https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 04 Aug 2026 02:42:18 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203614 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 23:36:58 +0000 birdofafeather 1203614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203597 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 23:17:07 +0000 SweetiePie 1203597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very sorry to hear this, my heart goes out to you. :sad:<br /> With both of mine, I opted for a D&amp;C. It's the best way to move on for me. The first time I was going to take the medication but couldn't bring myself to do it. I called and scheduled a D&amp;C and I'm so glad I did.<br /> The 2nd time I scheduled a D&amp;C right away but the soonest they could do it was a week later. It was a dreadful week, worrying it would happen on its own. I can't imagine waiting like that for weeks and weeks going the natural route. We finally did get the D&amp;C and opted for fetal tissue testing. The doctor missed some tissue so I still had a mini natural miscarriage at home and it was some of the worst pain I've ever felt. I would always choose a D&amp;C for that reason alone.<br /> That being said, Only you can make the right decision for you. You can't go wrong with your instinct. xoxo </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203553 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 22:42:36 +0000 LalaYes 1203553@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss! Take it easy this weekend, treat yourself! </p> <p>I had a loss and the baby stopped growing at 6.5 weeks, I just had a natural miscarriage and it was a good choice for me. It was messy, but they next day I had fully recovered physically. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203352 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 21:12:07 +0000 Kate6214 1203352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. </p> <p>Take as much time as you need to grieve. For me it all came in waves, first after the ultrasound, then right before my D&amp;C, then the day after. As much as I thought I was ready, the emotions were just hard to deal with. The best healer has been time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203305 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 20:48:36 +0000 MrsF 1203305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so very sorry for your loss :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203236 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 20:13:50 +0000 crunchy1 1203236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: I am so very sorry. Give yourself the okay to grieve however feels right to you. Take care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203223 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 20:08:22 +0000 Tidybee 1203223@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>what terrible news. so sorry. xoxo </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203197 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 19:57:08 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1203197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203192 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 19:52:22 +0000 MamaCate 1203192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess it is just one of those days. We decided to pick up pizza tonight with everything going on...but we got there and then they had no record of our order! So LO and I are hanging out... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203165 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 19:34:54 +0000 BabyMats 1203165@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203149 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 19:18:11 +0000 MamaCate 1203149@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@junebugmama: I just posted to your wall. Thanks for your honesty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203078 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 18:47:26 +0000 deactivated_account 1203078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. It seems like your husband is being very supportive and nice during this time. I'm sending thoughts and prayers your way!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203058 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 18:35:53 +0000 junebugmama 1203058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaCate: I've had 5. 2 natural and 3 d&amp;c's. I am usually not for medical intervention, however, a natural miscarriage is something I never wish on anyone. With the D&amp;C's it was over and no constant daily reminders of what had happened for weeks. Not that it wasn't on my mind, but seeing the loss through blood and in the toilet was just not the way I ever wanted to see my babies.</p> <p>I'm sorry if it's graphic, but I feel like being upfront and honest is most important. My heart is breaking for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203027 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 18:20:24 +0000 MrsStar 1203027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry! Sending hugs to you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203013 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 18:14:39 +0000 Trailmix 1203013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear this </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203008 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 18:12:51 +0000 delight 1203008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I chose to wait mine out and it was the longest two weeks of my life. Heaven forbid it happens again I'd likely have a D&amp;C. My mc was more painful than labour. Probably because I didn't have pain medication and I was losing something, rather than gaining something. However, I wish my doctor had prepared me for the physical pain. I'm so sorry you have yo go through this :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1203005 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 18:11:05 +0000 mfa_lady 1203005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i am so, so sorry for your loss. i am currently on what i hope is the tail end of naturally passing a missed miscarriage. i found out at 11 weeks (first ultrasound) that development had stopped at 6 weeks. DH and i really wanted to go the natural route, and that is what my midwife suggested also. we really wanted to avoid an invasive procedure unless absolutely necessary, but i would have tried the medicine if things had taken much longer than they did to begin. </p> <p>we waited two weeks for something to happen. when it finally did, three weeks ago, i wrongly assumed it would be over quickly. today was my first day (hope i don't jinx it) in three weeks of no bleeding. this was absolutely the best choice for us, even though it's been hard, because it gave us time to grieve in a different (and unfortunately very tangible) way. </p> <p>this is a decision that only you and DH can make - and one that i'm so sorry you have to make. i'll be thinking of you, lady. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1202988 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 17:59:08 +0000 Pepper 1202988@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. Huge hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1202979 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 17:57:04 +0000 Kimberlybee 1202979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry for your loss. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1202967 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 17:51:59 +0000 MCD919 1202967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so very sorry for your loss :heart: I had a D&amp;C at 9 weeks, the same day I found out the baby had stopped growing. It was the right choice for me because the physical part was over so fast. I barely even spotted afterwards, and got my next period 27 days later. The emotional recovery took much longer though :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1202885 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 17:16:00 +0000 dc yoga bee 1202885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. ((hugs)) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1202869 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 17:07:58 +0000 mlm2934 1202869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry - these decisions are ones none of us should be faced with ***hugs*** for me personally, D&amp;C was the only option I could stomach bc of desire to move on.</p> <p>I'm glad I did too, bc even after waiting a week to have the D&amp;C nothing had started happening naturally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1202844 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 16:58:31 +0000 mrs. 64 1202844@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1202797 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 16:39:37 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1202797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1202793 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 16:38:11 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1202793@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. </p> <p>I've had 3 losses...2 D&amp;Cs due to missed miscarriage and 1 natural miscarriage. Feel free to wall me if you have any questions about a D&amp;C. I found it to be the easiest way for me to deal with the loss directly. Right now, the only issue I'm having is that I had my last D&amp;C in late September, and I'm still bleeding on and off. It's frustrating. Weigh your options and choose the one that's best for you :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1202784 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 16:36:58 +0000 MamaCate 1202784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>thank you all for your kind words. it really sucks but it helps to feel so much support from all of you ladies.</p> <p>DH came home and took me out to lunch which was a nice distraction. at this point, i am planning to try the medication route and trying to decide whether to start tomorrow or saturday. in the meantime i went to trader joe's and bought a lot of random snacks to munch on and distract myself.</p> <p>It is helpful to hear so many of your experiences and it makes me feel less alone even though I wish none of us had to be in this boat... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1202775 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 16:35:18 +0000 cascademom 1202775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1202769 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 16:33:09 +0000 Freckles 1202769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1202766 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 16:32:17 +0000 heartonastring 1202766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so very sorry :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/loss/page/2#post-1202740 Thu, 07 Nov 2013 16:26:06 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1202740@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss :sad: </p>