https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 19:18:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2765845 Tue, 08 Aug 2017 08:10:43 +0000 bubblegum 2765845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2littlepumpkins: Thank you love! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2765727 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 16:48:49 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2765727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum: I'm so sorry to hear about her loss. T&amp;p to her. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2765693 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 15:47:48 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2765693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum: ❤❤❤ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2765638 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 13:44:59 +0000 bubblegum 2765638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coral: Thanks love! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2765637 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 13:44:52 +0000 bubblegum 2765637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: Exactly! She's down playing it 100%. It's the worst feeling and the blame you put on yourself is even worst. </p> <p>Oh without a doubt!!! I tell DH all the time, I can't do this for you. As much as it pains me to see him go through his and well as his sister, it's up to them to make ask for the change they want to see in their mother. Good for you for putting your foot down! I can only imagine how difficult it is when it's your own mother. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2765627 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 13:26:48 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2765627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum: I'm so sorry to hear. You know this because you've had a miscarriage, but she'll need support even though she's telling everyone she's fine. I told everyone I was fine too because I felt ashamed. Inside I was dying. </p> <p>As for your MIL, she sounds exactly like my mom. I had dealt with her treating me similarly my entire life, and I finally snapped just before LO2 was born. We didn't speak for over 6 months, until she finally came around and realized that she needed to change, because I wasn't changing my boundaries. It was the best thing I ever did for myself. As someone who had to figure that out for myself, I'd advise letting your SIL and your DH set those boundaries with your support. They have to be able to come to those terms when they're ready. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2765536 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 09:28:01 +0000 Coral 2765536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum: I'm so sorry for her loss. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2765532 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 09:23:13 +0000 bubblegum 2765532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: Thank you. I really really hope so too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2765520 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 08:57:20 +0000 snowjewelz 2765520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum: omgoodness, I am so so sorry :crying: I hope your MIL can be supportive at such a difficult time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2765518 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 08:54:57 +0000 bubblegum 2765518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion: She seems to be okay. I personally think that everyone is down playing it and that's why she's being so quite and "okay" about it. I really hope she's able to grieve, speak freely about her emotions and have a great support system. I doubt that she's staying away from her mom. I didn't ask because I didn't want to stir the pot. But I'm sure her mom isn't making things easier.</p> <p>@birdofafeather: @Adira: Thank you ladies. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2765500 Mon, 07 Aug 2017 05:34:46 +0000 Adira 2765500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum: Such sad news. I'm so sorry for your SIL. :crying: Hope she's taking care of herself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2765498 Sun, 06 Aug 2017 23:27:54 +0000 birdofafeather 2765498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum: so sorry for her loss. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2765476 Sun, 06 Aug 2017 20:10:27 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2765476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh I am so sorry :( Such sad news :( how is your SIL? Is she staying away from MIL? 😞 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2765464 Sun, 06 Aug 2017 18:09:36 +0000 bubblegum 2765464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>UPDATE: SIL loss the baby. :crying: thank you to all the ladies who kept her in their prayers and thoughts. Please continue to think of her during this trying time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2764829 Thu, 03 Aug 2017 10:47:04 +0000 bubblegum 2764829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: @Mrs. Lion: Thank you ladies :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2764792 Thu, 03 Aug 2017 09:57:09 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2764792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So scary ❤ I hope everything is okay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2764774 Thu, 03 Aug 2017 09:28:53 +0000 snowjewelz 2764774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum: Oh no... Prayers for her :heart: :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2764762 Thu, 03 Aug 2017 09:13:25 +0000 bubblegum 2764762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Update on SIL: She's currently bleeding, enough to fill a pantyliner and she's currently wearing a pad. She was bleeding last night, went to the ER and they said all was fine but because she has a DR appt today, they didn't run any blood tests. I was super annoyed when she told me today that they basically talked her out of getting blood tests. Praying when she sees her DR, everything is okay. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2758921 Mon, 17 Jul 2017 12:02:34 +0000 bubblegum 2758921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: Of course love! Thanks for asking :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2758919 Mon, 17 Jul 2017 11:59:46 +0000 erinbaderin 2758919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum: Yay! That's fantastic news, thanks for the update! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2758838 Mon, 17 Jul 2017 10:16:47 +0000 bubblegum 2758838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: So her the levels did double from the last time which we're soooo thrilled about. She has an appt early August which seems so far but we're hopeful all goes well between now and then. I was hoping they would take her in for an ultrasound but nothing so far. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2758813 Mon, 17 Jul 2017 09:13:02 +0000 erinbaderin 2758813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum: How is the baby - did her levels come back ok? Fingers crossed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2758811 Mon, 17 Jul 2017 09:04:38 +0000 bubblegum 2758811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2littlepumpkins: I totally agree but I know SIL and she won't do that. I understand it's her mom but her mom has always been so harsh with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2758413 Fri, 14 Jul 2017 13:03:59 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2758413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum: that's madness. If I were your SIL I would not accept that and cut her off especially from the kids. :sad: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2758390 Fri, 14 Jul 2017 12:10:33 +0000 bubblegum 2758390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@youboots: I totally understand! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2758349 Fri, 14 Jul 2017 10:53:12 +0000 youboots 2758349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum: seriously becoming a parent made me furious at mine for all the crap the pulled/ignored. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2758148 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 14:47:49 +0000 bubblegum 2758148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coral: Thank you! I agree!! I think this will show her the true amazingness of a child and mother relationship </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2758123 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 13:50:24 +0000 Coral 2758123@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum: So hopeful for your SIL! She really does deserve this joy in her life. I hope that motherhood inspires her to put up healthy boundaries and to value herself more. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2758113 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 13:45:35 +0000 bubblegum 2758113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: I did read the one that was on HB a month ago or so about the MIL kidnapping the baby. I wanted to throw up! The other one though is CRAZY!!!! I'm very grateful that I have the full support of DH and he doesn't easily fall for MIL games. Just a few months ago he spoke to her about the BS she was trying to pull with me while I was 9 months pregnant and she tried to flip the script and talk about how he's a horrible son for not reaching out to her. Thankfully he shut her down and was told her that's no the reason for this call and they can discussion that another day. HOWEVER, what sucks about MIL being the way she is, is that DH's entire family on her side minus SIL sides with her ALWAYS. Beyond annoying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-hates-me-so-much-that/page/2#post-2758107 Thu, 13 Jul 2017 13:36:59 +0000 SweetiePie 2758107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bubblegum: Right?! There are two women I have to share with you. They will either help you see how serious these toxic situations will become - or it'll have you thanking your lucky stars that it's not this bad. </p> <p>This one is a doozie. I recommend starting from the beginning (very bottom and working up to "last will and testament")</p> <p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/user/hedgehogsdontshare" rel="nofollow">https://www.reddit.com/user/hedgehogsdontshare</a></p> <p>And this one I actually heard about on HB, I think. ETA: just realized its not justnoMIL, but everyone commented that it should be in that sub so I got confused. </p> <p><a href="https://www.reddit.com/r/beyondthebump/comments/5xqy4q/mil_basically_kidnapped_my_baby/" rel="nofollow">https://www.reddit.com/r/beyondthebump/comments/5xqy4q/mil_basically_kidnapped_my_baby/</a> </p>