https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 23:15:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mils-grrror-great#post-66804 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 16:17:01 +0000 BabyLove 66804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I imagine that would annoy the crap out of me too actually. I can see that she may mean no harm. But as a new mother, this is your time to get to know your baby and to learn to comfort/soothe/learn how to respond to his or her needs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mils-grrror-great#post-66774 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 15:44:48 +0000 LuLu Mom 66774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my MIL, but I have noticed her doing this with my niece. She even asks if my bro in law/sis in law want her to have her stay in her room so they can sleep in. I understand she doesn't get to see her that often, but I'm nervous for when our baby comes. She can be a little overbearing, but I can't complain too much because she's a great person and super nice to me/loves me like her own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mils-grrror-great#post-66736 Fri, 03 Feb 2012 15:20:57 +0000 Crisark 66736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can understand how you feel. I'm sure she just wants to help but at the same time you are a new mom and want/need to feel confident in your choices for caring for your child.<br /> Try to take her comments/actions with a grain of salt and continually tell yourself that you are doing a great job! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mils-grrror-great#post-66085 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 19:48:47 +0000 enjollah 66085@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Baby isn't here yet but MIL has already voiced her "help"/opinion/suggestion/whatever you want to call it to hubs and I. The "suggestion" that rubbed me the wrong way so far was that she take the baby during the day so DH and I can rest and then give baby back at night. My initial thoughts were "so you're going to whip out your boob and breastfeed my baby?" Crazy! After venting to husband, I took a breath, and we discussed that at the root of it all, his mom was just trying to help. It is our first baby, we're not experienced, and she's just looking out for our best interest. Also, her personality is one who likes to micromanage so it'd be difficult for her to step down and not offer any help at all. I just constantly remind myself that MILs (especially mine) are just there to offer help....hopefully not think that we're inadequate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mils-grrror-great#post-66068 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 19:04:24 +0000 cyneswith 66068@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I understand (as much as I can, not yet being a mom). I could NOT live with my parents or his with a baby. "I can cope just fine, if you'll give me a chance!"</p> <p>Thankfully, my mom-in-law tends to support my general line of thinking on most motherhood related issues, even more than my husband (and my husband is quick to listen when both his mom and I say something.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mils-grrror-great#post-66024 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 18:12:56 +0000 BoogieBea 66024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I went through those emotions as well, with both my MIL and my mother. They are both VERY hands on grandmoms. For me, I think I just felt a sense of inadequacy because my MIL raised 3 sons close in age, while working and with no help. To this day, she wakes up at 4 in the morning every day. She used to clean the house, top to bottom, get the kids ready for school and then go to work. I just can't compete with that kind of dedication. So part of me feels like I need to prove that I can do everything on my own as well. The reality is, she would've loved to have the help back then. But she didn't have any family close by, which is why she is so eager to offer a helping hand with our kids.<br /> Once my baby reached 6 months or so, when I had a better handle of how to care for him. I was more relaxed about leaving him with others. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mils-grrror-great#post-66018 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 18:00:38 +0000 jennylynn 66018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can see how that would get annoying, but like others have said, I'm sure she means well. Maybe try saying something like "that's ok, I have to learn to do this myself, but thanks" or something along those lines so that she understands you're ok but you appreciate her offer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mils-grrror-great#post-66013 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 17:56:20 +0000 miranlee 66013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are actually living with her for the time being. I do get that she is being nice and just wants to love on the baby and I keep reminding myself of that. If we didn't have to spend so much time just being around each other, I don't think I would get so easily annoyed. I think I'm just being sensitive to being a new mom and learning to get the hang of everything, bc before I moved to her house I liked her alot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mils-grrror-great#post-66003 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 17:44:49 +0000 Andrea 66003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can see how that would be annoying. But she is trying to be helpful and doesn't think you can't do it I am sure. Does she live with you or just visiting? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mils-grrror-great#post-65993 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 17:38:41 +0000 chopsuey 65993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww. I think it's sweet. It might be hormones. When my LO was a newborn my mom stayed with us for a few weeks. It was SO great having her help, but I did get annoyed easily.<br /> Now that my LO's older, those feelings are gone and I love having my mom/MIL take care of her. I need a break! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mils-grrror-great#post-65991 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 17:35:07 +0000 heffalump 65991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If she's anything like my mom, she just doesn't mind a fussy baby and just wants to give you a rest. Hope that's your mils thing too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mils-grrror-great#post-65987 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 17:30:57 +0000 Rubies 65987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know how you feel. My MIL doesn't like the way I parent and always makes me feel like whatever I'm doing is wrong. She used to watch LO a couple of hours every Tuesdays but I've stopped because I didn't like the way she made me feel. She comes over now when my husband is home or if I'm feeling SUPER nice, I'll invite her over for lunch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mils-grrror-great#post-65981 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 17:19:41 +0000 mrbee 65981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends, how many hours of free babysitting are we talking about here haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mils-grrror-great#post-65979 Thu, 02 Feb 2012 17:17:35 +0000 miranlee 65979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Am I being ridiculous for feeling undermined/annoyed whenever my MIL asks if I need help with the baby? I love that she wants to spend so much time with the baby and am so happy to have the help at night so that we can get a few extra hours of rest. But whenever I am alone with the baby and she starts crying, my MIL is up in a flash asking if I need help and do I want her to take the baby. Every. Single. Time. It makes me feel like she thinks I can't take care of the baby myself. </p> <p>Am I being harmonal and ridiculous? </p>