https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 23:42:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299886 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 19:21:07 +0000 winter_wonder 2299886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you definitely made the right call. When it comes to physical things like that I think stepping in right away is appropriate. I don't think it makes sense to wait to track down the child's parent to address the situation (your LO could get hurt during that lag time). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299801 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 18:29:32 +0000 Andrea 2299801@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've done the same. We were at the pool and another little girl held my daughter underneath the water. Her mom wasn't paying any attention so I had to speak up. I don't think it's overstepping when your child is being harmed by another person! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299770 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 18:00:31 +0000 hellobeeboston 2299770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: no you didn't overstep at all!!! That makes me mad. I hate when parents don't pay attention to their kids. Ugh. I would have possibly said something to the mom. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299749 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 17:24:00 +0000 BandDmommy 2299749@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2littlepumpkins: the ages ranged from 18 month - 7 years old.. So a mixed bag </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299717 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 16:42:27 +0000 Greentea 2299717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It is so tricky when other people's kids are acting inappropriately and the parents are RIGHT there! I probably would have said, "WHOOPS!" (and stepped in toward them to interfere with the ball) "We don't want to be hitting anyone's face with a ball." Or "Yikes!" "No one wants to get hit with a ball." Just statements of fact anyone could agree to... I do intervene, just try to be as diplomatic as possible. </p> <p>Then said, "Hi" with a smile to the other parent. It is so uncomfortable! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299712 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 16:33:08 +0000 Corduroy 2299712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you always have the right to tell anyone to stop purposefully hurting your child. First time, second time, tenth time. That's just standing up for your kid. IMO overstepping would be something like giving that kid a time out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299707 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 16:20:27 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2299707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: I would say you definitely didn't overstep. Ten times is a lot! That said, how old was the bounce house designated for? If most of the kids are older I may have just tried to steer lo into a different direction. NOT that it makes that girls behavior ok. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299700 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 16:04:44 +0000 beloved 2299700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You did the right thing ! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299693 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 15:55:07 +0000 Torchwood 2299693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs D: Wtf for real. I'm non-confrontational, but I think that mom and I would have had it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299668 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 15:37:45 +0000 yoursilverlining 2299668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh damn, my mama-bear is rawring on your behalf!!!!! When kids are being dangerous, I think it's totally OK to talk to them about their behavior. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299666 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 15:37:21 +0000 gingerbebe 2299666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, I would have taken the basketball away from the kid! I would have asked where her mommy was and then I would have handed the ball to mommy and told her "I'm sorry, I don't mean to overstep, but your child keeps hitting my son in the face with this ball so I thought it would be best to give it to you. Thanks." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299660 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 15:35:03 +0000 looch 2299660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Did you know who the parents were?</p> <p>My son is 5 and if he was doing this, I would want to know but I would appreciate a heads up and let me talk to him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299649 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 15:27:57 +0000 Freckles 2299649@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A basketball is not a foam ball - it can hurt!</p> <p>If the mom was coming up to me I would have said something to her, "I hope you don't think I was overstepping but this was the 10th time she threw a ball at my son's head." And if she is rude about it then I would forget about being nice and make a snarky remark. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299639 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 15:19:19 +0000 rachiecakes 2299639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>NOPE. I would've done the same.</p> <p>If it were me and roles were reversed I would take J out, make him apologize and apologize to the parent as well. Not cool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299635 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 15:16:18 +0000 rattles 2299635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think you were out of line, but I like to try and let kids handle things among themselves (plus I'm wary of workplace politics). If it was upsetting him, I'd have tried to redirect him and then said something if she followed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299627 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 15:13:28 +0000 snowjewelz 2299627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not at all! You did the right thing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299612 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 15:07:03 +0000 MamaBehr 2299612@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have said something the first time she did it. Kids behaving like kids don't bother me, but parents not parenting bother me A LOT! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299608 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 15:05:40 +0000 mediagirl 2299608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: I would have told the 5 year old to stop it after she did it twice. I think you were exceptionally lenient!! Even if other parents are around, I have no problem telling kids to be safe. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299600 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 15:01:27 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2299600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually after something like that happens I say "oh! Be careful!" And hope the other parents take notice. If not I would have asked again and then just removed my kid. </p> <p>So annoying when parents aren't watching and their kid is hurting someone else. :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299583 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 14:50:00 +0000 Mrs D 2299583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I dont think you overstepped at all - not throwing a ball at someones head is a universal way to behave.</p> <p>My policy is - ifs its blatantly wrong and you are not going to parent your child I will - especially if it affects my kid.</p> <p>DH said something to some boys (prob 6-9 y.o.) who were being really rough in the bounce house was DD (2) and other toddlers were in there. He asked them to play nicely while the little kids were in the bounce house. A Mom came and basically told her son he was being fine and not to worry - the little kids need to learn. WTF? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299577 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 14:45:27 +0000 Adira 2299577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think you overstepped at all. If the other parent wasn't watching her kid closely enough to notice it, I don't think it's wrong of someone to step in and say something. If my kid was doing that to someone and I didn't see it, I'd hope someone would stop him too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299569 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 14:40:53 +0000 catlady 2299569@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you did the right thing. I recently chastised a 3 or 4 year for hitting my not-quite-2 year old in the face at the playground. Honestly, I don't really care if the mom thought I overstepped. That kid was way bigger than my kid. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299567 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 14:38:48 +0000 Mamasig 2299567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: you did the right thing. I don't hold my tongue if the parents aren't around. They should be watching their kids and sadly many don't. So if they are messing with my kid, I'll say something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299564 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 14:36:59 +0000 BandDmommy 2299564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamasig: I was hoping she would stop but when I noticed she was following him I realized I had to say something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299561 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 14:36:06 +0000 Mamasig 2299561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. I would have said something after the second time and pointed it out to the mom when she gave me the side eye. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299560 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 14:35:51 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 2299560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely would have said something-and the other mom should have too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299558 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 14:34:53 +0000 lamariniere 2299558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have done the same thing! At 5, she's definitely old enough to know better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299557 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 14:34:24 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2299557@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Heck no. I would have said something to the mom when she walked over too. I had something similar happen with my 2 year old at a mall playground and an older kid, and I both told the kid to back off and ranted out the mom after security literally had to track her down because she wasn't watching her 5 year old who was pushing every kid at the playground around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299555 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 14:33:46 +0000 Synchronicity 2299555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Uhhhhhh, she was hitting him in the face, with a basketball. You did NOT overstep. That mom should have stepped in to control her kid.... I would have been giving her the side eye! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mama-bear-instincts-wwyd#post-2299541 Wed, 23 Sep 2015 14:28:39 +0000 BandDmommy 2299541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were at my husbands work picnic and there was a bounce house and the kids decided to bring basketballs into the bounce house because there was a hoop. I noticed one little girl (age 5) kept following around my son and hitting him in the face with her basketball. About the 10th time she hit him, I said something to the little girl. I nicely asked her not to throw her ball at the other kids. Her mom walked over as I was talking to her and gave me a side-eye. I know they are kids but I do think you should be watching your kid and throwing a basketball repeatedly at my sons head is excessive. Did I overstep my boundaries? </p>