https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 05:24:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby/page/2#post-2706878 Tue, 07 Mar 2017 12:11:54 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2706878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That must have been terrifying. Thank goodness her mother is going to be there for her because I cannot imagine dealing with both her MIL and husband behaving this way with all the other pp/newborn stuff. 😢 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby/page/2#post-2706802 Tue, 07 Mar 2017 10:16:50 +0000 ElbieKay 2706802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would need to at least separate from my husband for awhile if that happened and he reacted the way hers did. I hope she filed a report with the police and got a restraining order from that crazy lady. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby/page/2#post-2706799 Tue, 07 Mar 2017 10:10:06 +0000 FancyGem 2706799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: She added it to her original post at the bottom.</p> <p>She said that she was going to the police to get a restraining order on her. </p> <p>"Update: I just wanted to give everyone a quick update. I didn't respond but I've read every comment and the support I got has meant so much to me. I bawled reading them because I finally felt like someone was on my side. I called my mom late last night and I got a hotel. I refused to tell my husband where I was going but told him the baby and I would be safe. My mom is disgusted about what I've been through. She's getting on a plane today to come help me. This entire experience has pushed me to the point that I need therapy so today my first order of business is getting a therapist set up asap. I decided to go alone for a while and when I'm ready, go with my husband to see if there is a chance to move past this. Right now I still don't want to but I also agree I'm not in the place to make life changing decisions. Either way, I can never move back into that house. I don't know what my plan is past these next few days yet but I'm just going to take it day by day for right now. As for my MIL, I'm going to go to the police today to find out how to get a restraining order. Her and my husband keep saying "but she was safe! She was never on danger!" I disagree. My MIL is clearly not mentally capable to care for a child. Who knows what else she would do because she feels she knows best.<br /> Thank you all so much. I can't tell you how much the support from some Internet strangers has meant to me." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby/page/2#post-2706797 Tue, 07 Mar 2017 10:07:41 +0000 Adira 2706797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Anagram: The update was that she took the baby to a hotel and didn't tell her husband where they were, just that they were safe and that her mother was flying out to help her and offer her support. She also talks about how she's going to start therapy and perhaps one day do therapy with her husband, but she doesn't really see how they can ever move past this because he and the MIL STILL insist that the baby was safe, so they don't see what the big deal is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby/page/2#post-2706792 Tue, 07 Mar 2017 10:01:50 +0000 kiddosc 2706792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I showed this to DH last night and he said that he'd have his own mother thrown in jail if she did something like that. I can't believe her husband doesn't see how batsh*t crazy this is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby/page/2#post-2706728 Tue, 07 Mar 2017 02:44:16 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2706728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What in actual f$&amp;@! How can any sane person think that sneaking in and stealing a newborn from her sleeping parents is OK? Her MIL is clearly crazy. I am appalled by her husband's reaction. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby/page/2#post-2706726 Tue, 07 Mar 2017 02:04:51 +0000 mamainthesun 2706726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow what a crazy horrifying story...So happy the baby is safe and that the mum is doing what she must so make the in-laws realise that this is not normal... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby/page/2#post-2706723 Tue, 07 Mar 2017 00:59:30 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2706723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to vomit just reading this! I can't imagine how horrible that would've felt. She must feel so betrayed. Don't f@$# Wth mama bears. 😠 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby/page/2#post-2706680 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 21:21:55 +0000 Mae 2706680@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is the first I've seen of this and I'm so horrified. I'm trying to imagine what I would do in this situation. I'm pretty sure I'd have actually called the police to try to press charges immediately. Like, while my husband was retrieving the child. Also locks would be changed. immediately. Also husband can have a key to the new locks when he realizes his mother is a fucking kidnapper and has no place in their lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706678 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 21:13:02 +0000 Anagram 2706678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FancyGem: I didn't see the update...what did she say? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706677 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 21:08:50 +0000 mrswin 2706677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:shocked: just reading this made me want to barf, I cannot even fathom someone doing this and trying to pass it off as "helping" WTF! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706665 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 20:53:45 +0000 Pinkberrry 2706665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Omfg my mother in law already annoying the living fuck out of me on a regular basis, if she pulled anything like this I might of legitimately killed her. I would have called the police anyway just to get this on record..there is no relationship worth salvaging once you kidnap someone's baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706573 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 17:37:29 +0000 SweetiePie 2706573@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow. Just wow. She has some serious restraint not going over to get the baby herself. I would have insisted on going.<br /> I'm furious on her behalf. That minute of thinking your baby was GONE??? Pure torture.<br /> What a fucking nut job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706555 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 17:18:54 +0000 daniellemybelle 2706555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG.</p> <p>That is literal, actual kidnapping. I hope she presses charges! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706537 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 16:53:14 +0000 Purpledaisy 2706537@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Seriously wtf! Who would do something like that and who would think that was ok?! The MIL should seriously have been arrested. You cannot just take a baby from their crib in the middle of the night and take them to your house! That poor woman! I'm so glad that she posted on the internet so that she could hear that she's not the crazy one here! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706525 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 16:21:03 +0000 FancyGem 2706525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read the update and I hope the MIL goes to jail. I feel like the husband needs therapy. He doesn't realize how bad the mom brainwashed him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706523 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 16:18:39 +0000 FancyGem 2706523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cascademom: That's understandable because they grew up in an environment where they were raised to think it was normal behavior. My husband had to talk to someone else who was in a similar situation for him to see it. He learned different tools on how to deal with it from a therapist. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706459 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 15:02:35 +0000 ShootingStar 2706459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One time we had my parens staying over and in the middle of the night DS woke up and when I looked on the camera I saw hands reaching in to get him. DH was right next to me and for a good few seconds I had sheer panic. I ran out of our room to find it was my mom, lol. In my groggy state I'd forgotten someone else might've gotten him. But for that moment I was in such a panic. I can't even imagine how it feels to actually find your child gone and not know where they went. I think that's every here's worst nightmare :crying: :crying: . And to find out it's your MIL...oh heads would roll. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706457 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 14:54:50 +0000 Mrs. Oreo 2706457@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my....WTF?! I am so horrified for what she went through! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706447 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 14:45:13 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2706447@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Holy hell. I had PPA, and this was a legitimate fear of mine. I can't believe this MIL had the nerve to do this. It honestly would make me want to vomit if that happened to me. And I can't believe that her husband isn't on her side. Good for her for getting a restraining order against her. I agree that making a decision on whether to stay married to her husband shouldn't be made right now without some therapy, but man, it would be tough for me to get past this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706446 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 14:45:03 +0000 Mrs. Microscope 2706446@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This makes me sick. She should have called the police right away and have them recover her baby. It's illegal to take a baby from the parents, I don't care who the f*** you think you are. And her husband should be on her side. What a loser. My heart goes out to her so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706444 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 14:43:27 +0000 MRSJX3 2706444@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is horrifying. I'm not sure how Reddit works, will it be a new post if she updates? I hope she has a restraining order by now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706431 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 14:30:49 +0000 nwm 2706431@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>also hard to overstate my frustration that her husband and MIL are basically teaming up to call her hormonal and make her feel like she is overreacting. that is a seriously fucked up thing to do--she may be dealing with hormones too, but her totally sane reaction to her MIL's objectively UNACCEPTABLE and ATROCIOUS actions is not about her hormones. ugh. so glad her mom is coming in to give her some actual support. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706423 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 14:16:13 +0000 yoursilverlining 2706423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This made me feel physically ill while I was reading it. I cannot imagine the horror this mother went through to go to your child's room and have them not there. That is every parent's worst nightmare and that this MIL willingly put her DIL (and her own son - what if he had been the first to wake up and find his baby missing?) through that is so messed up.</p> <p>I don't think its an overreaction for her to consider divorce. My DH is an only child and defers to his mom and gives her total pass on a lot (A LOT) but he would no question cut off contact over something like this. Completely unacceptable to break into someone's home and steal their baby. If that's even an open question for your spouse; there is some serious issues there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706414 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 14:08:45 +0000 littlebug 2706414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to puke just reading that story. That makes me RAGE. WTF was that woman thinking??! And yeah, Hubs would be sleeping at his mommy's house if he defended that shit. 'DA FUUUUUCCCKKKK...... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706403 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 13:53:18 +0000 Silva 2706403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, this certainly puts any of my complaints about my in laws into perspective. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706397 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 13:32:09 +0000 pwnstar 2706397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have filed a police report (in the hopes that charges would be pressed-sometimes you can't control that), filed/applied for a restraining order against MIL, and, seriously consider filing for divorce (but custody is an issue, and if he has visitation, then MIL could get access again without Mama's knowledge). What a fucked up situation. Nuclear would be a flattering description of my reaction. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706374 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 13:07:40 +0000 psw27 2706374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>holy crap.... I would literally never speak to my MIL again, I would have a had a locksmith and alarm company out at my home immediately and I would have 100% called 911 even if the baby was "returned." I would also be having my DH move out until was on the same page. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706372 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 13:04:32 +0000 cascademom 2706372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@codeitall: My husband reacted similar to this husband. He didn't see anything wrong with how his mom was behaving either. It's like a brainwashing or something. It took counseling for him to understand how she behaves isn't normal. There's been some progress on him seeing the flaws of his parents especially his mom. I remember the one time that his brother said that his mom wouldn't hurt anyone. I had to stifle laughter and eye rolling. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-kidnaps-baby#post-2706369 Mon, 06 Mar 2017 13:00:32 +0000 cascademom 2706369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Holy crap. Reading her first post is bringing back some PTSD from when my MIL nearly wrecked our marriage when our first was born. I didn't go as far as leaving, but I nearly got a separate bank account and plotted ways to leave because of the immense stress and anxiety I was under when my MIL visited and caused all hell to break loose. I remember feeling like I was crazy when in fact it was my MIL whose bonkers. That incident pretty much ended a MIL/DIL relationship she wanted. I protect myself from her emotionally and won't let her hurt me like that ever again. </p> <p>With all that said, I can relate completely to how the mom felt. I would have flipped my crap too if my baby wasn't in the crib where I put them. All of that stress lead to me sleeping on the couch with my baby nearby for months before transitioning to a crib. I think it's partly why I can hear the kids crying long before my husband. I was already a light sleeper before kids and it's even more so. Yeah, that thread brings back so many feels of what happened with my own MIL. </p>