https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 02:22:03 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans/page/2#post-2858950 Wed, 28 Nov 2018 23:31:59 +0000 Grace 2858950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: He’s so beautiful! I hope he gets well soon. Your description of c/s recovery vs vaginal is spot-on. That’s exactly how it was for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans/page/2#post-2858903 Wed, 28 Nov 2018 16:31:22 +0000 jhd 2858903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: sorry about your job on top of all the other stress. I echo what @psw27: said. I have had two babies with health concerns and long NICU stays. There’s definitely some grieving involved at not having a typical birth and newborn experience. Allow yourself that but also know that there will be lots of extra celebrations as he reaches new milestones. He’s absolutely precious. I hope you are able to rest and care for yourself at this time. Thinking of you. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans/page/2#post-2858895 Wed, 28 Nov 2018 15:55:38 +0000 lilyofthewest 2858895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Extra shit topping: My per diem job (not my primary employment, thankfully) just declined my request for a leave of absence (I am not FMLA eligible there) and fired me. Intend to appeal through the union since another PRN person took a maternity leave last year. Pretty sure this is actually retaliation for this whole debacle: <a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-screwed-up-at-work-not-sure-how-to-fix-it" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/i-screwed-up-at-work-not-sure-how-to-fix-it</a> This sucks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans/page/2#post-2858816 Wed, 28 Nov 2018 11:54:34 +0000 paigeface 2858816@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thinking of you and your little guy! He is adorable. Prayers he is out of the NICU soon :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans/page/2#post-2858811 Wed, 28 Nov 2018 11:42:30 +0000 psw27 2858811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: Congratulations on your baby boy. I had a premature NICU baby and I know that the mourning of the birth process and the early days is very real, very hard to cope with and very much a feeling of grief (4 years later I still feel that grief). Try to take care of yourself as much as you can. I'm thinking of you and your little guy. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans/page/2#post-2858750 Wed, 28 Nov 2018 08:52:53 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2858750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: what a sweetie. Thanks for sharing that picture! I am glad he’s starting to do a little better! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans/page/2#post-2858745 Wed, 28 Nov 2018 08:38:43 +0000 lilyofthewest 2858745@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nwm: Yeah, this captures it -- thank you. I really wish I'd been told the full truth at/after my anatomy scan so I could have time to prepare for the possibility of changing plans and expectations. As it was, it was less than 3 weeks between me finding out about the placenta and me having a NICU baby even though the information had been there for 3 months. </p> <p>@MRSSCB: Yeah, the level of evidence for pelvic rest, reduced lifting and reduced strenuous activity is limited. If someone had had the informed consent discussion with me that they should have, I very well might have decided not to follow those recommendations. I don't know, tough to say in retrospect. So, maybe I'm glad I wasn't given recommendations that I ignored? I imagine I would be feeling worse about things! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans/page/2#post-2858743 Wed, 28 Nov 2018 08:33:49 +0000 Kaohinani 2858743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: He is absolutely adorable and, obviously, a fighter. 💕 Simply, Congratulations. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans/page/2#post-2858733 Wed, 28 Nov 2018 08:14:21 +0000 lilyofthewest 2858733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p> [attach=3140/18/piwnfx.600x447.Screen-Shot-2018-11-27-at-5.44.26-PM.png] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans/page/2#post-2858732 Wed, 28 Nov 2018 08:13:45 +0000 lilyofthewest 2858732@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Baby is starting to do a little bit better. His PDA has largely closed, his pulmonary hypertension is resolving, and they've been able to wean down his FiO2 and vent pressures a little bit. He's still requiring a *lot* of respiratory support for 32 weeks (well, today would make 33 weeks) but at least things are in the direction of maintaining or removing interventions rather than adding more and more. </p> <p>As for me, I'm feeling a lot better than when I updated a few days ago. The first 48-72h p c-section were *way* worse than the first few days after my vaginal delivery, but in the days since things have gotten better really fast and I am definitely more functional 6-days post section than I was 6-days post vaginal birth. I don't know how much of that is about having a 32-wk pregnancy/baby vs a 42-wk pregnancy/baby or mode of delivery, but, I'll take it. </p> <p>Physically the worst part of my experience was the spinal anesthesia. It felt absolutely disgusting to me. I'm glad I was able to get it and be awake for the birth rather than go under general -- things had been moving in the direction of very prompt c-section for about 10 minutes already before they moved from urgent to decidedly emergent. But...after feeling that...wow. In an "normal" birth situation, I can't imagine electively deciding to get an epidural/spinal rather than feeling labor sensations. </p> <p>With the possible exception of how long it took to give me betamethasone, the hospital staff took great care of me. I think the birth that I had was about as good as it could get given the circumstances. But I'm really sad about the birth and new baby experience that I won't get to have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans/page/2#post-2858290 Sun, 25 Nov 2018 14:26:37 +0000 nwm 2858290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read this less as being hard on yourself than being rightfully frustrated at your care team for not giving you different and more careful advice for a condition they seem to have diagnosed long ago and then not listening to you when you first arrived at the hospital. If that’s the case, you have absolutely every right to feel furious and frustrated. But I hope you can put it out of your mind for now or at least just channel that energy toward healing for you and the little one, and continuing to advocate for yourselves even though you must be exhausted. I have you all in my thoughts and will be checking back here to see how you guys are doing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans/page/2#post-2858258 Sun, 25 Nov 2018 06:59:49 +0000 Amorini 2858258@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no. So sorry to hear he is needing so much support, but so so glad you have it. Please try to take it easy on yourself. You are a great mamma. Sending more hugs. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858255 Sun, 25 Nov 2018 03:57:43 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2858255@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: I just saw your update about baby boy and his struggles. Thinking of you and your family :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858192 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 14:33:34 +0000 MrsSCB 2858192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats!! I’m sorry about the complications, I hope things start to improve for both of you quickly. And please don’t beat yourself up, you did the best you possibly could have! FWIW, recent studies suggest there’s not much evidence that bedrest reduces risks from complications or premature births. I’ve read some really interesting articles. I hope that can help ease some of your guilt, it is truly not your fault in any way. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858155 Sat, 24 Nov 2018 00:06:42 +0000 ElbieKay 2858155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: I was just catching up on this thread and saw the news about your delivery. Congratulations on your baby boy! I hope he stabilizes soon and that he doesn’t stay in the NICU too long. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and will keep checking for updates. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858148 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 21:43:37 +0000 jhd 2858148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: sorry to hear little guy is not doing as well as everyone hoped. I know this is so hard, especially the what ifs, but try to rest and not let those thoughts in. Praying your little one gets all the very best care and that he gains strength so you can talk to him and hold him soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858147 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 21:30:00 +0000 pachamama 2858147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: oh little man that's not what we wanted to hear 😟 so hard going through the what ifs, I would totally be doing the same. But acceptance will come and that little babe will grow stronger every day. So many hugs and thoughts for him. We're here for you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858146 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 21:28:26 +0000 Pumuckl 2858146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow what a whirlwind :heart: </p> <p>ETA: I missed your last update, so sorry to hear both you and baby are having a bit of a hard time. Fingers crossed that things will get better soon :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858144 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 21:23:32 +0000 bhbee 2858144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: I’m so sorry, that’s so much to deal with. Sending that little guy all healing thoughts to get him healthy and in your arms soon. And to you too as you deal with both the c section and all the mental/emotional. Big hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858143 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 21:13:37 +0000 lilyofthewest 2858143@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you for the support all. Things are going...ok? Physically, I'm feeling rough. I imagine an emergent c-section is different than a scheduled one, but oooof. I felt so much more functional after a 40+ hour unmedicated labor and vaginal delivery of my almost 9lb LO#1 than I am feeling after this c-section. </p> <p>Unfortunately, baby isn't doing so great. Everyone was initially impressed by his size (over 5lb at 32 weeks) and said he was going to do awesome and come home very quickly. But, he's flunked the transition from fetal to neonatal circulation and has needed a lot of support. In addition to the cardiac-origin respiratory problems, he's also much lower on surfactant than would be expected for gestational age. He's intubated, sedated, on pressors, and getting TPN. Right now we can't hold him or touch him and other stimulation (like talking to him) needs to be limited. </p> <p>I'm having a tough time with "what ifs". Would this have happened if I'd been on pelvic rest starting at 20wks? If I'd been avoiding strenuous activity and heavy lifting? Also can't stop thinking about how I asked for betamethasone as soon as I got into triage on Wednesday night...but didn't get it for another 8 or 9 hours (and less than 2 hours before delivery). There's no way to know whether any of that could've changed any of the outcomes, but, argh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858137 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 19:31:06 +0000 jhd 2858137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thinking of you! I hope you have a smooth recovery and baby continues to do well. ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858115 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 14:24:45 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2858115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: I’m glad you and your baby are safe and can start recovering. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858114 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 14:20:39 +0000 pachamama 2858114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm glad baby is out and safe in your arms. Thinking of you so much right now!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858112 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 13:47:56 +0000 peachykeen 2858112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Abruptions are scary but I'm so glad you were in the right place when it happened :heart: Hope you and your new little one are resting and healing well. Congratulations! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858104 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 12:32:46 +0000 Mama Bird 2858104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congratulations on your baby's safe arrival! I'm sorry you went through all of that, wishing you a smooth recovery! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858103 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 12:26:38 +0000 crazydoglady 2858103@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: Congratulations, mama! ❤ I am so relieved to hear that you and baby are well. This has been such a rollercoaster...I will be praying for calming and restorvate days ahead. Hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858090 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 10:21:58 +0000 Lindsay05 2858090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the best and congratulations. Take care of yourself ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858089 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 10:20:48 +0000 Amorini 2858089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: congratulations on the arrival of your little one! I’m sorry the birth was not what you were planning. After IF and all of the drama of the past weeks, feelings can be all over the place, as well I know. Just sending massive hugs! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858087 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 10:00:37 +0000 bhbee 2858087@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilyofthewest: you’re a brave mama! Sending you good wishes for healing and processing it all, and for baby too. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marginal-placenta-previa-upsetangry-about-change-of-birth-plans#post-2858085 Fri, 23 Nov 2018 09:51:45 +0000 lilyofthewest 2858085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Had another bleed on Wednesday night and then an abruption (and emergency c-section) yesterday morning. Baby is doing pretty well considering early arrival. </p>