I didn't try and it didn't come off<br /> LO3, I'm too tired for it to come off lol</p> <p>More details: I was crazy about losing the weight after having LO #1. I only ate salad and fruit in the hospital after delivering LO, I ate grapefruit for breakfast every day pp for months, avoided sweets and was back in the gym at 4 weeks pp. I was young but I've never had the type of body that loses weight easily. None of my friends were moms so I felt like I needed to look like I never had a baby. At 3 months pp, I was below pregnancy weight. </p> <p>With my second, I didn't do a thing to lose weight and I was in the "be kind to yourself" camp...by 12 months pp I was 170lbs and really unhappy. I lost the preg weight within one summer (at 12-15 months pp) before getting pregnant with #3.</p> <p>With #3, I was super healthy during the pregnancy, only gained 16 pounds and then lost it all within days of having baby. By a month pp, I was squishy but my normal pre-pregnancy jeans were lose. I honestly wish I had kept the weight off but I was so stressed out with having 3 LO's to take care of - I would usually unwind with wine and ice cream after they were in bed at night. I didn't work out either. Now, I'm 7 months pp and have a good 15-20 pounds to lose but I'm just...tired. I know that sounds like a huge excuse but I'm really burnt out. I'm hoping I can find motivation to start exercising again because I need it!! I started running again at 5 months pp but we kept getting sick so I'd fall off that bandwagon easily. </p> <p>My advice is if you want to get back there to pre-pregnancy weight - maybe hire a personal trainer (so you can do it safely)? Long walks with the double stroller before then? I think you'll easily bounce back! You're way more determined than I was lol. And FWIW, I don't think you're shallow! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075565 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:53:34 +0000 stargal 2075565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oops random post. Sorry </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075530 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:38:49 +0000 Mrs. Lovejoy 2075530@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Also, I don't have experience with LO2 yet, as he's still baking. But, LO1 took a considerable amount of time and effort to lose the baby weight. I think about a year? Weight watchers helped tremendously and made me realize I was just eating too large of portions. When I finally started losing the real weight I went below pre-preg weight (but that was good for me). I will likely try a similar routine after LO2 once I get through about 6 weeks postpartum. But, this post is also reminding me to have grace on my body that it might not fall off like the first time around! But goodness, I hope it does. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075526 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:38:16 +0000 Madison43 2075526@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ash: But there are lots of posts about people being determined to lose the weight on here. There are weight watchers posts, 30 day shred, postportum weight loss groups, etc.... everyone in those posts shares the goals they set. Look, I get that weight loss can be an extremely sensitive subject, which I say as someone who has straight up not lost the baby weight 16 months later, but I feel like folks are reacting negatively because she's been so successful in the past, which as a pp said, is just as bad as fat shaming those that haven't lost the weight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075521 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:36:06 +0000 Mrs. Lovejoy 2075521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This post makes me feel like we're crossing into online bullying territory and I'm just piping in (because my gut is not letting me refrain) to say that I'm sure everyone's hearts are in a decent place, and this is a subject that can spark a lot of feelings/emotion. But, can we all just remember that tone and language, etc.. can sometimes be misconstrued or taken out of context without personally knowing the person writing? I truly don't think @PrincessBaby: was intending to offend anyone. It's something she cares about and was just trying to solicit other's experience. </p> <p>We're all in a different place and on a different journey towards having a healthy body image / mindset. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075520 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:35:15 +0000 lilyann 2075520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was harder for me to lose the weight after LO2, with LO1 it just seemed to melt off. However, my diet and exercise routine were non existent and I went back to work at 7 weeks PP this time vs 12 weeks last time. I have a sedentary/computer job, so I joined a bootcamp class and cleaned up my diet and am now below pre-pregnancy weight. </p> <p>I think if you are determined, you will have no problems losing the weight. I had no motivation and wanted to protect my supply, but at 7 months PP, I had enough of the extra weight that I was carrying around and was unhappy with how I looked. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075515 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:29:24 +0000 psw27 2075515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ash: I think the post was seeking people's experiences about losing weight after #1 versus #2... and then it became some whole other beast. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075514 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:27:10 +0000 Ash 2075514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: then set the goals &amp; lose the weight. No need to make a post about how determined you are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075503 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:19:28 +0000 psw27 2075503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Madison43: Totally agree. Can people relax here a little bit? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075497 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:14:53 +0000 keepcalmcarrie 2075497@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: you're "allowed" to feel how you feel about PP weight loss :) I felt similarly. Of course everyone wants to lose their pregnancy weight, but beyond a healthy baby, that was the top priority for me and if it hadn't happened easily (which I am extremely grateful for) I would have gone to the mattresses, so to speak, with diet and exercise to get there. Sometimes even that doesn't work, but it's worth a try if it's very important to you. It was to me and I wouldn't apologize for that. As long as you're not severely restricting calories - to the point of disordered eating - do what you have to do to feel happy after baby arrives. </p> <p>I understand what others are saying, but I don't want you to feel like you're getting bashed for being very focused on this as a goal. My first question at my postpartum appt was whether or not I could use Crest White strips while BFing. Shallow? Of course. But you do you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075482 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:08:11 +0000 PrincessBaby 2075482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Madison43: Thank you!!! Beautifully and accurately said :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075481 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:06:55 +0000 chopsuey 2075481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my weight gain/ loss experience was about the same both times.<br /> I lost 30lbs by 6 weeks pp without trying. I ate a ton too! :P I was 31 when I had dd and 1 month shy of 33 when I had ds.<br /> I ate whatever, whenever and didn't work out while I was pregnant, so packed on 50ish both times. My bad. :D haha had to work out and watched what I ate to lose the rest. .<br /> I'm about 10lbs over prepregnancy right now, since I gained a bunch back over the holidays and during our move (I stress eat!) but most of my clothes fit. I plan on slowly losing the last 10 before springtime. </p> <p>I think it's great that you set goals for yourself and am sure you'll get back down to prepreg before you head back to work! Good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075480 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:06:47 +0000 mrscobee 2075480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: Haha!! #firstworldproblems is what I had called it too! Agree with you! :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075477 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:06:00 +0000 mrsjyw 2075477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Madison43: I agree. I think it's the same thing as someone "fat shaming" moms about their postpartum weight. Sure it might not be your way or what you deem is "right," but I don't think OP has to defend her stance on her pp goals, just as those who take longer to lose weight shouldn't have to defend their PP bodies.</p> <p>at the end of the day, this is all #firstworldproblems </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075474 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:03:54 +0000 Madison43 2075474@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: regretting this post yet? :wink: I never jump in on stuff like this, but I feel like people are ganging up and it's making me uncomfortable. Come on guys, she asked for experiences and shared her goals - she wasn't trying to shame anyone that hasn't lost the weight or doesn't share her goals and strategies for achieving those goals. I think it's fine to say "be kind to yourself in case it doesn't go as smoothly this time" but making her defend herself or calling her post shallow is not called for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075473 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:02:53 +0000 mrscobee 2075473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: Haha! I know you did. That's why I made the edit. No worries - I wasn't offended. Also, my posts on here are certainly never perfect. Who has time to perfectly edit their posts? I am just in the camp that there would be worse problems on earth than having to go up a size for a couple months :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075471 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:01:09 +0000 PrincessBaby 2075471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrscobee: yes, I owned up to the use of exaggerative wording in another response! I need to be more careful about that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075463 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 14:56:40 +0000 PrincessBaby 2075463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ash: I was just asking for experiences. But thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075460 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 14:56:11 +0000 PrincessBaby 2075460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@IRunForFun: Sorry if that wasn't clear, but when I said "others" I was speaking of specific people in my life that function that way and are successful. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075429 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 14:43:24 +0000 Ash 2075429@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think any mom out there wants to hold onto their pregnancy weight...<br /> I think this post is extremely shallow. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075425 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 14:40:42 +0000 IRunForFun 2075425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: You said: " That's really what I attribute my success, and the success of others to." That's what made it seem like you were implying it about other people.</p> <p>I just think there's a difference between goal-setting while being realistic and accepting of yourself, and being obsessive and unhealthy, particularly about self-image. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075418 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 14:32:08 +0000 mrscobee 2075418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally understand wanting to look good!! However, it is a little extreme to say "I'd die before returning to work in a bigger size." First world problems...</p> <p>ETA: I know you didn't mean that literally. The reaction just seems extreme. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075415 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 14:30:11 +0000 PrincessBaby 2075415@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@IRunForFun: It's just what I attribute my success to. In different areas of life. And that's all. I can't speak for everyone and whether that's the path for them or not. There are people that I admire professionally and personally, and I have seen them do the same. But I'm sure there are other methods. If someone else's method is different, I don't get offended. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075402 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 14:24:47 +0000 Maysprout 2075402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: goal setting doesn't bother me, i don't think I implied that it does. I wanted to get back in shape to run a 5 min mile as quickly as possible post partum. But I pushed things too quickly and it ended up with injury and frustration and taking longer than it needed to. You're not talking about running but it's the same sort of do or die mentality I've heard from other runners post partum and I think those that fare better in the long run have goals and adjust if post partum challenges come up, sometimes the long game is more important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/losing-the-weight-for-2nd-vs-1st-pregnancy/page/2#post-2075393 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 14:19:06 +0000 looch 2075393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PrincessBaby: I tend not to buy into the notion that 35 is the age where things decline (specifically with fertility) BUT I do have to say, it was a lot more challenging for me to lose weight aged 35 and above, for a host of reasons. It seems like the body also takes longer to recover, so when I am sick, I am sick for longer. </p>