https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 21:50:01 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mind-dump#post-2908578 Sat, 18 Jan 2020 01:17:40 +0000 MoonMoon 2908578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really sorry to hear this. I think you have every right to feel grief and empathy for him and his family. And as you said, you were a part of each other's lives at one point, even if not for the least few years. That counts for something. Especially to have someone die so tragically young, it's normal to feel all kinds of emotions. Do you have someone you can talk with, just to share feelings and memories? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mind-dump#post-2908552 Fri, 17 Jan 2020 17:10:25 +0000 muffinsmuffins 2908552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think anytime there’s something tragic like this with friends or family or even acquaintances of the same age it’s a reality check and reminds us of the fragility of life and our mortality. That can really stick with you.</p> <p>Years ago, DW’s coworkers fiance suddenly collapsed and died. We were in our late 20’s at the time and there was no reason for it. He just dropped dead. Healthy one day and then gone. They never found out why. That has haunted me and I never even met the guy! Feel your feels and don’t think it’s weird. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mind-dump#post-2908529 Fri, 17 Jan 2020 12:43:46 +0000 Mrs. Marshmallow 2908529@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is really hard. I hear you saying you feel like you shouldn't be as upset as you are, but unfortunately I just don't think that's how it works. </p> <p>Allow yourself to recognize your feelings. It's still a big loss, even if you weren't close anymore. </p> <p>Grief always has a funny way of sending us into those pitfalls of comparison that make it even more difficult. Thinking about his wife's shoes, what his children are experiencing! </p> <p>Allow yourself to feel it out. Unfortunately the only way through it is through it. </p> <p>Hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mind-dump#post-2908528 Fri, 17 Jan 2020 12:09:58 +0000 bhbee 2908528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m so sorry. That’s really tough. A guy I dated for years (but no longer talk to) got an ALS diagnosis and it’s really hard to think about. I think it’s totally normal to feel those things whenever someone from our formative years - or any former good friend - dies or is suffering. I think it’s like the way you can pick up with some old friends - the time that has passed doesn’t matter, it all feels like yesterday. Hugs :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mind-dump#post-2908525 Fri, 17 Jan 2020 11:58:09 +0000 Mrs. Cereal 2908525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Today is rough. I have so many thoughts running through my head and I have to dump them somewhere. A high school boyfriend died two weeks ago from brain cancer. It hit me hard but I feel like I can't be that sad because in the last few years we kind of stopped communicating very much. We both have spouses and our kids are almost the exact same ages. I feel disingenuous about being sad because I don't feel like I deserve to be sad because we weren't close for the last few years. We would always be happy to see each other, but we weren't good friends anymore. You know, normal changes to friendships. Today though, it is his birthday. This popped up in my facebook feed and I feel completely devastated. His wife shares his birthday, which makes me feel even worse because I can't stop picturing her and what must be going through her head today.</p> <p>Its just a huge mind-f***. He was a huge part of my young adult life (college years we spent with him as one of my closest friends) and now he's gone. Its just remarkable harder than I expected. </p>