https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 19:45:24 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion/page/2#post-1104963 Mon, 23 Sep 2013 10:14:05 +0000 MapleMoose 1104963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: Sorry for the late reply, sometimes I don't get the notification emails. I actually can't think of a time when I faced any discrimination regarding my relationship with my SO due to our cultural and religious differences. I take it for granted but I should consider myself lucky! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion/page/2#post-1102689 Sat, 21 Sep 2013 12:26:13 +0000 Pepper 1102689@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I are both Catholic. All I want is for my kid to be happy and to be a good person. I believe that being a good, kind, giving, compassionate person bears more weight than what organized religion someone chooses to follow. As long as the religion he marries into doesn't compromise those values, I'll be happy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion/page/2#post-1102599 Sat, 21 Sep 2013 10:51:21 +0000 hellocupcake 1102599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Glitter: +1</p> <p>I couldn't have put it better (: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion/page/2#post-1102588 Sat, 21 Sep 2013 10:42:19 +0000 Anagram 1102588@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I married outside my religion (or rather, outside of my apathy of religion), so I won't care as long as my baby marries someone who accepts her as she is and doesn't try to get her to convert to something else for terrible reasons, like to please their family. I would also be very wary of her marrying a fundamentalist of any religion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion/page/2#post-1102565 Sat, 21 Sep 2013 10:09:58 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 1102565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would kinda have to be okay since I did it. Lol. Mr. Hedgie is Jewish and I am Christian. We celebrate both religions equally and plan to raise our children under both. I had to made a conscious, informed decision when I chose to ask for salvation and if she chooses to go that route (which obviously I hope she does) she will have to do the same. I'm the end I believe you can't teach somebody to believe something. They need to truly believe it. So whatever religion my children chose to follow, whether it be Judaism, Christianity, or anything else, if they choose to marry somebody outside of that, as long as they are happy and I'm a healthy relationship, I don't care. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion/page/2#post-1101713 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 15:57:07 +0000 DillonLion 1101713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are interfaith, and I hope LO finds something to identify with when she's old enough to understand faith. </p> <p>For me, I see my religious traditions as more of a nationality than a religion. She will always be Jewish to me, just like she will always be American. It is just part of her forever. If she connects better with a different system to connect her with her higher power, then she has my utmost blessings. The Jewish people wil live on through her no matter what. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion/page/2#post-1101697 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 15:45:45 +0000 Glitter 1101697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swedishfish: Yes, I want my child to seek holiness (obedience to God) above all else. I believe we were created to be holy, and that this pursuit often brings about the deepest and truest form of happiness. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion/page/2#post-1101685 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 15:37:05 +0000 swedishfish 1101685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Glitter: you want your child to be obedient to God more than happy?</p> <p>I am Catholic and DH was raised Jewish but his mother is Catholic so he was raised in a two religion household. Our child(ren) will be raised Catholic. I would have absolutely no problem with LO marrying someone of a different faith as long as the faith isn't extremist. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion/page/2#post-1101638 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 15:13:37 +0000 Lindsay05 1101638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>There is such a wide variety of religions that it's so hard to say that it would be ok. DH and I are Christian but do not go to church. It would be hard to see our children get involved in a cult or any religion that would compromise his/her independence. Ultimately it would be their choice and I would have to support it the best I could. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion/page/2#post-1101619 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 15:08:03 +0000 Glitter 1101619@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@deerylou: I understand that my statement would be confusing to many, so I'm actually glad you asked. :happy: </p> <p>Just to be clear, I in no way wish health complications of any kind etc on anyone, especially my own kid who I (already) love so dearly. However, I believe that even through the roughest circumstances God can be glorified through us depending on Him and trusting in Him and reminding ourselves that life on earth is temporary, but life afterward with Him is eternal and entirely glorious. </p> <p>Based on those beliefs, I would feel so much more comfortable knowing my child is an obedient follower of God and that his/her eternal life is secure, free from the pains of this world, (while this health challenge is temporary), rather than having to accept that my child will not get to experience eternity with God. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101601 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 14:57:13 +0000 deerylou 1101601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Glitter: I respect your faith, I do. To each their own, but would you really rather a faithful follower of God than a child devoid of major health complications and debilitating depression? I think I might be having trouble understanding; in that case, my sincere apologies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101563 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 14:41:09 +0000 Chillybear 1101563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i was raised/am catholic and my husband was baptised Lutheran, but attended baptist, protestant, and episcopalian churches - they all have a lot of similarities... anyway from the beginning i made it known that I wanted to get married in a catholic church and raise my children catholic even if i had to responsible for making that happen. I was lucky and his family was very supportive. I think they were glad that we shared very similar values and were happy he was just taking part in a religion. Last year, my husband approached me about converting to Catholicism and went through the RICA program which he completed in the spring. I think I would be ok with my children dating outside the religion as long at they shared similar values and respected each others family traditions. learning about other religions and cultures only serves to enrich their lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101383 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 13:54:25 +0000 LuLu Mom 1101383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it would be difficult for me if LO decided to *convert* to a different religion (we are Christians) but I do realize that it is her decision to do as she believes. My DH was Catholic and he hasn't completely converted to Methodist but we both had the same overall beliefs. I think this would be difficult for me though if she wee to switch, it would be hard for me to handle although I will always support her no matter what. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101378 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 13:52:48 +0000 Glitter 1101378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: +1</p> <p>Our concern (before even a healthy or smart or happy child) is that our child grows up to love, honor and serve God. In obeying God, he or she should also seek to form a marriage relationship with one who also seeks to love honor and serve God. </p> <p>If he or she moves away from that, we would be heart-broken but love our children regardless and do all we can to encourage them to live a life that is pleasing to God. At the end of the day though, the choice is not ours and though we would not support the decision, we would still love and care for our child just as much as otherwise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101276 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 13:11:22 +0000 anonysquire 1101276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well my husband converted before we really talked about marriage. We are both Mormons and will raise our children in our religion. But when it comes down to it, they get to make their own decisions. I just hope that they find happiness. My parents always supported me even when I dated nonmembers and were never rude to anyone I dated. I'll show that same respect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101259 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 13:06:02 +0000 regberadaisy 1101259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MapleMoose: LOL. You mean you don't want to show your kids the same discrimination you received? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101235 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 12:59:31 +0000 MapleMoose 1101235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I married outside of my religion and race so I expect this to not even be an issue with out children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101207 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 12:52:30 +0000 nana87 1101207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JoJoGirl: I feel very similarly--dh and I are both Jewish and it just makes so many things so much easier. </p> <p>That said, I'd be completely supportive, as long as our child's beliefs (whatever they may be!) were respected and supported by his/her partner and vice versa. And that ours were respected by them. My sil isn't Jewish and I have multiple cousins and other family members who also aren't but I completely love them and consider them family just the same. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101077 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 12:16:23 +0000 Mae 1101077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have a problem with them marrying someone who changed their values. We hope to raise our child(ren) to be very accepting and loving and open-minded. I don't care who they pray to as long as they maintain those values. But, as others have said, I would have a problem if they met someone who converted them to a religion that required them to be what I would consider judgmental and hateful (i.e. opposing gay marriage, being politically pro-life, etc). I would still love them, but I would feel sad that their hearts were moved in that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101076 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 12:15:55 +0000 Koolbreeze 1101076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PurplePeony: @TemperanceBrennan: +1 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101069 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 12:15:05 +0000 plantains 1101069@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I will admit, that if my DD married a man who openly mocked Christianity at every opportunity (I know a ton of people like this) it would irk me no end. I cannot stand disrespectful people who are antagonistic just for the hell of it. I wouldn't try to come between them, but I would definitely let her know that her FI was a jerk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101065 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 12:13:44 +0000 Bookish 1101065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TemperanceBrennan: @PurplePeony: +1 to both of what y'all said. DH and I are not religious, and unless LO was marrying someone who's beliefs made them intolerant of others, I really wouldn't see a reason to say a word about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101060 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 12:12:09 +0000 runsyellowlites 1101060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@kiddosc: Well,, I would never be ugly to my child, or their partner &amp; I'd never go so far as what @locavore_mama: went through! Ever! I mean there are going to be alot of things that we don't agree with our children doing &amp; just b/c we don't agree doesn't mean we would do things to alienate them.</p> <p>Perfect example: My mom did not support me marrying G's bio dad AT. ALL... she still took me dress shopping, got my hair/make up done the day of, was there for the celebration, was ALWAYS kind to G's dad (despite him being a down right horrible person most of the time), and once we were married she always counseled me in a way to help me better my marriage... never trying to get me to leave him (well aside from when he got abusive again then she counseled me to heal &amp; get to where I could be safe). She supported me despite her disagreement.</p> <p>I would be much of the same despite what I didn't agree with that my child was doing/choosing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101058 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 12:11:56 +0000 yoursilverlining 1101058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're not religious at all, so it would be a little bit weird for me/my husband if LO married someone very religious, since that's not something we are used to.</p> <p>I wouldn't be upset though; as long as that person was a good person and treated LO well. Obviously, my LO's happiness comes before my ideas of what religion (or none) is "right" or "wrong". I guess I would treat religion like I do gender, age or color: it doesn't define the person, and as long as they treat LO well and are a loving partner, I'm a happy mamma. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101055 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 12:11:18 +0000 deerylou 1101055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As long as she wasn't marrying into a dangerous cult, or a religious sect that encouraged extreme inequality and submission of women, I would be totally fine with it, and welcome the diversity in the family.</p> <p> I want my daughter's relationship with God (or lack thereof) to be made completely by choice, and not shoved down her throat in any way. I find faith and spirituality to be an extremely personal journey, and not one you simply inherit by blood, or "because mom &amp; dad told you so". I feel the same about any potential, romantic relationships in her life. I just want her to be safe, content, and happy. Her life; her choice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101054 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 12:10:34 +0000 MsLipGloss 1101054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: @PurplePeony: Ditto - we are the same! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101040 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 12:06:50 +0000 regberadaisy 1101040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TemperanceBrennan: +1!</p> <p>After dealing with VERY extreme backlash from MY family for dating my DH we would never disallow our children to date someone based on race, culture or religion, etc.<br /> The most important thing to us is the well being and happiness of our child. Everything else is second fiddle.</p> <p>I never understood my family for threatening to disowning me and not blessing my happiness. I still don't understand it now. Thankfully they have seen the error of their ways. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1101038 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 12:06:20 +0000 kiddosc 1101038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: I respect your opinion, but I would be concerned about alienating my child if I was only supportive of his marriage after the fact. I feel like we've read about many unsupportive MILs on these forums and how it has caused unrepairable rifts in the family dynamic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1100999 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 11:55:47 +0000 cyndistar3 1100999@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@runsyellowlites: +1 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/marrying-outside-your-religion#post-1100996 Fri, 20 Sep 2013 11:55:08 +0000 looch 1100996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would like to think I would be, but I can't say for sure how I would feel about it. As with anything, it depends. What if the religion dictates that they should cut ties with anyone that is of a different faith? I would have a problem with that. </p>