https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 02:56:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-25407 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 13:27:13 +0000 DpeachLu 25407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Although I am pregnant with my first ide like to say its:</p> <p>God,<br /> Husband (marriage),<br /> Kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-25341 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 12:50:49 +0000 carrieknitscake 25341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're not pregnant yet, but I like to think that I put my marriage first. We've been married two years before trying. I wanted us to have an established marriage before bringing kids into the picture. I didn't get married for the sole purpose of having kids. I got married because I love my husband and want a life with him, kids included. </p> <p>I know that kids will be a focus in our marriage, but not the only one. I'm happy that we waited to be married a bit before we started trying for kids. I couldn't have imagined kids in the first year of marriage despite being with my husband for 5 years prior. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-25326 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 12:42:36 +0000 mrsguinness 25326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like I will always put my husband first, but I'm not pregnant yet so I don't know if that will change. I hope that I remain the same and will always be able to give them their own kind of love.<br /> "The fact is, in a family, if mom and dad aren't happy, ain't nobody else happy either. The marriage should be prioritized higher than anything else."<br /> ^This struck a chord with me about my own childhood, and I hope I always remember this!<br /> Interesting article, thanks for posting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-25309 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 12:32:09 +0000 Adira 25309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have children yet, but I definitely agree with this sentiment and what others have posted. Having a good, strong marriage only builds a great foundation for your family. Making sure you prioritize the marriage creates happiness for everyone. Plus, I don't think it's healthy for children to be put first all the time - that's how they become spoiled and entitled, in my opinion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-25308 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 12:31:43 +0000 Mrsbells 25308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rosie Girl: +1 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-25303 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 12:30:17 +0000 tequiero21 25303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i agree with the article. i will put my husband first. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-25294 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 12:24:04 +0000 mekarual 25294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tejbee: I love that second reply, that's exactly how I feel! I'm going to save that for future reference. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-25268 Thu, 01 Dec 2011 12:08:55 +0000 heffalump 25268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree with @Rosie girl. I could never say my hubby comes before my baby, or my baby comes before my hubby. They're both important to me in their own way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-24980 Wed, 30 Nov 2011 23:10:25 +0000 tejbee 24980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I read this article the other day. I saved some of the comments that were posted below the article (I copy and paste things that inspire me into stickies) such as:</p> <p>"Once, as a teenager, I made the mistake of sassing my mother. My father read me the riot act. He said "You're my son and I love you, but your Mother is both my wfe and my girlfriend and NOBODY comes before her. Don't ever forget that " I never did.<br /> They were together for over 40 years when she passed away. I'm 65 now and that is one of my fondest memories. I was lucky to be raised by parents that knew the value of love and respect."</p> <p>and</p> <p>"As a small child, I asked my mother about who she and Daddy loved the most. Her wise reply was that she and my father loved each other first, and that together they loved me: in other words Daddy and mother put each other first and united, they then put me first. What a sense of security and love and self-worth that gave me! I still feel it!"</p> <p>I love those two comments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-24978 Wed, 30 Nov 2011 23:09:32 +0000 Rosie Girl 24978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My marriage and kids go in different places. Each need their own attention and nurturing. I can't really compare the two because they are so different to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-24957 Wed, 30 Nov 2011 22:58:43 +0000 BSB 24957@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know. I just watched a Lifetime movie this past weekend about a women taking her husbands side even after he was abusing their child. I didn't see the beginning, I don't think it was his child, though. But still, I don't think I could stay with my husband if he continued to abuse my children. </p> <p>This is a Lifetime story, though. ;)</p> <p>ETA: Oh, nevermind. My comment doesn't really belong here. LOL. </p> <p>I can see how having a kid is a full time job and sometimes you have put your kids before your marriage, since they are young and need more attention and you have to steer them in the right direction. I don't think it's good to put your marriage second, though. I will probably need to be reminded to put my husband first sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-22171 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 13:19:42 +0000 runsyellowlites 22171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is DS's stepdad, but our marriage still comes first. We are a single unit that create the stable foundation that DS stands on.<br /> If DH and I keep our marriage solid then we keep the foundation of our family solid. That simple.</p> <p>Now DH and I both have a full heart for DS and will for all of our future children... and in that we both get to give each other little "wake up" calls when we get lazy or complacent or self seeking and that keeps us together as a single unit too.</p> <p>I've watched marriages AND families fall apart b/c the husband and wife lost sight of each other and mothers (primarily) focused and got their fulfillmet in/through their kids &amp; taking care of them instead of taking care of their husbands.</p> <p>We even had to go through and break that between DH and his mom and created appropriate boundaries b/c she had enveloped herself so much in him. Thankfully we're starting to have a more functional extended family and DH and I hope that we can continue that with our family &amp; children for now and their future. =) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-22163 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 13:02:56 +0000 MsMamaBear 22163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not married yet, but our relationship comes first. We both had happily married parents who were married for years,(his parents and my dad are deceased) so we know first hand how happy it makes the rest of the family if everyone is on one accord. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-22162 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 13:02:48 +0000 junebugmama 22162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband and I have always promised to put our marriage first. He is my number one priority. If we can keep each other happy and our environment loving then our children will feel that and hopefully carry that on into their lives.<br /> Someone who I'm very close to lives the other way. I have slowly watched their marriage go from "perfect" to a hell ride. Arguing, threatening of divorce, and not wanting to spend any time with each other. Her oldest Daughter is 2 and a half and her newest addition 7 months. These children have never spent a single night away from their parents and the longest time they have been baby sat is 3 hours. They don't ever get a chance to reconnect because those children are her total focus. It's sad to say, but I'm just waiting for them to get divorced. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-22153 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 12:13:42 +0000 eeh 22153@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have kids yet but we routinely talk about the importance of putting our marriage first. We think of it like this: the kids are a result of our marriage. Without the marriage, the kids wouldn't exist. We also believe that having committed, loving parents is the best thing for our kids so we want to work hard every day to maintain that commitment. We've seen firsthand some sad divorces caused by a shift in priorities and putting the kids before the spouse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-22151 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 12:12:26 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 22151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have kids yet but I think my husband should come first. I think that a marriage requires attention to make it work over the years. I don't want my husband to ever feel lost in the shuffle so to speak. I always feel like if I put my marriage first then my kids will grow up with the knowledge of what a healthy relationship looks like. We want to be a good example to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-22146 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 12:06:05 +0000 Rubies 22146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My marriage comes first because the hubs was my family before LO came along. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/love-your-husband-more-than-your-kids#post-22144 Sat, 26 Nov 2011 12:04:19 +0000 Miss Adia 22144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p><a href="http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/loving-husband-more-kids-key-good-life-181900983.html" rel="nofollow">http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/loving-husband-more-kids-key-good-life-181900983.html</a></p> <p>I put this in general parenting. Has anyone read this article yet? The title makes you kinda go O_O, but then she goes on to write a pretty good article with some valid points.<br /> Basically she says women in America have shifted their priorities where they put the kids above the marriage.<br /> So, in your own life, do you put your kids before your marriage? </p>