https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 15 Apr 2026 09:19:59 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2044347 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 18:38:51 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2044347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She is SO cute!! (unrelated to your post but I can't help myself!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2044342 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 18:35:13 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 2044342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were at the peds so often because of my daredevil kid I thought they were going to call CPS on us. </p> <p>She burnt her finger - blisters and all - at 7 months because she stuck her hand in a bowl of my mashed potatos.</p> <p>Then there was the time she stacked her toys under my living room window and tried to make an escape for it. </p> <p>She's been walking since 9 months, so that was fun.</p> <p>Rolled off the bed, climbed out of the crib, stacked all her toys and blanket in the corner to use as a trampoline &amp; climb back out after we lowered it to the lowest setting, jumped off our deck (instead of walking down 2 steps), tried to climb a tree, got her finger stick in the fridge (that one required xrays), fell off her bike.....</p> <p>She's also tried to skateboard, turned our bathroom sink into a swimming pool for her dollies &amp; slipped off the wet stool, and used the kitchen chair to unlock our patio door. </p> <p>It basically gets worse as they get older. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2044271 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 17:38:10 +0000 Mama Bird 2044271@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: Such a cute little daredevil baby! :happy: </p> <p>You're not a bad mom! That's how kids learn. You're doing a great job not stopping her unless it's really dangerous.</p> <p>My kid is more cautious, but he's fallen over and busted his nose pretty bad when he was learning to walk, picked up a nasty splinter crawling on a boardwalk, and fallen off a four foot bed head first... luckily he landed on a laundry hamper on his way down. I'm more worried about how much of a party kid he is... hopefully he'll have some sense in his head by the time he goes to college.</p> <p>@birdofafeather: skateboard? I'm impressed! :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2044268 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 17:36:31 +0000 Mae 2044268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Canoli: I definitely am finding that already with LO! The more I pull her away from something the more she wants it. So I've been trying to give her free reign as much as I possibly can and just hover a bit more with the more dangerous stuff (we have some glass-front items that i'm worried about her crashing through!). It is definitely hard to find balance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2044247 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 17:23:14 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2044247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 16 month old has suddenly lost the ability to pay attention to anything....she has a mini trampoline that she face dove off of yesterday....then today she fell off her chair from her table had chairs set and thenI tried to catch her as she fell off the couch at my moms but couldnt. Then she tripped outside and face planted a pile of leaves. It's like she woke up accident prone yesterday. She usually gets a little flustered but is so used to us telling her she's okay she says "okay, okay" a couple times and it's over </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2044239 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 17:18:11 +0000 Canoli 2044239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Offering commiseration. My son is a daredevil as well. He definitely doesn't think before acting. The more dangerous it is the more he wants to try. We also notice the more we say not to do something the more he wants to do it. He constantly has bruises. Heck he trips over air and falls all the time. Daycare called us one day to say he fell out of his chair and he's 3. We have definitely learned to roll with the punches but it took us time. But I would definitely say we hover a lot too. I don't know how to find the balance. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2044204 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 16:56:09 +0000 Anagram 2044204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO has had countless, countless falls, fat lips, busted tongues, bumps on the noggin, etc. Just yesterday she fell and bit her tongue so bad blood was gushing out....it's just part of having a toddler. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2044198 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 16:52:09 +0000 Mae 2044198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@twodoghouse: oh fiona CONSTANTLY has bruises on her head. I can't wait until she has enough hair that I can't see them lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043860 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 14:09:04 +0000 meesker 2043860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it is necessary to always protect D from rolling her head onto the hardwood or bonking it on the metal legs and rails to the coffee table in order to be a good mom, I'm not one because ordinarily I let her roll around a lot more freely. Yes she gets bonks, but I kinda figure it's inevitable and I'd rather her learn to be careful and manage her own body when the stakes are pretty low rather than in a less controlled environment. I of course still try to prevent major injuries, but bumps are going to happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043805 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:48:39 +0000 twodoghouse 2043805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're not a bad mom! Or, if you are I am too? :grin: You know Blake is a wild child too. Like sometimes he has legit bruises on his head because he's crazy and/or following Alice but doesn't really have the balance or stability to be crazy. And he has no instinct to protect his head so I mean he just topples over some times. Obviously I'm not just like "let him fall!" but I also just can't catch him every time, either. I have to change Alice's diaper too, or make bottles, or occasionally pee. When MIL is over she hovers over them both and won't let them just sit there without her hand on them. I don't think that's any way to live, you know? I want them to be independent and want to try new things, even if their perfect little heads get bruised occasionally. I am terrible about coddling him when he falls down, though. I can't help it! He has the sweetest saddest little cry and I just have to pick him up and give him ten thousand kisses every time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043766 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:32:13 +0000 birdofafeather 2043766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my LO has lost 3 toe nails, always has scrapes and bruises and her favorite activity is flying down the driveway with our neighbors on the skateboard. she's 2. so, i get the daredevil thing. i try to create an environment where she's not going to get seriously injured, but otherwise, i let her explore her boundaries and get those bumps and bruises. i think she's pretty aware of her limitations a lot of the time because we've allowed her to fall. she's not cautious, but at this point, she's not reckless either because she knows the consequences. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043739 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:19:15 +0000 Lilbear 2043739@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter is constantly climbing onto furniture and then doing trust falls. So far we have caught her every time but we've had some close calls. One of these days we are not going to make it in time. https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043736 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:18:18 +0000 wheres_c 2043736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We ended up at the ER last week when LO fell climbing off a kitchen chair. He had to have a CT scan done as we thought he might have fractured his skull - luckily he was ok. He's also pierced his ear from a fall too back in march. And he's been bitten by FILs dog.</p> <p>Unfortunately i think we will just have to get used to it. My parents were in and out of the ER with me as a kid, I was just like that too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043735 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:18:02 +0000 Mae 2043735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: I'm tempted to buy bubble wrap in bulk :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043733 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:17:48 +0000 LovelyPlum 2043733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: yep, here too. Ours is also a tear-licker (weirdo), so she usually has to stop freaking out in order to push her away ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043732 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:17:20 +0000 Modern Daisy 2043732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh please, this is totally normal! My son regularly split his lip open and got black eyes during this phase. But each time he would learn and eventually he got really good at avoiding the bumps and bruises. Don't beat yourself up since there is little you can do to protect them during this phase :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043728 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:15:31 +0000 gotkimchi 2043728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: my lo pulled a a nightstand down on her around 9 mo </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043722 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:13:49 +0000 Adira 2043722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: haha, yeah, good luck! And once Xander learned how to walk, he immediately learned how to run and jump!! He's a lot better now, but when he first learned to run, he was always tripping over his own feet and falling. You kind of get used to it (hopefully). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043715 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:09:45 +0000 Mae 2043715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: oh man I am not looking forward to when she gets big enough to climb. I guarantee she will be a climber and a jumper lol. I'm hoping we make it to 18 mo before she figures out how to crawl out of her crib but I'm not counting on it. </p> <p>@LovelyPlum: Thank God for dogs. Guaranteed tear-stopper in this house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043707 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:06:37 +0000 LovelyPlum 2043707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First: in no way are you a bad mama. Period.</p> <p>G is a daredevil, too, though in a slightly different way. Mostly,she wants to climb up, not dive down. She really likes pulling up on our dining room chairs, which are lightweight ones from Ikea. Once, she squarely held on to the back of it with both hands reaching up as far as she can go, and she and the chair fell straight backwards. That was awful. She cried and cried...until she got distracted by the dog. So yeah, I feel you.</p> <p>I know that kids bounce back super quickly, but it is hard not to hover. I think our worst moment was when she touched our radiator in the split second we had our head turned. And it's not like we can block those completely. That felt awful, too. But again, she just seemed to forget about it after a few snuggles and some milk. </p> <p>I have no answers, sorry. But sending so many :hugs: your way </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043706 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:06:19 +0000 Adira 2043706@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kids are pretty resilient! You've got to let her learn on her own, as hard as that may be!</p> <p>Xander's a daredevil too. Once (on my watch), he decided to stand up on one of the kitchen chairs and then just fell off it and smacked his head on the tile floor! BIG bump and bruise!! But he's never fallen off a chair since then! :P He also likes to climb up on things and then just jump off. His legs are constantly covered in bruises. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043703 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:04:57 +0000 Mae 2043703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AmandaB8: We do that most of the time. We wait for her reaction (which like I said is more often than not to totally ignore that she fell lol) or if she starts to be upset we'll go "oops you fell!" and try to distract her with a toy. But this was not a normal fall, she really conked herself and I could tell it hurt her. :( </p> <p>@SleepyMonkey: I try to remember that babies are much tougher than we give them credit for! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043701 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:03:06 +0000 SleepyMonkey 2043701@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dd1 used to fling herself backwards all the time while she was sitting up between the ages of 6-10 months. On hardwood floor. We couldnt be there every single time or always have her on soft bedding. So she hit her head a lot. But she learned, and your daughter will too! Babies are very robust...they've survived in much worse conditions for a long time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043700 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 13:01:58 +0000 AmandaB8 2043700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most of the time it scares them when they hit something or fall, not necessarily hurts. Think about it when you take a corner wrong and hit the wall - you usually yell out, but it's because it shocked you and didn't necessarily hurt. </p> <p>Instead of coddling, we usually say something like "oops! you fell! that was scary, huh? you're okay!" If she keeps crying after a few seconds, then we cuddle (or if she crawls to us for cuddles). We don't rush over to her at all (unless she's obviously HURT or she fell far) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/make-me-feel-better#post-2043693 Wed, 28 Jan 2015 12:58:31 +0000 Mae 2043693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm struggling. </p> <p>I"m trying really hard to go against my base nature and not be a helicopter mom. We have the really dangerous stuff taken care of (stairs gated, tall bookcases anchored, cabinets secured), but short of sticking her in a padded cell with only stuffed animals it is impossible to protect her from everything (and then we'd have to worry about smothering! lol). And I do believe that I need to give her room to explore and to test limits and to get some bumps and bruises so that she learns how to use her body and how to evaluate what is safe. Mostly I'm okay with the bumps and bruises and more often than not she doesn't miss a step when she falls over/into something. </p> <p>But. </p> <p>My baby is a daredevil. She started trying to stand independently before she ever pulled up. She refuses to hold onto anything for more than a second before trying to let go and balance/attempt to walk. And I feel like she gets a more-than-average amount of bumps. </p> <p>This morning I was cleaning up her high chair tray in the sink after breakfast and she was sitting on the floor next to our breakfast table. She tried to stand up, fell back, and hit her head on the wrought iron chair. And she waiiiiled. And I felt HORRIBLE. Like worse than I've felt about anything maybe except the time I accidentally cut her finger when trying to clip her nails and we ended up in urgent care. </p> <p>I picked her up and hugged her and took her to pet the dog and she was fine 1 minute later. She acted totally normal the rest of the morning and I don't even see a red mark where she hit so it must not have been too bad. But ugh. I just struggle with when to intervene and when to not. Do I move her every single time she is near hard furniture? Do I let her pull up on things when I know there is a good chance she's going to let go and topple 3 seconds later? I mean... I feel like I have to give her a little space and not shoo her away from all the furniture or else I"m going to drive myself and her nuts, and she'll never learn how to safely be around furniture. But ugh. Just feeling like a crap mom this morning.</p> <p>So make me feel better. Regale me with tales of your kid get bumped, bruised, and/or maimed on your watch.</p> <p>Tiny daredevil baby says: Turn around for 2 seconds and I'm going to leap over the edge of this crib mom. </p> [attach=4140/15/niwfdq.425x600.Screen-Shot-2015-01-28-at-1.00.05-PM.png]