https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 05 Apr 2026 14:17:40 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs/page/2#post-2127246 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 18:28:05 +0000 thisisme 2127246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@twodoghouse: @2littlepumpkins: @Kimberlybee: thanks! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs/page/2#post-2127195 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 17:23:11 +0000 Kimberlybee 2127195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@thisisme: Yay and WOW, congratulations on your bundle of joy! So happy to hear about your hard but happy outcome of a journey. He is so cute!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs/page/2#post-2127158 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 16:45:16 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2127158@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@thisisme: So sweet! I was just sort of curious and clicked on to this thread and it was nice to see that you had updated with a happy ending to your story. Congratulations! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs/page/2#post-2126976 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 13:59:57 +0000 thisisme 2126976@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tam: Of course! It's great that you're going to the urologist to get some answers as to why he's azoospermic! It really helped me to think of all of the information we gathered at appointments (even "bad news") as more power to help us in decision making and one step closer to our eventual family.</p> <p>We actually saw two urologists. The first one did a physical exam, didn't feel a vas deferens, and basically told us we needed to do IVF. Once we finally had a consultation with our RE, he referred us to a reproductive urologist who also did a physical exam and agreed that DH had probably been born without a vas deferens. He took some blood from DH to confirm the diagnosis, looking for the CF gene mutation that causes CBAVD. He also ran a hormone panel on DH, which came back normal, indicating that he was probably producing some sperm, but it just couldn't mix with his semen. I know there are other causes of azoospermia, too, but I'm not sure what other tests or treatments you might encounter. I did peruse many of these blogs: <a href="http://www.stirrup-queens.com/a-whole-lot-of-blogging-brought-to-you-sorted-and-filed/diagnostics-room/" rel="nofollow">http://www.stirrup-queens.com/a-whole-lot-of-blogging-brought-to-you-sorted-and-filed/diagnostics-room/</a> and I especially liked this one: <a href="https://soonafamily.wordpress.com/" rel="nofollow">https://soonafamily.wordpress.com/</a></p> <p>Anyways, once the urologist ran those tests, we scheduled his sperm extraction. It was an outpatient procedure in the urologist's office. We had to first drive to my RE's office to pick up a vial of liquid in which to transport the sperm (and we had to drive it back to my RE after the procedure). It was a quick procedure, maybe 20 minutes. DH had a shot of local anesthetic... he said that was the worst part of the actual procedure. Then the urologist made a small incision in one of his testes and removed a tiny piece of tissue. DH had a couple of dissolvable stitches. He was very uncomfortable for about 24 hours (lots of ice, laying on the couch, and I can't remember which pain meds he was given). He could walk more easily the next day, but was still sensitive for a good week or so.</p> <p>After I dropped the specimen off at my RE's, they checked to make sure there were live sperm (we got a couple hundred), and they froze it in two batches until we were ready to do ICSI after my egg retrieval the next month.</p> <p>All in all, not super fun, but totally worth it looking back with baby at home a year later!</p> <p>I hope you get some answers soon and move on to the next step towards making your baby! :heart: Let me know if you have any other questions or just need to chat! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs/page/2#post-2126516 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 09:13:07 +0000 Tam 2126516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@thisisme: Hi There. Thank you so much for replying. Yes, i would like to find out as mush as possible, if you wouldnt mind sharing your experience i would really apreciate it :happy:<br /> My husband went for a SA last year and got the bad news. i have an appointment to see the Urologist this week as I would like to find out the cause and if there is anything we can do to fix it. What sort of tests will they do on DH in order to find out the cause of Azoospermia ? i soooo badly want a child and cant imagine my life without one. Its so nice to actually be able to speak to someone who has gone through what i am dealing with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-2126507 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 09:07:19 +0000 twodoghouse 2126507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@thisisme: Your son is so beautiful! So glad to hear of happy outcomes like this! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-2126490 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 08:59:02 +0000 thisisme 2126490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Tam: Yes... I don't post often, but I still check the boards occasionally and get notifications! :) I found a couple of your other posts, and I'm so sorry that you've received that same gut-wrenching news we did! It completely sucks knowing that you'll never conceive naturally. Our journey does have a happy ending, though. My five month old son is napping right now!</p> <p>The week after I started this thread, we followed up with a urologist, who diagnosed my DH with a Congential (Bilateral) Absence of the Vas Deferens (CAVD or CBAVD). Basically, he's a carrier for a cystic fibrosis gene, and one of the possible manifestations of that is that he doesn't have a vas deferens, the tube that allows sperm to exit the testes. The urologist (who had a terrible bedside manner) informed us that we would have to do IVF to conceive.</p> <p>We took a couple of months to process this news, and then started preparing for IVF in Nov. 2013. DH had a testicular sperm extraction (I've seen the acronyms TESE, TESA, and MESA used, but I'm not sure what the differences are) in Jan. 2014. I'd be happy to share more info on our experience if you'd like!</p> <p>Then we did IVF with ICSI in Feb, got a :bfp: in March, and welcomed this precious boy in November: </p> [attach=4141/15/nm12ue.600x400.20weeks.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-2126343 Mon, 30 Mar 2015 07:08:24 +0000 Tam 2126343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@thisisme: hi there are you still active on the Hellobee website ? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040872 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 21:10:29 +0000 MapleMoose 1040872@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sending hopeful thoughts to you and your husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040784 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 20:16:45 +0000 silver1 1040784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im so sorry hugs. Hoping you stay strong for each other and find a way forward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040766 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 20:08:00 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1040766@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry... Big big hugs. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040470 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 16:15:09 +0000 Shutterbug 1040470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. We have some MF issues, but our official diagnosis is unexplained infertility. There are lots of options still, from corrective procedures to donor sperm, but it's ok to be sad about it. Every time I get a bad diagnosis/outcome, I try to look at the positives. A new piece of information will get you one step closer to a successful outcome, however you end up getting there. Big huge virtual hugs to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040462 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 16:10:41 +0000 sarac 1040462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. You have so, so many options ahead of you - and your family is still waiting to be created. The process to create it might look different than you'd thought it would, but in the end, you will have it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040460 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 16:09:40 +0000 BoogieBea 1040460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry about the news. Big hugs to you! I hope you and your husband are able to support each other through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040422 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 15:53:12 +0000 deactivated_account 1040422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@thisisme: If your DH absolutely cannot produce sperm, does he have any male siblings from which you can get the sperm? I have never seen anything on Hello Bee about donor eggs/sperm so I don't know how comfortable anyone is with talking about that subject. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040334 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 14:51:09 +0000 PEAPIE 1040334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>HUGS :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040319 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 14:44:39 +0000 Mrsbells 1040319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry to hear you got this bad news, Wishing you guys all the best &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040307 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 14:41:08 +0000 brownie 1040307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@thisisme: we suffer from make factor infertility. My husband does not have bad deferens. We did the sperm aspiration and IVF with ICSI for our son. We just did a frozen transfer for our next. </p> <p>My sisters husband does not create sperm at all. They have adopted two wonderful children that have been in their home since birth. </p> <p>You have so many options for creating your family. It will be more challenging in ways but it will be worth it.</p> <p>Stay strong. Having this is the first step towards your future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040299 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 14:38:28 +0000 Trailmix 1040299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry! Our IF was on my side but no matter what, it's a crappy thing to deal with :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040272 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 14:25:58 +0000 Andrea 1040272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry. Sending you a very big hug. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040252 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 14:20:11 +0000 marionberry 1040252@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@thisisme: I only dealt with some minor MI and DH only went through one minor procedure but I feel for you. There are so many couples who deal with this, so know you're not alone. It can be really hard at times, but have faith. In the end, if no physical solution is found for your DH I wanted to tell you that a coworker had a very similar problem and they ended up picking a sperm donor who looked and seemed just like this woman's husband. They created their beautiful children with it and even the kids joke that he's their donor dad. So even what you may think is the end of the road may not be. Hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040248 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 14:18:20 +0000 mrsjyw 1040248@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im so sorry. Hugs and good thoughts for you and you dh </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040245 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 14:17:20 +0000 autumnlove 1040245@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. Lots of hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040238 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 14:16:24 +0000 Ginabean3 1040238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just want to say I'm sorry you are going through this...hang in there! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1040217 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 14:11:33 +0000 thisisme 1040217@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, guys! I had a good cry this morning and then got myself out to go grocery shopping.</p> <p>Just hearing that some of you understand really helps a lot. I haven't been able to talk to anyone in real life. If I had found out that the problem was with me, I would have felt comfortable telling my mom or a really close friend. I want to protect my husband's privacy, though, so I'm really glad you all were here! :) I can't believe how many of you saw this. Thanks soooo much!</p> <p>A question for anyone who has gone through this: If it turns out there is a blockage that can be fixed, what does the TTC process look like after that? I'd google it, but I know better... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1039445 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 11:08:47 +0000 Jellyfish 1039445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry you are going through this *hugs* you have to stay positive and believe that things will work out one way or another. Best wishes to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1039435 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 11:06:03 +0000 Adira 1039435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any advice that hasn't already been mentioned, but I just want to give you a HUGE hug!!!! I can imagine how devastating this kind of news must be to hear!! *hug* &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1039432 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 11:05:05 +0000 Torchwood 1039432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lots of hugs! I'm so sorry. And while I agree that this will be hard for him and you need to be there for him, do *not* refuse to take care of yourself too. Make sure you have the support you need. He may not be able to provide it, but you need to have someone who you can talk to. My thoughts are definitely with you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1039405 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 10:55:29 +0000 looch 1039405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's okay if you cry, it's a good stress reliever!</p> <p>I think this kind of reaction is totally normal and you might even see some denial happening, like the results are not correct, as he comes to terms with it.</p> <p>I'd get a second opinion, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/male-infertility-need-hugs#post-1039401 Fri, 23 Aug 2013 10:53:29 +0000 deactivated_account 1039401@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh gees. This is such a tough situation. I hope you both will be so supportive for each other when you meet up back at home. </p>