https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 22:07:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-504718 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 07:17:36 +0000 Cherrybee 504718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a confession to make. I (gasp!) totally used to think this! </p> <p>My friend had kids young - and in quick succession. By the time her youngest was born, she had three under 5. When her eldest was a newborn it wasn't such a problem - I understood that she couldn't get out as much so I made the effort to go and visit her (and the baby) and she made the effort to get out and meet me for drinks/coffee etc occasionally. But by the time there were toddlers in the mix - well, to be honest, I felt there was no point visitng her because the only interraction I got was with said toddlers, who wouldn;t leave me alone. Literally, my friend and I wouldn't exchange two words for the entire time!! So (gasp!) I stopped going to see her. And, of course, she stopped coming out to meet me. Now I undestand that this is because it's just not practical, affrodable, possible - but at the time I thought it was because she simply preferred spending time with her kids and chose not to make other plans. It didn't help that when we did speak ALL she could talk about was her kids. ALL her FB statuses are about her kids - their bowel movements, what they ate today. Of course, now I know it's because she is lonely, because she simply has nothing else to talk about. She's stuck in that house day in and day out with three little children and, although she loves them and loves her life, I'm sure she'd appreciate a bit of adult company. </p> <p>But yeah, there it is. I used to think that people who had kids wrote their friends off because they didn't need them anymore. I refused to buy the busy thing. Now they had kids, their life was complete! </p> <p>I'm going to go out of my way (she says, now, naively!) to make sure I don't lose my friends when I have my LO - and that's ging to mean making time for them, even if it's just a text when I'm on the loo!! I need them too much!!!!!</p> <p>Ps - we're still friends. I grew up and got over myself - and fortunately I never let on to her that this how I felt (phew). Oh and I do get it now, I promise!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-504703 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 04:54:46 +0000 lomom 504703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have kids yet (currently expecting #1) and I suffer from "snapshot" view of parenting. Every time I do see my friends with kids, they look great, the kids are well-behaved and well-mannered, and it's easy to falsely assume that they're always this relaxed and well-behaved, which would make day to day pretty easy!</p> <p>Because I just see the good, it's hard to realize, as a non-parent, that tantrums exist and can be a daily occurrence and that they don't always sit quietly and color. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-504645 Tue, 15 Jan 2013 00:22:23 +0000 JoeysMama 504645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So great! There is no way of knowing exactly how "constant" children are until you have them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-504489 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 21:59:49 +0000 BKCaribBaby 504489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This question has to be made up. I just don't think there are people that clueless, but perhaps they do in fact exist. I assume all of my friends with kids are way too busy (As a matter of fact, I feel like I am bothering them, so I leave them alone). Either way, this question seems like they are in out of space if they can't see from friends and strangers how much energy small kids require. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-504407 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 21:07:30 +0000 Bao 504407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>haha I love it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-504313 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 20:32:40 +0000 Mrs. Pen 504313@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love this! Great response :)</p> <p>Sometimes though, I'll be honest, I'm not very busy. Often DS will play on the floor and as long as I sit on the floor with him, he will play on his own and that is my time to hellobee and Facebook:) there are times during the week that I am not busy and DH helps a lot on the weekends to give me time for myself and vice versa. M<br /> But I also understand the busyness factor of it! Meeting needs, keeping him from harm, planning daily activities to stave off boredom, preparing meals, cleanup etc... I see both sides of it BUT if anyone without kids said that to me I'd wonder if they were really a friend and cared about me, not just themselves. This person seems very self absorbed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-504234 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 19:59:07 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 504234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How the heck do you expect anything from a mom who is engored if she's stays out for more than 3h?!<br /> I didn't get it either until I had my own...but that question is still so close minded</p> <p>"It's needing 45minutes to do what takes others 15 minutes." &lt;&lt;&lt;GOLD! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-504145 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 19:20:22 +0000 Grace 504145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's awesome. People without kids don't know. And always get answers like "you'll get it when you have kids", or "you just don't understand". This is great. Tells the truth, it's to the point and best of all, no one asked their own friend and created hard feelngs! I say, yeah, post it to Facebook and spread the word! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-504108 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 19:08:10 +0000 Boogs 504108@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: That's where I stole it from. ;p</p> <p>I find that the only friends or people I bother with anymore are the ones who get it or at least try hard to. Otherwise I don't have the patience anymore. </p> <p>The only thing I would have also mentioned that not only do people not want to chit chat on the phone during the time when they are clearing their heads, but it's nearly impossible to be able to hear and focus on a conversation when kids are awake! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-504092 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 19:03:33 +0000 mrsmoreau 504092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I saw that last week and IMMEDIATELY posted it to my FB page. it's awesome. i get A LOT of grief from my friends w/o kids about why i don't "make time" for them anymore. wish i could make time, that would help... ;-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-504041 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 18:38:49 +0000 lemondrop 504041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I saw on FB too, was thinking of posting it here too, glad you did, excellent stuff! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-503987 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 17:51:05 +0000 loveisstrange 503987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I "like" this post. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-503984 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 17:50:12 +0000 Kemma 503984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sorrycharlie: dooooo it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-503983 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 17:49:30 +0000 Mrs. Train 503983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love the answer. That's awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-503981 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 17:48:38 +0000 sorrycharlie 503981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Would I be a terrible, passive aggressive person to post this to Facebook? :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-503972 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 17:43:14 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 503972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-503963 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 17:38:40 +0000 BelugaBean 503963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love it! I know people without kids that seem to think this way. I've been asked to do things spontaneously (actually by people with kids too) and I get confused responses when I say I'm not sure and that it depends on certain things (like if she takes a nap or if she's clingy, etc). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-503962 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 17:38:24 +0000 T-Mom 503962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrskc: I also thought that this person has to be joking and is stupid to ask such a loaded question! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-503961 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 17:37:14 +0000 Running Elley 503961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Kemma: Yes! Me too :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-503956 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 17:36:50 +0000 Running Elley 503956@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boogs: I love it.</p> <p>I honestly didn't understand how different things would be. I wouldn't say that it's necessarily harder or easier than life without a LO but it's definitely different. I know I didn't get it before mine was born! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-503955 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 17:36:19 +0000 mrskc 503955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Bwahaha! Is that person serious in asking that question?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-503954 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 17:34:34 +0000 autumnlove 503954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-503953 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 17:34:27 +0000 Kemma 503953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Gold!</p> <p>My days at home with a three month old now seem to be measured out in 1.5 hour increments of either sleep or awake time!</p> <p>ETA I find life at home with a LO to be quite unpredictable and at this stage I can't really get a lot done while LO is awake so that really only leaves me half the day to do "stuff" like showering, eating or housework! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/made-me-think-of-hb#post-503944 Mon, 14 Jan 2013 17:30:06 +0000 Boogs 503944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What do you all think about this? </p> [attach=186/13/mgmzu6.553x600.image.jpg]