https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 10:31:33 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-changes-to-carpool-arrangements#post-2330425 Thu, 22 Oct 2015 13:33:15 +0000 Freckles 2330425@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lemon-Lime: @Cole: Haha, that would be a good reason except DS is 11 months old - i have 1 month left of my mat leave. </p> <p>@MrsSRS: I think i'm just going to suggest alternating mornings and afternoons. When the weather starts getting colder, it's going to be harder to stroller/babywear 3 kids! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-changes-to-carpool-arrangements#post-2329284 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 17:18:46 +0000 MrsSRS 2329284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you offer to alternate mornings and drop afternoons altogether? Maybe say that LO needs some time with you because of the new baby? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-changes-to-carpool-arrangements#post-2329196 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 16:00:50 +0000 Cole 2329196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I would go with the new baby angle! I would think they would understand that in the early days of a new baby that it would be hard to keep up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-changes-to-carpool-arrangements#post-2329150 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 15:34:06 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2329150@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is tough! So you're not just picker upper, you're also child care provider for a bit. </p> <p>I'd approach it from the stand point your schedule is changing now that you're on mat leave. That doesn't cast blame on him or your LO. Would you still want them to take her to school? Maybe you can provide relief for them in some mornings and the afternoon is just nixed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-changes-to-carpool-arrangements#post-2329111 Wed, 21 Oct 2015 15:03:02 +0000 Freckles 2329111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This feels like a silly question, but i need to handle this situation delicately because it involves a family who are our friends and next door neighbour.</p> <p>My daughter goes to the same pre-school as our neighbour's son, and we arranged for them to do drop-offs and us to do pick-ups. It makes sense to just carpool since we literally live next door to one another. At the beginning it was great, and their son would come over to our house and hang out for 30-60 minutes. But now almost 2 months in, DD isn't so thrilled when he comes over and i feel so frazzled dealing with 3 kids while trying to get dinner ready. Also when i pick them up in the double stroller, they almost always start fighting - he is super sensitive and DD loves to provoke him. I always feel like i need a stiff drink by the time i get home!</p> <p>Since i'm still on maternity leave, i would like to just pick up DD early so we can hang out together but then that would mean he would be at home with his sisters until his parents got home. His sisters have a hard time looking after him (he can be a handful) so i'm not sure if his parents would be on board with him being home so early.</p> <p>I'm sure the arrangements will change once i'm back at work, but i'm wondering how to bring up making changes to our current arrangement? I wouldn't mind having 1-2 days during the week when we are just responsible for our own kid. But i don't want them to get the wrong idea and think it's because of their kid. </p>