https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 15 Jun 2026 23:27:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/3#post-261060 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 15:43:45 +0000 lilteacherbee 261060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Nskillet: aww thank you so much, that's so nice to hear!! I'm not gonna lie, the first week was really, really rough but I managed to pick myself up and it's gotten a little bit easier each day (I totally didn't believe anyone when they told me that after it happened). We're choosing to believe hat our baby is up there watching over us and he/she will come back as soon as the right, healthy body comes along. Might sounds a little crazy, but it really helps!</p> <p>Also, I've got an amazing doctor and she has been the best. She's got a plan for my long cycles and I love that I feel taken care of :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/3#post-260960 Thu, 16 Aug 2012 14:44:15 +0000 Nskillet 260960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lilteacherbee: you just gave me chills! You are oozing positivity and I think that is such a rare and beautiful thing. You're going through something so difficult and are managing to keep yourself focused on your bright future. BRAVO! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-259393 Wed, 15 Aug 2012 12:25:07 +0000 lilteacherbee 259393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm actually okay-ish :) Its been 3 weeks since our m/c and I'm starting to feel like myself again. I've been to the gym twice this week and it feels amazing to get back into it. I have my post-op appointment tomorrow and I can't wait to talk to my doc.</p> <p>This is truly the hardest thing I've been through, but I really do believe that "everything happens for a reason." I'm trying so hard to be positive because I realized being sad/depressed isn't going to get me what I want more than anything: a healthy baby. The only thing that will get me there is being mentally/physically healthy, a whole lot of praying, and getting ready to TTC again! DH and I are a LOT closer after all of this and for that, I'm truly thankful!</p> <p>Oh, and last week I finally went to visit my best friend and her baby (who was born 2 days after my D&amp;C). Oh my gosh, I love that little girl so much already. She is beautiful and sweet and she helps me to look forward to the future...she doesn't make me sad at all, like I had feared.</p> <p>Overall, I'm doing well and staying strong :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258433 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:57:19 +0000 winniebee 258433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nskillet: way to go on the job interviews!!</p> <p>@mrsdaredevil: I had this problem with DH (still do on some level....) but I think what helped was telling him how I do things (not telling him how he SHOULD do things) and then really leaving him alone with T to figure out how to do them. He's always been pretty good at the bottle feeding thing, but he was never any good at getting him to sleep. While on vacation, I went out with my mom and sister for the morning and told him generally when I thought T would be ready for a nap. DH later told me that he thought "I'll show her that T doesn't want to be swaddled" and learned the hard way when he fell asleep but then bonked himself 15 minutes later and woke up. He then figured out the way to get him to sleep on his own (ie, my way, haha) and T took a 2 hour nap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258432 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:57:11 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 258432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm trying not to think about being itchy! I have a rash that popped up over the weekend. I thought it was the shingles at first. I went to the doctor today and she told me it is pityriasis rosea and that I will have it for three months! Good thing it isn't contagious.</p> <p>I've spent a lot of time lately being impatient. I'm impatient for a pregnancy, impatient to start renovating some rooms of our house, to have enough money to go on a big vacation again, etc. I've especially been struggling with the pregnancy stuff. Some days I feel like we have waited for so long and all my thought go negative. I think things like why is this happening to us? How come people who don't want babies get pregnant everyday? Is my faith not strong enough? I try really hard not to spiral like that, but it gets tough. I'm trying to live in the moment as much as possible.</p> <p>Things between my husband and I are great though. When my "crazy" comes out (what I like to call it) he reins me back in. I don't know what I'd be like without him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258426 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:54:23 +0000 winniebee 258426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This thread is awesome - I wish I had time to reply to everyone but since Tyler is on a napping strike I have NO idea when he is going to wake up - he has been asleep in the swing for 1 hour and 15 minutes.....my FIRST break of more than 30 minutes in over 24 hours (if you don't count overnight sleep as a break).</p> <p>I'm doing well. Tired, but good. Tyler is 3 months now and I feel like despite his wonky sleeping behavior the last week during his growth spurt, things have smoothed out tremendously. It is sort of hard for me to admit it, but the first 6 weeks of motherhood were REALLY difficult for me. He was a low birth weight baby, didn't feed well, and I was really stressed out and did not do well on very little sleep. I felt really guilty about not loving being a mom at first, but honestly I was in too much of a haze to enjoy it. But since the 6 week mark, it got so much better (perhaps coinciding with my decision to pump and feed T bottles of pumped milk). Now I absolutely love being a mommy and just love him more than words. I visited my work today and am so bummed about ever having to go back (even though my job is great). I feel fortunate to have family close by so that I get some mommy time - I was feeling the need for a haircut/mani/pedi a few weeks ago and called my mom to babysit. Voila. Helps that we were on vacation last week, too. I'm on a no dairy diet because of T's tummy troubles, which is difficult and I'm dying for a slice of pizza, but oh well.</p> <p>On the husband front - we definitely were not nurturing our relationship enough and I was getting SO frustrated with him as I did not feel like he was being considerate of the fact that my job is 24 hours a day. However, on vacation, he fed T most of his bottles, changed most of the diapers, etc. We even went out to dinner ourselves. We need to do more of that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258396 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:30:40 +0000 MsLipGloss 258396@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsWagon @NSkillet: Thank you both for sharing, because I totally feel like a crazy person when it happens to me . . . although I remind myself that crazy people don't think they're crazy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258385 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:26:00 +0000 mrs. wagon 258385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsLipGloss: @Nskillet: oh my God. I wonder if we will find even more others who experience this kind of mob voices anxiety attack!! I wonder if there are any psychologists on the boards who can help us...!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258384 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:23:57 +0000 MsLipGloss 258384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsWagon @NSkillet: I would not have believed that others went through this if I hadn't read your posts! For me it starts after the shower, the first time I look in the mirror . . . it's like hundreds of mirror images of myself appear (like fun house mirrors where the mirrors are arranged so that you seen hundreds of images of yourself reflected back at you), all saying/shouting things to me, and in each subsequent mirror image the voices get louder and louder until I can't hear any distinct voices anymore, and it just becomes a mob in my head. I always have to leave the bathroom close my eyes, and try to clear the image from my mind so that I can quiet the mob. Sometimes it takes several minutes, and it is completely overwhelming and stressful, and causes physical anxiety as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258377 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:19:57 +0000 Nskillet 258377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: right?! I have no idea and always thought I was crazy! Sometimes it has struck me when I'm awake in the middle of the night. It's like my bathroom is the trigger.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258373 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:18:11 +0000 mrs. wagon 258373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Nskillet: omg. Ok now that I have an anxiety buddy we should start researching and figuring out exactly what it is!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258368 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:16:53 +0000 Nskillet 258368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: weirdly, it always starts in the shower for me too! Maybe all that steam/hot water makes us kinda weak/faint? And I agree it happens during times of stress &amp; fatigue. When DH talks to me I can hold a conversation but it's like you say slower and harder! Also, lights seem weirdly brighter..... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258355 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:10:58 +0000 mrs. wagon 258355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Nskillet: OMG!!!! That is EXACTLY what I experience!!! I wonder what it could be... isn't it horrible?? I'm so so glad I posted about it.. knowing it's not just me makes me feel so much better!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258351 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:10:06 +0000 Nskillet 258351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: OMG! I experience this too! Except it's like shouting inner voices that are sooooo loud! It's almost deafening I've tried explaining it to DH as someone on a bullhorn shouting at me but using the voice of my inner dialogue. I can never put it into words like you just did. Whoa! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258350 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:09:49 +0000 regberadaisy 258350@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Yoyo: aww thanks. I think what makes it harder is we're also renovating our new home. So my husband is over there a lot. Which means I don't see him a lot and he feels guilty for being over there so much and not home with M. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258343 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:06:50 +0000 mrs. wagon 258343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love this thread.</p> <p>I had what I consider my version of an anxiety attack last night-- I've had them in the past, mostly during college, and I think they are caused by stress combined with sleep deprivation. It always starts in the shower-- I start to feel like people are all around me, excitedly (not necessarily negatively) shouting and spurring me on. It's kind of like when you hear music like "Eye of the Tiger" and you start doing everything faster and faster and feel more motivated, except it's voices instead of music and it starts to spiral faster and faster out of control. During the attack it's all I can do to keep myself in control and I feel like I'm moving through molasses, brushing my hair, putting my watch on, putting lotion on my legs... it's torture. </p> <p>It passed after about 30 mins, thank God. I've never spoken to anyone about this other than Wagon Sr. !!! But I thought this thread popped up at just the right time. Thanks for letting me share... :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258341 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:06:01 +0000 purrpletulips 258341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nskillet: he usually does it when he's in a joking/playful mood so I guess; he had a pretty odd childhood so I'm sure most of it comes from his upbringing. We are working through it but at times (like now when I'm 35w pregnant) it just gets frustrating at times. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258337 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 14:04:01 +0000 Nskillet 258337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@purrpletulips: I mean, I kinda want to know WHY he thinks it's ok to basically invade you and your daughters personal space! If you say you don't like something and if she does that's violating trust in a way, you know? You're right about your DD too thinking her voice/wishes won't be heard by others if they are making her uncomfortable. Does he think it's funny? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258312 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 13:51:20 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 258312@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: I felt like this a lot earlier on. I still do sometimes, but it does get a bit better as they get older. I just wanted to say that what you're feeling is totally normal (not that it makes it any easier). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258310 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 13:50:48 +0000 purrpletulips 258310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nkskillet: 1) haven't tried the laundry basket idea but its an idea, it is actually getting funny because whenever DD (28m) finds one of his random socks she tries to put it on so he has been getting a little better about those (she also will point to his random clothing and say "no daddy") and 3) it is a continual discussion between us especially because he does it to DD and she also expresses that she doesn't like it, I am trying to get him to understand that he needs to respect her wishes because if he doesn't then she won't feel comfortable telling people not to do things that bother her as she grows up (kind of a why waste the energy when my wishes have never been heard scenario). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258306 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 13:48:36 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 258306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaBehr: @looch: Count me in, ladies ... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258303 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 13:46:04 +0000 Nskillet 258303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs.M57: aww I hear you girl! DH has always had a hard time managing stress. He had some terrible moments while I was on maternity leave. We still bicker more often than before LO but I have found when we try and make time for each other and not talk about LO we feel so much better/more connected. Pre baby we loved listening to music and enjoying cocktails. Now we do this when LO is in bed and we reconnect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258294 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 13:43:33 +0000 Nskillet 258294@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjazz: I have always admired the name choice for your LO and your avatar! I'd definitely ring you :) Im in CT</p> <p>@purrpletulips: 1) totally annoying! Have you set up like random laundry basket in places? We just started doing this and it has helped us lately! </p> <p>2) I am with you and this is my one huge pet peeve about DH. He literally leaves EVERYTHING in the sink and never in the dish washer. Sounds like you have been communicating your frustrations without him listening a la number 3! Have you sat him down to say his behavior really upsets you and even more that he seems to not care about it?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258224 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 13:07:04 +0000 mrsjazz 258224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Nskillet: You are awesome. Not at all creepy. Just suggesting the phone call made me smile. And you're on the East Coast, too so no time zone difference.</p> <p>@bluestriped bee: I wish I could give you a big hug right now. Sometimes being a a mature adult sucks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258206 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 12:56:05 +0000 purrpletulips 258206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@nkskillet: these are the three biggest (at the moment) - 1) he leaves his clothes wherever he undresses and I often find socks stuffed in the couch cushions (he's always done this but it periodically infuriates me), 2) I HATE doing dishes so I run the dishwasher pretty much every night, since he gets home about an hour before me I ask that he unloads the dishwasher so that I can put away any lunch dishes and have clean counters when I go to start dinner, lately he hasn't been doing this until after dinner when there are dirty dishes EVERYWHERE, 3) he taps DD and me on the head (or he'll smack me on the backside while walking by-like ball players do to each other), I don't like it and have asked him to stop but he hasn't and DD has started to say "no daddy" when he does it to her yet he continues. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258194 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 12:47:12 +0000 Mrs.M57 258194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was great that this thread was started, I think the early days/months adjusting to having a lo are tough.</p> <p>Being a mommy is great for me, being a wife is not going so great. Hubby and I are definitely going through some growing pains. We argue almost daily, it's terrible. I feel like we have gotten so caught up in baby M that we have forgotten how to be good to each other. We went on a date on Saturday and it was really wonderful. But, we went right back to arguing had a horrible blow out on Sunday and again last night, I ended up leaving and walking around target to cool down. </p> <p>Hoping this gets easier. I feel for all of you ladies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258186 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 12:43:19 +0000 Nskillet 258186@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: ah yes foot in mouth syndrome! I know it all too well. Being red headed and Italian I have a big mouth. I actually said to another Mom at daycare "I've been admiring your daughters head". What I meant was "she's got such incredible neck strength for her age!". Ugh, and I wonder why I don't have tons of friends :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258182 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 12:41:45 +0000 Nskillet 258182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: aww you aren't! You have a reason to lay down and you're not lazy girl please don't feel that way. You're amazing at what you do considering your headaches. I get them maybe 2 times a month and they literally kick my ass! I've yet to have to take care of LO when I have one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258181 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 12:39:45 +0000 Nskillet 258181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@purrpletulips: give us some examples of what he does to annoy you! If that isn't prying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mental-health-thread-how-are-you/page/2#post-258180 Tue, 14 Aug 2012 12:39:33 +0000 heffalump 258180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Nskillet: Hope you're not getting too many headaches! The side effects of this med does suck, but worth it because it works so well at keeping the migraines away. My LO's new favorite thing to do is to lay her keppie down on her pillow.... which I'm sure she's learned from me because I'm always so tired. I feel so bad because I'm teaching her to be lazy :( </p>