https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 02 May 2026 15:28:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-648691 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 21:05:42 +0000 Springtime 648691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's seriously so hard! Sure I have friends but now we are all at such different life stages and don't have the same interests in common =/ I wish I could make mommy friends!! DH has friends and he always goes places and hangs out with them. I get lonely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-648685 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 21:00:23 +0000 Pirouette 648685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard!! I'm looking forward to having a baby so I can meet new mommies (I mean that's not WHY I want a baby haha), but until I get pregnant, I feel very much in an in between phase... Not really in the same place as my single friends but don't have a lo yet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-648437 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 18:02:47 +0000 lomom 648437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Church! I went through RCIA and made some wonderful friends! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-648430 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 18:00:24 +0000 honeybear 648430@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the key is finding something you like to do/a place you like to go and doing it/going there regularly. I've moved every year for the past five years (!), and this is basically the only way I have found to make friends. So for example, if you like to cook, take a cooking class, or if you like going to the beach/park, hang out there (if you can take a toddler, you'll make friends every time you go!). If your LO is really little, it will likely take more time. I didn't start taking LO on non-essential outings other than walks until 9 mos or so, but once we started going to parks, etc, we quickly met people (I am also now well-acquainted with the local park rangers!). It's a numbers game--the more people you meet, the more likely you are to find a friend. But getting out to meet people is hard during the first year, so just give yourself time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-648366 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 17:19:45 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 648366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We moved 3 years ago and I do have some friends now. It was very lonely at first. One good friend I met at my first job here. Pretty much all my other friends are neighbours. We are all similarly aged and all our husbands work for the same company. They all have babies though so sometimes I don't fit in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-648338 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 17:01:52 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 648338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It probably helps that I'm an extrovert. We moved to a new part of the country 3 years ago. I meet friends:<br /> 1) at work<br /> 2) neighbors- Our across the street neighbors became some of our very best friends (even though we don't live across the street anymore!)<br /> 3) baby classes<br /> 4) our child's school<br /> 5) our realtor<br /> 6) one special online friend who I managed to bridge the gap to good couple friends with :)</p> <p>Potential friends are everywhere you just have to follow through on the spark! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-648329 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 16:53:55 +0000 prettylizy 648329@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only really new person in my social circle that didn't marry or was a coworker is another mama I met via my doula on Facebook. We go walking once a week with our kiddos and I'm trying really hard to cultivate a real friendship out of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-648292 Sun, 17 Mar 2013 16:32:59 +0000 mrs. 64 648292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for all the support and suggestions guys! I'm glad to know I'm not the only one that struggles with this!</p> <p>@Mrs. Sketchbook I'd love to see that blog post and I'm sure other bees would too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-644203 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 10:13:57 +0000 betsyboop 644203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My new friends have pretty much all been mommy friends. I also met a couple of good friends through volunteering before I had LO. I've also met friends randomly by having a dog and when I was going to pilates every day. I think it's pretty hard to make friends if you're not working! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-644115 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 09:56:53 +0000 littlek 644115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TurtleDoves: LOL, that doesn't work. :) I think if you said that as an adult, the person might think you are crazy. Why is she looking at my iphone case.. </p> <p>We just moved to a new neighborhood and I am at a new job, so I am working on this too. I started a book club in our neighborhood, so I'm meeting people that way. I'm also trying to meet some of the other parents at LOs daycare. I figure I'll eventually make some work friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-644107 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 09:55:19 +0000 oliviaoblivia 644107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I moved countries for DH and found myself with no friends that weren't his friends wifes or girlfriends. Even then not REALLY friends. I used to make friends through work, but I only have two coworkers so that's a dead end.</p> <p>What helped is...<br /> 1. We got a dog. I was out of the house a few times a day with an adorable conversation starter.<br /> 2. I got pregnant and assaulted any other pregnant lady I saw on the street. I found that making friends for my LO to play with made me drop the awkwardness of approaching people looking for friendship.<br /> 3. Just recently. I've been getting together with other moms from HB.</p> <p>That said its taken three years and I'm not totally thrilled with my social situation, it's definitely a work in progress. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-644080 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 09:45:45 +0000 kjpugs 644080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nearly friendless person in Florida, here!</p> <p>When I moved to Indiana I met DH and became friends with some of his friends, and some through work. Then we moved to FL. I have one running friend I met on weddingbee actually, and a few CASUAL friends from my sorority alum chapter. Besides them, I have become friends-by-association with a few of my husband's best friends from work's wives, and I generally like them. But I do miss having GOOD friends like, hang out and watch a movie or call them crying about something friends, in my area. I hope I'll make some good friends post-baby with other moms!!!! That's a few of my mom's best friends, that she met through us kids! FX! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-644060 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 09:41:00 +0000 Foodnerd81 644060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cole: I was totally going to mention MWF Seeking BFF-- it was really cute, plus it made me feel less alone and weird about worrying about finding new friends. </p> <p>I have a decent number of friends that were acquaintances in college, or the girlfriends/wives of DH's friends (his college friends are all still really tight, where mine have scattered, geographically, so it's harder). It's hard to take that from the level of 'hanging out when we all get together in a group' to 'making plans just to two or three of us'. I have one good friend from work where we hang out outside of work sometimes, but to be honest, it wouldn't have happened if she didn't push it, I would have been too lame too. </p> <p>Like @Cherrybee: said, i think a lot of people are in the same boat, so I try to push myself to take the first step and have been moderately successful. I'm hoping to make some local mom friends once LO gets here, especially in my new neighborhood when we move! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-643883 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 08:56:51 +0000 JoJoGirl 643883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most of the friends I've made in my 30s have been through some kind of 'shared experience'... ie I go out and do activities that make me happy and meet other women and it grows from there. I was really into the local salsa scene for a while and have a tons of friends from that, or more recently from the gym! I met a couple of women in a boot camp class and we've hung out since then and become friends. Work is another good one although that's kind of a crapshoot (and it depends on the industry and that 'boundaries' thing... ). Once I have LO i am going to be seeking out new moms, although randomly I have 5 pregnant local friends right now so may not need to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-643822 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 08:43:03 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 643822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been trying to do a lot more friend-making recently! It is my goal for this spring sctuslly. Maybe I'll write a post on the subject? Thanks for the idea!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-643813 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 08:40:44 +0000 swurlygurl 643813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only new friends I've made since being out of school have been people at work. It's hard when you're an adult! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-643595 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 07:23:40 +0000 Cherrybee 643595@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You'll probably find that those people you have clicked with but have not yet bridged the gap into being friends are also wondering the same thing! Start up a conversation about something random next time you see them and then say "hey, we should get coffee some time!" And then actually do it! Be the one to text first! Be the one to arrange that coffee!! I've made friends at every workplace I've ever worked at and many of these relationships lave lasted until the present day.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-643579 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 07:12:14 +0000 buffalove 643579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I met a new mommy friend at the swimming class I enrolled DS in. Other than that, my new adult friends are from work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-643571 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 07:08:12 +0000 Mrs.B 643571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: Same</p> <p>I also can't seem to find the time to try to make a friend. I usually don't mind but it would be nice to have a friend to talk to and do things with on occasion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-643435 Fri, 15 Mar 2013 04:38:56 +0000 illumina 643435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I just meet people through work. Spend more and more time chatting at work, realise we get on well and start doing things outside of work. I make new friends on a relatively regular basis. DH is the opposite, he says it takes him ages to make friends and his friends are those from high school and uni where you are forced into meeting people. Bless! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-642900 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 21:38:15 +0000 mrskc 642900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's hard. I struggle with this and I don't have many friends. I think you have to be persistent and give it time. Start asking then to lunch or coffee or to go shopping. Keep inviting them to do things, if you guys click, the friendship will grow over time. My DH had a coworker and was always asking my DH out to do things. My DH wasn't all that interested at first in making new friends but they started hanging out more and more and they found they have a lot in common. Now they are good friends. The guy was persistent and kept asking my DH to do stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-642892 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 21:36:53 +0000 Beebug 642892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Schedules with kid(s) make it soooo different now.</p> <p>I think sports and clubs are a biggie. Neighbours are big for us for "newer" friends. I would say work too, but just such a fine line. My office is really cliquey and I don't want in the clique, but I do really love a few of the girls that are "in" but of course their loyalty lies in the clique so trust can only go so far.</p> <p>Mom friends with babies of common age are definitely important, but sometimes I find aside from having LOs we don't have a ton in common beyond them! Not a bad thing, but just not always a reason to be friends as silly/awful as that sounded typing out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-642876 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 21:32:07 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 642876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: same:(</p> <p>It's so awkward as an adult. Kids are so free &amp; uninhibited :) now I just feel creepy if I walk up to someone and in like "hey, I have the same phone case! Lets be friends".</p> <p>Plus obviously you want to factor in parenthood, work &amp; home life and it's like..."will this persons schedule fit in with mine.." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-642866 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 21:29:32 +0000 Mrs. Pen 642866@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I pretty much have no friends... I mean I have so many acquaintances that I met through our church group - they're similarly aged and most of them also just started having babies. But like you I have been able to bridge the gap between friendliness and becoming friends. </p> <p>I tried checking out meetup.com but there were no groups in my area. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-642855 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 21:27:24 +0000 Boogs 642855@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I kinda just don't. I'm lazy and I'm an introvert. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-642333 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 20:14:17 +0000 OCmama 642333@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I moved cross country a few years ago and it was SOOO hard meeting new friends. I have met some but most of my closest friends are still the ones from college. I actually joined a women's organization to meet people. Turns out... others were doing the same! So I have met some of my "new" friends that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-642276 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 20:07:05 +0000 Cole 642276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really wish I was better at this! I have found that somehow having repeated, consistent interactions with people is key for me-- so going to the library at the same time each week I started to get to know the librarian and we are planning to grab lunch together. MWF Seeks BFF was a cute book about this very thing and she had a bunch of good tactics and I didn't feel so alone in my quest! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-642221 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 19:59:47 +0000 MsMini 642221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was really tough for me when I moved. I made "work friends" but I rarely saw them out of work. Since S was born I joined a Mommy group and now I am making "mommy friends" that is pretty awesome! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-642199 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 19:57:41 +0000 T-Mom 642199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most of my friends I've made since moving here are mommy friends from work! Also mommies I have met at the playground. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/making-friends-as-an-adult#post-642159 Thu, 14 Mar 2013 19:51:51 +0000 Bao 642159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Good question. I am wondering the same thing! </p>