https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 04:46:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270880 Sat, 25 Aug 2012 13:02:41 +0000 Andrea 270880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine are acts of service. It has always been most important to me, before and after kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270799 Sat, 25 Aug 2012 10:40:23 +0000 chopsuey 270799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Words of affirmation and acts of service were always my top 2! Still my top 2 post baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270743 Sat, 25 Aug 2012 09:15:55 +0000 winniebee 270743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: I'm just like you!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270734 Sat, 25 Aug 2012 09:04:20 +0000 Mrs. Pen 270734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: that's what I thought you meant, but @Mr. Coco Bee: thought you meant something else lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270659 Sat, 25 Aug 2012 03:19:37 +0000 mrbee 270659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: i just meant that there's less time, so the parents often end up getting less quality time and touch with each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270630 Sat, 25 Aug 2012 00:32:43 +0000 HLK208 270630@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think acts of service &amp; positives affirmations are more important to me after having children when it use to be all physical &amp; gifts.</p> <p>I like to know that I'm not alone in taking care of the household, kids and finances so if DH can pitch in when he's not working I feel so relieved and less stressed. Then at times when I am feeling like its all on me, I need his encouragement to keep me going.<br /> Whereas before kids, I liked being more affectionate and now I don't think that's as appropriate in front of our kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270616 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 23:55:49 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 270616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok so I was like pulling teeth but I got my husband through the quiz!<br /> He was a solid "Acts of service"<br /> While I was "affirmative words"<br /> I don't see these changing after baby but who knows! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270598 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 23:19:41 +0000 Mrs. Pen 270598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am the wife he speaks of ;)</p> <p>When we got married mine were words of affirmation and physical touch.</p> <p>However, since having LO it would be words of affirmation (still) and acts of service. I LOVE when dh (@Mr. Coco Bee) helps out around the house and with DS, it means so much more to me now that it would have before.</p> <p>@mrbee: most impacted by kids: meaning they are the ones that are most likely to change after having kids; or they're the ones kids most identify with in general? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270587 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 23:04:20 +0000 Mr. Coco Bee 270587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: Haha funny! Well I am sure you know what matches you better than a quiz you take tells you you are. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270586 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 23:02:53 +0000 anonysquire 270586@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I totally thought mine would be gifts or praise. I hate being touched. I wonder if mine will change after kids? Maybe :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270576 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 22:50:36 +0000 Mr. Coco Bee 270576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: That is definitely something to keep in mind when interacting with your children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270566 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 22:39:43 +0000 anonysquire 270566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mr. Coco Bee: That is the one I took. THanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270565 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 22:39:21 +0000 Mr. Coco Bee 270565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There is a quiz you can take if you are not sure just by looking at the descriptions.</p> <p><a href="http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/love/" rel="nofollow">http://www.5lovelanguages.com/assessments/love/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270564 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 22:36:59 +0000 Mrs. Cowgirl 270564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: hahaha! but, of course! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270562 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 22:36:17 +0000 mrs. wagon 270562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Cowgirl: surprise surprise, so are mine. ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270561 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 22:36:12 +0000 anonysquire 270561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok, just took the quiz. I got 12/12 physical touch. I find that so bizarre! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270560 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 22:35:43 +0000 Mr. Coco Bee 270560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@anonysquire: Just read the descriptions of each and pick the ones that most closely represent you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270559 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 22:35:10 +0000 Mrs. Cowgirl 270559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>mine haven't changed -- they were/are quality time and gifts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270557 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 22:30:37 +0000 anonysquire 270557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How do you tell which ones you are? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270555 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 22:29:04 +0000 mrbee 270555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Quality time and physical touch are two of the love languages most impacted by kids! Those are two of my top love languages too... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-languages-did-they-change-since-having-children#post-270548 Fri, 24 Aug 2012 22:22:12 +0000 Mr. Coco Bee 270548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A while ago my wife and I took these tests to determine what our love languages were to best understand how each other would best respond to acts of love.</p> <p>Originally we were both the same, but after LO came along my wife's love languages changed, mine did not :)</p> <p>I am Quality Time and Physical Touch.</p> <p>Here is a list of the 5 love languages as described by Gary Chapman:<br /> <b>5 Love Languages:</b></p> <ol> <b></p> <li>Words of Affirmation</li> <p></b><br /> Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.</p> <p><b></p> <li>Quality Time</li> <p></b><br /> In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.</p> <p><b></p> <li>Receiving Gifts</li> <p></b><br /> Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.</p> <p><b></p> <li>Acts of Service</li> <p></b><br /> Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most want to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.</p> <p><b></p> <li>Physical Touch</li> <p></b><br /> This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.</p> </ol>