https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 00:11:05 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763750 Tue, 01 Aug 2017 08:43:16 +0000 Mrs. Sketchbook 2763750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsbubbletea: No MIL help from me, but wanted to say sorry about your lead level troubles...we also had the same issue a few years ago and it was really scary for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763723 Tue, 01 Aug 2017 04:58:17 +0000 ElbieKay 2763723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Why do grandparents think they have the right to act as parents?</p> <p>I, uh, struggle to be polite in situations like that. I do not believe that sort of "concern" comes from a place of caring. I believe it is an attempt to control your decision making. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763712 Mon, 31 Jul 2017 22:54:39 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2763712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ScarletBegonia: believe me I tried! I am a nurse, but she couldnt care less about what I know or say about medical matters! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763703 Mon, 31 Jul 2017 21:31:16 +0000 maddyz 2763703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Arg! I just posted a video of lo1 playing nicely with and then pushing lo2. This is pretty much how it always goes these days. Mil sent a super long email to dh about "how she handled this when he pushed his sister" it felt judgenental and passive agressive to me, like she thinks I am not addressing it and that she needs to get dh to talk to me about it. Also there was lots about how their neighbor pushed a lot and he's still a bully...</p> <p>All of this to say I totally get where you are coming from and it's super hard to keep your cool when dealing with mil and comments on your patenting. I have had my share of not as well stated points. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763698 Mon, 31 Jul 2017 21:18:00 +0000 annem1990 2763698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The toddler I nanny for did this for a few months. It was very apparent and she would get super frustrated. It got way worse before it got better. Pediatrician said not to worry- it's super common.<br /> Within about 6 months, the stutter was totally gone. I'm sorry your MIL is so pushy! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763692 Mon, 31 Jul 2017 20:33:36 +0000 ScarletBegonia 2763692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is all super annoying but you can tell your MIL from a person with a master's degree in microbiology that it is ABSOLUTELY NOT OKAY to not finish a course of antibiotics, and that not fully treating bacterial infections is a big part of what has lead to the rampant antibiotic resistant infections that exist today, in and out of hospitals. Any doctor, scientist, or 10th grade science student will say the same thing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763662 Mon, 31 Jul 2017 18:16:26 +0000 nana87 2763662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: exactly this for my lo1! She has a crazy vocabulary for her age and sometimes her mouth just can't catch up to her brain. At 3y4m now she rarely stutters but did for awhile at the beginning of sentences, especially when she was tired </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763653 Mon, 31 Jul 2017 17:38:02 +0000 erinbaderin 2763653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>B totally did this - I would just tell her his brain is working faster than his mouth can go and so sometimes his words get stuck because his brain is racing ahead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763637 Mon, 31 Jul 2017 16:40:15 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2763637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MommySLP: Thank you so much! I love that you chimed in, as soon as I saw the email notification SLP I was excited :)</p> <p>agreed@Alba4: :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763635 Mon, 31 Jul 2017 16:33:43 +0000 Alba4 2763635@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry- so annoying! My DS went through a stuttering phase too. Normal! She needs a day job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763634 Mon, 31 Jul 2017 16:24:13 +0000 MommySLP 2763634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsbubbletea: from a speech perspective (I'm a pediatric speech pathologist) you are definitely right---stuttering at this age is very very common. It is not something I would be concerned about unless it has lasted longer than 6 months, there is a significant family history, and/or you are seeing physical components (eye blinking, stiffening of muscles, etc). Here is some more information from the national speech/language organization. I would make sure your mother in law knows that at this age it can actually be more detrimental to make your son aware of the stuttering so hopefully she keeps her feelings to herself!<br /> <a href="http://www.asha.org/public/speech/disorders/stuttering.htm" rel="nofollow">http://www.asha.org/public/speech/disorders/stuttering.htm</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763631 Mon, 31 Jul 2017 16:14:22 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2763631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catlady: @SweetiePie: that would go perfectly with my ideal response "thanks, I'll bring it up with his doc, ok gotta go talk to you later!" I didn't flip out on her or anything but I definitely wasn't as calm, cool, collected, or concise as I would have liked. Oh well. I'll try harder next time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763626 Mon, 31 Jul 2017 16:03:14 +0000 SweetiePie 2763626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catlady: Yes I pull the pediatrician card all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763625 Mon, 31 Jul 2017 16:01:55 +0000 catlady 2763625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My response for all these types of things is always, "Thanks, I'll bring it up to his pediatrician" (or in some cases, "Thanks, but I already talked with his pediatrician and she said not to worry/it's totally normal/etc"). And then I change the subject. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763624 Mon, 31 Jul 2017 15:55:12 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2763624@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LemonJack: @mrswin: thank you!!! It helps to hear about other kids who have done it, even though I am pretty sure his is the normal developmental kind, from time to time I have given it a second thought. And good idea on the article! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763620 Mon, 31 Jul 2017 15:45:11 +0000 mrswin 2763620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsbubbletea: My DD just did the same thing for about two weeks and has completely stopped but in its place are longer and more "defined" sentences. My SO mentioned it a couple of times but I sent him a couple articles and then he backed off a bit. I really think it is just a developmental things because their tiny brains are growing like crazy! Maybe email your MIL an article you found to help calm her fears :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763615 Mon, 31 Jul 2017 15:34:08 +0000 LemonJack 2763615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How annoying! My nephew stuttered a LOT at that exact age because, like you mentioned, his language just exploded. He grew out of it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mil-vent-for-monday#post-2763606 Mon, 31 Jul 2017 15:23:45 +0000 mrsbubbletea 2763606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. I had a dream about a big fight with MIL last weekend and I swear it was foreshadowing for the annoying conversation we just had. </p> <p>She lives about 25 min away but we don't see her all that often because she doesn't drive except in her immediate area (for the most part...that's a topic for another day!). Usually my husband brings my son over to her house once or twice a month when I am working. They went over on Saturday, and when I was chatting with him Sunday about how it went, he mentioned she was very concerned about his stuttering. He is 2.5 and its true that in the last few weeks he has started stuttering a lot. But, he doesnt always do it, and from what I have read it can be totally normal at this age, especially the way in which he does it. He's quite a verbal child, and it's insane when you think of all the ways their minds and vocabularies continue to explode every single day at this age!</p> <p>So, fast forward to today, when we got my son a haircut. She's always been obsessed with how long and unkempt his hair is, and so I sent her a pic of the haircut process and the after cause I knew she'd get a kick out of it. She sent a nice message back and then called me, and sent another message saying to call her when I get a chance. I called when DS went down to nap. So, what she wanted to discuss with me was his stutter. She is extremely concerned, she said I probably haven't noticed it since I am around him all the time, she also said I haven't noticed it since I work all the time (how do those two go together again??). Then she said We should really get his lead levels rechecked (they were high in the past, like at 1, we did some abatement in our home and when we rechecked they were almost normal so we never checked again since the developmental age for putting things in mouth as much was over and it was clearly improved). I guess implying that maybe he could be stuttering from having high levels? Like WTF? </p> <p>Then she went on a tangent about how smart he is. Followed by another tangent about an article she read about antibiotics and not finishing the courses as a good thing. Meanwhile, my son has never been on antibiotics, I haven't for years, and she's the one who always suggests we need antibiotics when he has a cold. </p> <p>My plan when she says freaking irritating stuff like this is to just go "hmm. thats interesting" and then change the subject. I know in hindsight this time was no different, I should have just made an excuse and got off the phone. But its so hard! Can anyone relate? Please chime in with MIL/whoever vent! </p>