https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 23:48:26 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2166502 Mon, 04 May 2015 13:36:35 +0000 ValentineMommy 2166502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Lion: Lol, I'm trying...I'm really, really trying. And definitely keep those fingers crossed.....her not coming is really the best possible outcome :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2166499 Mon, 04 May 2015 13:34:47 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2166499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ValentineMommy: Yikes. I am sure that said a lot more about HER to your guests than it did about you. You are a kinder person than me...but I think inviting her was definitely taking the high road. Now I will cross my fingers for you that she declines (and keeps her mouth shut about it) ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2166496 Mon, 04 May 2015 13:31:31 +0000 ValentineMommy 2166496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>UPDATE: Lord only knows why, but I decided to ask my mom to invite her. I felt too guilty not doing so, and even though DH was totally fine with the decision to exclude her, I felt bad for HIM too. While her presence makes me totally uncomfortable, I'm going to try my hardest to ignore her and enjoy the celebration. </p> <p>Now we're just waiting for her response to the invite. My mom is expecting her to either be pissed about not being co-host or pissed about not having the rest of her posse invited. She made a big deal at DSs shower about paying for half. She literally made an announcement (out loud at the shower) about it as she handed my mom (in front of everyone) her half of the money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2161552 Thu, 30 Apr 2015 05:30:20 +0000 ValentineMommy 2161552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2littlepumpkins: She would definitely show up. And she would probably make several comments about her extended family not being invited.</p> <p>@anonysquire: Lol! I would love to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2161485 Wed, 29 Apr 2015 21:35:27 +0000 anonysquire 2161485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't invite her, and instead I woukd send a glitter gram to her house. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2161397 Wed, 29 Apr 2015 20:04:16 +0000 buttermilk 2161397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay I change my response too after your update! Screw her! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2161327 Wed, 29 Apr 2015 18:11:13 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2161327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After reading more info on your relationship with her I would NOT invite her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2161308 Wed, 29 Apr 2015 17:50:29 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2161308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you do invite her what are the chances she actually shows up? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2161298 Wed, 29 Apr 2015 17:36:20 +0000 WinterBee 2161298@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Given the history to avoid drama I wouldn't invite her. It doesn't sound like she is that interested in your family anyways and it's not like not inviting her will destroy your relationship. As long and you and your DH feel that's the best option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2155538 Fri, 24 Apr 2015 09:04:59 +0000 BandDmommy 2155538@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sapphire: agree. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2153124 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 18:45:02 +0000 travellingbee 2153124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sapphire: I agree totally!!! This!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2153109 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 18:12:03 +0000 wonderstruck 2153109@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No way! While I kind of get the kill her with kindness, don't give her anything bad to say angle...it sounds like she will find something bad to say no matter what. So if your options are her talking behind your back (which she likely does anyways) or giving her the chance to ruin your shower, let her talk all she wants. She's the one who purposely caused serious financial harm to your family and had been nothing but nasty! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2152921 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 14:40:55 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2152921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Reading the update, I am pretty shocked you would even consider inviting her! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2152909 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 14:31:13 +0000 sapphire 2152909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I realk y think only you and DH can judge and I'm not really sure what any of us can add. Is it rude not to invite her? Yes. Is she a rude person? Yes. Does that make the situation ok? You have to decide what's best. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2152762 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 13:05:26 +0000 fuzzypeaches 2152762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Omg that is so crazy!<br /> Honestly, I'd probably still invite her/them - mostly because I try and keep my enemies close haha. But my guess is that she wouldn't come anyway? </p> <p>My feeling is that then at least I would feel like I "tried". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2152750 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 13:02:09 +0000 Purpledaisy 2152750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was going to say yes but after your update I say definitely no. Your shower should be a happy occasion. You shouldn't have to invite someone like that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2152527 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 11:19:11 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2152527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Under normal circumstances I'd say it would be rude not to invite her. In your case I probably wouldn't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2152493 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 11:01:31 +0000 littlejoy 2152493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would absolutely NOT invite her. And, I hope you don't feel any guilt about it. You seem so lovely, and she seems like a toxic person. Enjoy your sprinkle!! It sounds like it will be so special. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2152443 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 10:30:17 +0000 youboots 2152443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, simply for the fact that I would not want someone with a history of identity theft around my friends and family's belongings. And no for all the other reasons too- but if my possessions are not safe around someone then I won't be around them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2152376 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 10:00:20 +0000 cascademom 2152376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Based on the update, I wouldn't invite her. I do courtesy invites with my MIL, but she's states away and equally uninterested and toxic. </p> <p>When LO got baptized last November, I think that she was surprised that we didn't courtesy invite them on it. They aren't terribly religious, really wouldn't have cared, and wouldn't have attended anyway since it was more for my family then theirs. So, whatever. They'll get courtesy invites and that's about it. We don't get along at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2152324 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:28:08 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2152324@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After reading your response, no it's not awkward. I think it's wrong for your ILs to even assume they're invited when they clearly aren't interested in having a relationship with you :sad: </p> <p>Enjoy your drama free sprinkle and congratulations! :happy: :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2152323 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:27:31 +0000 Charm54 2152323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would invite her , since she probably won't show up anyway. Always better to err on the side of kindness. I would not invite her sisters though </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2152318 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:25:40 +0000 Synchronicity 2152318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope. It sounds like you and your husband are not interested in reconciling the relationship with her, so I'd say there's no need to invite her if it's going to make you uncomfortable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2152315 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:24:15 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2152315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: agree. </p> <p>Kill her with kindness. Send the invite, but don't follow up on the RSVP. If she doesn't show that's on her not attending rather on you and your mom for not including her at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2152309 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:20:31 +0000 bunnylove08 2152309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read your update and I would not invite her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2152308 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:19:14 +0000 buttermilk 2152308@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely invite her. It's her grandchild!- </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle/page/2#post-2152307 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:19:03 +0000 LBee 2152307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@oliviaoblivia: I thought the same thing. </p> <p>You are above all her shenanigans (if you can even place identity stealing in that category). I would invite her and call it a day. Don't invite her sisters or anyone else - just her. Don't let her actions make her able to potentially spin the story in your home town to make you look bad (and, as you can see in this thread, it would be easy to omit pertinent details and make you look rude)!</p> <p>ETA: Same thought as @looch: too - I just seem to be a slow typer! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle#post-2152303 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:17:28 +0000 birdofafeather 2152303@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ValentineMommy: Reading the update, no need to invite. She sounds toxic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle#post-2152302 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:16:29 +0000 looch 2152302@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does it give her a reason to have your name in her mouth if you don't invite her? If it does, then I'd send an invite. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-not-being-invited-to-my-sprinkle#post-2152299 Wed, 22 Apr 2015 09:15:00 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2152299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm going to go against the grain and say after reading your update to invite her. Just to rub it in her ugly face that you are better than her.<br /> Sorry she sucks so much. </p>