https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 12 Jul 2026 13:52:09 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/meetup-groups-remind-me-of-cliques-in-high-school#post-224685 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 05:33:09 +0000 Andrea 224685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the categories are there to help and not exclude. I can definitely see that. If you have an older kid, your perspective is very different than someone with a newborn. Not that you can't be friends but I think it helps to have something in common right off the bat if you are meeting a group of strangers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/meetup-groups-remind-me-of-cliques-in-high-school#post-224682 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 05:21:49 +0000 cvbee 224682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can see how the 'categories' you talk about would help people to find people with more in common. I don't see it as a bad thing. </p> <p>I live in a small town, so our group is a 'Moms with babies under 1 year' (and otherwise has everyone). HOWEVER it is just natural that while we are together, even we split up into pretty much an under-6-months and over-6-months mini-groups. And when new people come, if they don't already know one of us, it is hard for them to fit in sometimes because it is a little bit like the highschool cafeteria, where everyone already knows everyone else. </p> <p>Still, despite inevitable cliquiness, I think Mom groups are AWESOME. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/meetup-groups-remind-me-of-cliques-in-high-school#post-224678 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 04:51:18 +0000 autumnlove 224678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, that definitely sounds like a nightmare! I don't have any new Mom friends that are local...maybe I should look at meetup or take LO to a swim class! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/meetup-groups-remind-me-of-cliques-in-high-school#post-224676 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 04:47:32 +0000 lilteacherbee 224676@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yikes, that sounds super clique-y. Thankfully, my best friend has a little boy (and a little girl due any day now) and she lives near me, but most of my other close friends don't have kids. I've noticed that my high school classmates seem to add each other on facebook whenever they find out that someone is pregnant. They maybe haven't talked in years, but the pregnancy is some common "thing" they have? Honestly, I find it a bit creepy and like they just want to be nosy/judgey.</p> <p>A girl friend requested me a few weeks ago and I had told DH a looong time ago that she would add me back (I think she facebook purged awhile ago and we were never close) when I got pregnant. I tried to figure out how she knew for the longest time... But I think maybe she just randomly did it?</p> <p>As for "normal" ways, I know people who have met mommy friends at gymboree type places and at local playgrounds. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/meetup-groups-remind-me-of-cliques-in-high-school#post-224672 Wed, 18 Jul 2012 04:35:44 +0000 mediagirl 224672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been looking at meetup groups in my area for moms and babies and all I see around here are groups like this:<br /> "Playdates for Moms under 35 with kids under 5"<br /> "First time Moms under 35"<br /> "Stay at home Moms 35+"<br /> "Playgroup for babies born in 2010"<br /> "Hot mama's of Apex, Cary, Etc..."</p> <p>I used to like Meetup. It is how I met some of my good friends here in Raleigh. Seeing all of these mom groups makes me sad, though. I'm not interested in joining a group that seems so exclusive. </p> <p>I have one friend in town who has kids but she has twins and has met all of her friends through her exclusive "multiples" group that doesn't allow people with single children. Serious. </p> <p>Blargh. How do you meet other moms? What type of classes or groups have you found work for you and your lo? </p>