https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 17:52:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mamas-of-1-who-had-a-miscarriage#post-1700397 Sat, 14 Jun 2014 08:30:57 +0000 Ladytron 1700397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes.. Absolutely. As I was being prepped for my D&amp;C the doctor asked if I was still crying before confirming I already had one child and said it's ok, I'm lucky. I have one at home and I'm "young" (over 30 here). Then people mention God will know when we're ready for another. IDK about God, but I was ready 18mo ago when we started trying again, and I was ready when we finally hit gold and found out about baby #2 two months ago, and I was ready when I got to see our LO moving around on the ultrasounds with a strong heartbeat every time. Except Thursday there was no heartbeat. After 11 weeks I had to let go and hasn't stopped hurting, especially when I look at my toddler at home. I know what I'm missing and it makes this loss so much harder for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mamas-of-1-who-had-a-miscarriage#post-1529196 Fri, 28 Mar 2014 10:31:42 +0000 LulaBee 1529196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't feel that way, and I'm thankful. I have thought since my D&amp;C a week ago that I don't know how people who don't already have kids go through this- it's just so, so, hard, and my DD really lifts my spirits. </p> <p>I'm also terrified of getting pregnant/experiencing a loss again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mamas-of-1-who-had-a-miscarriage#post-1516833 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 09:57:04 +0000 Mrsk 1516833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have often wondered this and wonder if it would be any easier to have miscarriages after you already have one child, instead of before, I just want to be a mom so bad, and two miscarriages in a row have been tough. I often wonder what it would have been like to just have my first pregnancy work out, I think it would have been nice to enjoy a pregnancy without so much fear, I'm terrified to get pregnant again. I honestly don't know if I could cope with another.... I often look at a few of my friends and am jealous, not just of their LO, but also that they had a pregnancy with the innocence of not knowing loss. I wish I could have that innocence back. </p> <p>That being said, I know what kind of heart ache a miscarriage is and I think it must be painful no matter if you have 10 LOs running around, a loss is a loss, I don't think any one should feel guilty about grieving. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mamas-of-1-who-had-a-miscarriage#post-1513806 Sat, 22 Mar 2014 10:22:21 +0000 LovelyPlum 1513806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sending you hugs, Mama :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mamas-of-1-who-had-a-miscarriage#post-1513560 Sat, 22 Mar 2014 07:53:34 +0000 Dandelion 1513560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, when I lost S, I lost her. DS lost her, too, which made it all even more sad to me, too. There WERE people who would say to be grateful for the little boy I have, and several have mentioned that this baby I'm having must "make up" for losing S, but no, it doesn't. S was S. DS is DS and LO is LO. If it were up to me, I'd have all 3 of them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mamas-of-1-who-had-a-miscarriage#post-1513550 Sat, 22 Mar 2014 07:45:43 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 1513550@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I did. I felt like it was saying c wasn't enough. </p> <p>Therapy helped me deal with my feelings. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mamas-of-1-who-had-a-miscarriage#post-1513507 Sat, 22 Mar 2014 06:52:51 +0000 Trailmix 1513507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>A loss is a loss, no matter what you have or don't have. My situation is different but I still feel sad about it, even with two babies...I'm sorry for your pain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mamas-of-1-who-had-a-miscarriage#post-1513466 Sat, 22 Mar 2014 05:35:20 +0000 Tidybee 1513466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As a former therapist/clinician, I'm a big believer in letting yourself feel whatever you feel. I let myself be sad but then remind myself that I have the best little girl in the world which makes me feel better. No one should ever feel guilty about being sad after this no matter how good the rest of your life is. We use those things to be resilient and not be consumed by the grief. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mamas-of-1-who-had-a-miscarriage#post-1513325 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 22:23:23 +0000 Weagle 1513325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was just thinking about this today. Our mc happened before LO, but it have two friends that have recently miscarried and both of them have been told this by people. It makes me so sad and mad. Not only is it insensitive, but why shouldn't a parent grieve over the loss of their child? Regardless of when it happens or how many other children they already have? Yes, you are very lucky and blessed to have your daughter, but being sad doesn't mean you're any less thankful for her. You're certainly allowed to grieve however you need to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mamas-of-1-who-had-a-miscarriage#post-1513208 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 21:05:59 +0000 T.H.O.U. 1513208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes to a degree. It really helped to be around D during that time. But it also made it so much harder seeing her and being ready to give her a sibling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mamas-of-1-who-had-a-miscarriage#post-1513200 Fri, 21 Mar 2014 21:03:10 +0000 swedishfish 1513200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you ever feel like you're not "allowed" to be sad about your miscarriage because you already have a child? I feel guilty when the melancholy sneaks in because I know I'm lucky to have R. </p>