https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 28 May 2026 09:07:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage/page/2#post-2824578 Thu, 24 May 2018 11:53:36 +0000 turnitup 2824578@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Please accept my condolences. I never this is very hard.</p> <p>We suffered a miscarriage some time ago. Or original gyn told us to get a D&amp;C. However, a doctor at another hospital told us to wait until the miscarriage happens naturally, as D&amp;C's come with risks to your organs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2819161 Sat, 28 Apr 2018 19:43:05 +0000 karenbme 2819161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry you’re going through this. By now, hopefully, the physical part is over. ❤️ This whole thing is cruel and unfair, but know you’re not alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2819117 Sat, 28 Apr 2018 13:19:44 +0000 yellowbeach 2819117@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: So sorry to read this. What a cruel roller coaster. My heart is with you today. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2819110 Sat, 28 Apr 2018 12:47:20 +0000 MamaCate 2819110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: I will be thinking of you and your family especially today. ❤️❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2819106 Sat, 28 Apr 2018 11:44:38 +0000 bhbee 2819106@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: hope it’s over soon. Lots of :heart: for you on this tough day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2819101 Sat, 28 Apr 2018 11:15:00 +0000 GoGoSnoGirl 2819101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry to read this! I've wondered how you were doing but really hoped for better news. :crying: Sending healing thoughts. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2819090 Sat, 28 Apr 2018 11:04:36 +0000 LCTBQE 2819090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: :heart: :heart: good call on the percocet. don't be scared of the cytotec, it works how it is supposed to for most people, and D&amp;C's and natural miscarriages both have their own sets of complications, too. I know so many women who have gone this route IRL and no one had any trouble. you're going to be okay, hang in there. I'm sorry you're having to go through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2819086 Sat, 28 Apr 2018 10:25:05 +0000 crazydoglady 2819086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: Take it easy, mama. I am hoping everything goes quickly and is as painless as possible. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2819078 Sat, 28 Apr 2018 09:38:23 +0000 dc yoga bee 2819078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you. I’ve read each and every post. Twice. I threw up four times at work yesterday (morning sickness) and can’t keep handling this cruel joke. So, I started cytotec this morning at 6:45 and took Percocet about an hour before. So, far I’ve had no pain, cramping, or bleeding. I’m hoping it will work and I too have read many a horror story on google. Thank you again for the outpouring of love. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818769 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 21:45:17 +0000 MamaCate 2818769@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: I am so sorry for your loss. ❤️❤️ I had a missed m/c and chose a d&amp;c so I don’t have any specific advice. I will be thinking of you. ❤️ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818752 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 19:46:53 +0000 ElbieKay 2818752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss.</p> <p>I have had three miscarriages. The first was the result of my second cycle of ever trying to get pregnant, and it was diagnosed around 7w. I took cytotec because I didn't want to have surgery. I read all these awful cramping stories online and was terrified to take it, and then it barely had any physical side effects other than bleeding. In fact I had so little cramping that I did not believe it worked. But it did.</p> <p>After that I eventually got pregnant with my son. It took a total of eight months (fewer cycles) to get pregnant, including the miscarriage.</p> <p>After my son was born I got an IUD. I got it removed when he was around 20 months old. I got pregnant pretty quickly a few months later without really trying. That resulted in a spontaneous miscarriage at around 8w.</p> <p>About a year after the IUD was pulled, I started working with an RE. I skipped the IUI with my second round of Clomid due to a scheduling conflict and got pregnant anyway. That fetus did not develop appropriately, which we detected around 7-8 weeks. The RE recommend a D&amp;C so they could analyze the tissue, and it turned out that the baby had Trisomy 6 which is incompatible with life.</p> <p>I finally got pregnant again about two years after my IUD removal. It was my fifth and final round of Clomid and my third IUI. We were looking into trying IVF next. But instead I wound up pregnant with twins. They are due in July.</p> <p>In my experience, the recovery from all three miscarriages was similar. It was the mechanism / trigger that was different. Emotionally the cytotec was easiest (discounting how I freaked myself out on the internet beforehand) because I took it in the privacy of my own home. I was not home when my spontaneous miscarriage occurred -- in fact I was in the waiting room for what was supposed to be my first prenatal appointment. And I got really really upset before my D&amp;C and was basically a crying mess when they put me under for it.</p> <p>Again, I'm sorry for your loss but please keep some hope that you will get your rainbow baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818662 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 13:45:28 +0000 MrsBrewer 2818662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: I am so so so sorry he hear this :-( I also miscarried around 8 weeks. Not sure when the baby had stopped growing, I went to bed at night with bad cramping, and bright red blood, not a lot, just when I wiped. I made an appt for the next morning, and first thing when I woke up, I had passed it. Just lots of cramping and bleeding. It was harder for me emotionally than physically honestly. </p> <p>Please message me if you'd like to talk! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818539 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 08:30:34 +0000 rpparker 2818539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818504 Thu, 26 Apr 2018 01:29:35 +0000 Nutella 2818504@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: I’m so sorry to hear this :heart: sending lots of strength your way. I remember that numb feeling all too well even though it has been years. With my missed MC there was no spotting or signs at all, and since I didn’t like the idea of waiting any more I opted for the d&amp;c (which wasn’t an issue at all). I felt better afterwards physically and emotionally, well that took its own sweet time...be easy on yourself. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818441 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 18:14:29 +0000 Iced Tea 2818441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m so sorry. I hate this for you. </p> <p>I had three natural miscarriages. One was like a period and the other two were like early labor. </p> <p>One occurred partly at the hospital, which was utterly awful. Not being far enough along to be treated in L&amp;D means dealing with unsympathetic and unhelpful people, unfortunately. The other two were at home. I much preferred that. </p> <p>I bled kind of a lot with the two later ones, but the bleeding didn’t last a long time for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818436 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 17:46:09 +0000 ChiCalGoBee 2818436@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: I am so sorry. I had a loss around the same time (weeks-wise) as you, but I had bright red blood that sent me in for an ultrasound where we saw I was measuring a week behind. A day later I had very heavy bleeding and cramping, and it was after hours so I went to the ER and they did an u/s to make sure everything was passing/did pass. It was all natural (no medication needed), but it *did* take a full 3 weeks for all of the HCG to leave my system (we had betas and the numbers kept going down), but it took a long time for those final few numbers to fall.</p> <p>Again, I'm so sorry. I'm not sure if this helps, but my OB gave me no medical reason to delay TTC, and said in fact that the increased hormones in my body might actually help us get pregnant again quickly. For me that was true, and I am very hopefully bringing home my rainbow in 11 weeks. Please feel free to reach out for any reason. You're in my thoughts. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818435 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 17:38:21 +0000 karenbme 2818435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I had a missed miscarriage in November and opted for misoprostol. Cramped for about 12 hours and bled heavily for about 2. Passed some additional tissue a day and a half later, but didn’t have any retained tissue at my follow up. The pain was bad, but manageable with a heating pad and Motrin. In terms of time off ttc, it took 3 months for my cycle to come back, and 4 months to start ovulating again. So even though we kept BDing, it wasn’t really doing much.</p> <p> :heart: :heart: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818426 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 16:18:31 +0000 LindsayInNY 2818426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh. I didn’t want to open this post... I am so so sorry. You’re now part of two of the worst TTC clubs - IF and MC. Ya know, because one wasn’t enough... (And I say this candidly having been there).</p> <p>When I went in at 11 weeks, baby had stopped growing fat 8 weeks. I had light brown spotting. I opted to let things happen on their own, if possible. I did start bleeding and took a cytotec to “help” things along. I actually took it 3 times to be sure everyone was gone. The first time was the worst. And this is said by someone who had an unmediated birth. The cramping and pain was so bad. I wish I had a better pain killer because that might’ve helped. I didn’t want to stand to cook dinner, I just wanted to lay down. After the first day, I was fine. I bled a lot. Had I known I would’ve bought more than just the small package of pads... I was told to wait one period, which I did. My OB said it helps your lining build back up to an adequate thickness so it’s not just about dating going forward. </p> <p>Sending you so much love and hugs right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818424 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 16:10:40 +0000 LCTBQE 2818424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very sorry to hear this :heart: I had a natural m/c although only at 6 weeks. It was uncomplicated and like a bad period. I passed the tissue and it was about the size of a kidney bean, which was emotionally more painful than physically by far. then it was over after a few more days of normal bleeding. If you take the miso like pp’s have mentioned, probably a good idea to make sure it works completely with a follow up scan—this is what my friends IRL have done. I would personally take the miso and not wait it out if you’re not spotting, I have heard that can take a really long time. It is the worst, hang in there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818422 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 15:56:29 +0000 Raspberry 2818422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am very sorry you are going through this. It's an incredibly sad and lonely experience that I don't wish on anyone.</p> <p>I miscarried at what I think was just before 7 weeks. Bled for longer than a regular period and it was dark and clumpy, but the cramps weren't any worse than a regular period. I did skip a cycle but wish that I hadn't. I think it's fine to try again right away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818420 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 15:20:03 +0000 MamaBear87 2818420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. All the hugs sent you're way. Be kind to yourself </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818418 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 14:51:36 +0000 Shantuck 2818418@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear of all that you have been through. I've had three miscarriages - one natural and two with D&amp;C's. (I've also taken misoprostol for a retained placenta / post-childbirth situation and I had a horrible experience but my experience probably isn't super relevant since I wasn't taking it for the same purpose). For me personally, I preferred the D&amp;C route because it was the least painful physically (mild cramping afterwards for a day or so) and it also allows you to schedule it and move on (basically, the only thing you can control in an out of control situation) rather than waiting for something to happen on its own. Given that I've had repeated losses, it was also helpful for me to know the reasons for the losses since the tissue could be collected and tested following the D&amp;C. </p> <p>After my D&amp;C, I was advised to wait until my first period returned to allow bruising in the uterus to heal. With my first D&amp;C, I did end up pregnant after my period first returned and ended up having a successful pregnancy.</p> <p>Again, I'm so sorry you are going through this. Sending healing thoughts your way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818416 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 14:40:23 +0000 Mama Bird 2818416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry... miscarriage is bad enough without the roller coaster you went through.</p> <p>I had a loss at 7 weeks a while ago. It started by itself, I hadn't even seen a doctor at that point, even though I had a feeling something is wrong and kept calling asking if they can squeeze me in. Physically, it was no worse than a bad period and not very painful. I did take a day off work and go to the ER, but only because I thought there's a chance they can save the baby (the doctor still had no time for me). Which... doesn't work like that and was a mistake. I spent the better part of the day there, when I just wanted to be with my family. Even when they confirmed there's nothing they can do, there was a stupid paperwork hold-up and I could not leave for another four hours. Staying home would have been much better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818412 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 14:23:21 +0000 erinbaderin 2818412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m so so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at six weeks. I chose misoprostal because I couldn’t stand the idea of just waiting for it to happen. I did a lot of reading and was really scared of the pain but actually for me, it was relatively easy (other than the problems I had with the actual hospital being incompetent). They gave me oxycodone “for the pain” which was actually the worst part, it made me really sick. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818407 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 13:28:28 +0000 Ajsmommy 2818407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>:heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818405 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 13:20:03 +0000 bhbee 2818405@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I’m so sorry :heart: I also went the d&amp;c route for a bit later loss but it just sucks no matter the route. Give yourself the time you need but don’t feel you need to wait for the drs. We did not and I have no regrets especially since it took a while to get another Bfp. So many hugs </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818404 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 13:20:00 +0000 skinnycow 2818404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss</p> <p>I opted for a D&amp;C so I don't have any experience with the other two options. My OB said we could try again immediately but we are waiting for other reasons. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818403 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 13:17:45 +0000 crazydoglady 2818403@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sad to read this. I had been lurking on the Dec board and was so hoping for a happy outcome.<br /> I had a D&amp;C and a CP, so I can't really offer any advice, but please be kind and gentle with yourself. We are all here for you. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818402 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 13:08:30 +0000 snowjewelz 2818402@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so, so sorry :sad: </p> <p> :heart: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage#post-2818395 Wed, 25 Apr 2018 12:48:45 +0000 mediagirl 2818395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. This has been such a roller coaster for you. &lt;3 </p>