https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 12:53:16 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/4#post-649373 Mon, 18 Mar 2013 10:05:37 +0000 MrsTiz 649373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@T.H.O.U.: :( I hate that you have to wait without knowing. When do you go back? *hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/4#post-649338 Mon, 18 Mar 2013 09:55:00 +0000 T.H.O.U. 649338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: I just wanted to comment that reading this thread was really helpful. Thank you to everyone for documenting your experiences. I am in the same boat, waiting sucks and I have no idea what a procedure would include. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/4#post-364552 Sat, 27 Oct 2012 23:33:43 +0000 marionberry 364552@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrstiz: I'm glad everything went well..wishing you any sort of peace right now.<br /> @icebergmom: I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this same situation as well. My thoughts are with you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/4#post-363424 Fri, 26 Oct 2012 17:05:09 +0000 Freckles 363424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: I don't know how i missed your previous comment to me, sorry! I'm glad things went well. Just get some rest, and take care of yourself this weekend! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/4#post-363390 Fri, 26 Oct 2012 16:27:32 +0000 sslm 363390@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: I'm glad things went ok, or at least as ok as can be expected. Get some rest!! Thinking about you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/4#post-363366 Fri, 26 Oct 2012 16:03:43 +0000 singingbee 363366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: Thinking of you and hope you're doing as well as can be expected </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/4#post-363321 Fri, 26 Oct 2012 15:33:30 +0000 Alivoo01 363321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: Thinking of you!! *hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/4#post-363319 Fri, 26 Oct 2012 15:32:56 +0000 autumnlove 363319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: Glad your appointment got moved up! Take care! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/4#post-363318 Fri, 26 Oct 2012 15:32:16 +0000 MrsTiz 363318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mango.sprays: @blackbird: thank you! Im trying to nap because I was up all night worrying, but my dog apparently does not believe in her mama taking naps lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/4#post-363273 Fri, 26 Oct 2012 15:11:10 +0000 blackbird 363273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Take care of yourself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/4#post-363215 Fri, 26 Oct 2012 14:48:04 +0000 mango.sprays 363215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Been thinking about you! Glad you're okay, and it (the procedure) is all over! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/4#post-363198 Fri, 26 Oct 2012 14:38:58 +0000 MrsTiz 363198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsCastro: I'm doing okay, I just got home from the hospital. Everything went well, I just have a weird pressure in my stomach but i'm doing well! Thanks for checking in! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/4#post-363121 Fri, 26 Oct 2012 13:58:50 +0000 MrsCastro 363121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: thinking about you this morning...hope you are well... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-360618 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 14:18:24 +0000 2PeasinaPod 360618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hey there - I know I'm a little late to your post, but wanted to lend my support. I also had a missed miscarriage and had to go in for a D&amp;C. The actual procedure itself isn't bad at all. They put you under, go in and do their thing and you're back out in less than 45 minutes. It's more stressful for your DH than it is for you!</p> <p>Afterwards, just make sure you take a few Advil or Motrin to keep up with the pain. Mine just felt like severe period cramps. The next day, I was a little tender, but went to my parents' house and hung around with my family. So you should be ok going to the party as long as you aren't doing anything strenuous.</p> <p>Emotionally, it's the toughest thing I've ever had to go through. You will go through a ton of emotions, and it's totally normal. It took a good 3 months until I felt like I was getting back to myself again. My DH and I took the summer off from TTC just to heal from losing the baby. Definitely tough.</p> <p>I do want to tell you though that there's lots of hope! It took us 8 months to get pregnant with our first. I miscarried in June of that year and then got pregnant again in November. Miscarried again, and got pregnant in January. I now have a beautiful 4 week old son who is my world! So just try to stay strong and know that your baby is coming soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-360555 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 14:03:32 +0000 JamieLee 360555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: I'm so sorry you are going though this, and I know I'm kind of late to the post, but wanted to let you know how mine went; I think having as much info as you can ahead of time about what to expect is better. I was so uninformed, and wish I had been a member of a community like this at the time. </p> <p>I found out at our first appointment/ultrasound that the baby had no heartbeat and was measuring two weeks too small last December. I was supposed to be 10 weeks. My OB was fabulous and explained everything and gave my hubs and I time to talk about it. I was a complete wreck, but knew that I wanted everything over with as soon as possible. I'd had no cramping or bleeding so far so I didn't know how long it would take to happen naturally. They were able to schedule me for the next afternoon, which I was so thankful for. I had a pre-op phone call and they told me to shower with this special soap and not eat or drink after midnight. We went into the hospital around 10 am, checked in and waited for about 30 minutes in the waiting room. They took me back to pre-op by myself and got my IV hooked up and stuff. Then my husband was allowed to come back. I met with the anesthesiologist and signed some papers, then we waited. The OR where my procedure was to take place was backed up so we had to wait like an extra two hours and I had a breakdown because I just wanted it over with. Once it was finally time, they wheeled me to the room and did the whole count backwards from 100. I think the whole procedure took 10-15 minutes. My husband was allowed to see me after I woke up and I drank some juice and ate some crackers. Went to the bathroom and then we headed out. I needed some painkillers and heavy duty pads so we actually went to RiteAid after, and got pizza and a movie. I wasn't in a lot of pain, just really wore out and kind of achy. </p> <p>Once we got home, I did have some weird feelings like tingling in my arms, and I called my doctor and she really reassured me, so make sure you get a number to call if you need to.</p> <p>I had some cramping and heavy bleeding a few days later that was apparently pretty normal. I did pass some bigger clots, which alarmed me, but again, the doctor said this was normal. I went to a Christmas party the next day, and physically was fine. Emotionally, I didn't want to be there, but I felt ok physically. </p> <p>I was back to work Tuesday (procedure was Friday). I would have gone back Monday, but came down with a bug or something on top of it all.</p> <p>My biggest advice is to ask questions if you have them, don't feel bad calling your doctor after hours. There's someone on call for a reason. Its better than worrying yourself sick. </p> <p>Also, take time to be sad. I was a wreck for a while, and I was okay with that. Make sure you talk to people if you need to. Don't keep it all bottled up. I did a lot of reading online and was amazed how common it is. People just don't talk about it, which is a shame, because it makes it almost taboo. It's okay to be mad, sad, whatever you feel. It's your life, your body, and your baby. </p> <p>As for trying again, we waited till May because I wasn't emotionally ready. My mom died in February of 2011 and then we lost the baby in December, so it was a pretty rough year for us. I needed time to grieve. I think everyone is different, so do what you think is right. We haven't hit the jackpot yet, but I think that's because I haven't been getting my O date right. </p> <p>Even though I don't know you, I'll be thinking about you tomorrow. Best of luck, and if you need any support from a complete stranger, let me know. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-360466 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 13:32:32 +0000 heffalump 360466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: Yes the surgery is very quick. It's just the pre and post that take a while, and even that doesn't take that long. You don't have to stop eating 24 hours before, just after midnight I think, maybe 9 at the latest, I don't remember. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-359874 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 10:13:01 +0000 blackbird 359874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It'll be best to get it over with, honestly. I had a D&amp;C once and i felt much better that evening. It's very quick and I hope you feel better (as much as you can, anyways) once it's over. </p> <p>Different doctors have different ideas on when it's ok to try again. After a D&amp;C, mine says 3 months (because they scrape your uterus and that can do something to it, i guess?), but it varies widely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-359776 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 09:41:38 +0000 savanarunner 359776@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrstiz I think they tell you nothing to eat or drink after midnight regardless of your appointment time. It was painless for me. The procedure is just a few minutes but I think it takes an hour or so to wake up after the procedure. I was pale and a little weak the rest of the day of but took a the 800mg Ibprofen and not any other pain med. I'll echo Artbee saying go to the bathroom before you head home. I didn't and after moving around a little to get to the car bleed a good bit on the ride home. I spotted/bled for another week after my D&amp;C and that was after 10 days of bleeding after my miscarriage (D&amp;C was to remove leftover tissue).</p> <p>I had family coming into town that evening and we went to a fall festival for the whole day the next day. I physically felt well enough to go to the festival the day after. Had a good time and drank quite a few beers. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-359517 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 08:10:22 +0000 MrsTiz 359517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: I'll def. take pictures! I'm wearing a blue pantsuit and am going to paint my face/hands blue and stuff myself &amp; wear a red belt </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-359509 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 08:07:14 +0000 MrsTiz 359509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: My OB said the actual "surgery" part of it will only take her about 5 minutes! I have my pre-op appointment today so i'm going to ask a lot of questions lol Do you have to stop eating 12 hours before or 24? I swear she said 24 but that seems crazy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-359500 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 08:01:30 +0000 Cherrybee 359500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: That's hilarious!!! Especially the giant Oompa Loompas! Please tell me you're wearing a huge blueberry costume?!! If you do feel up to going, please post pictures! </p> <p>I think Willy Wonka makes perfect sense with just one Oompa Loompa (her boyfriend) - but it would be a shame to waste that blueberry!!!! :-)</p> <p>Stay strong, we're thinking of you all over the world. xxx </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-359499 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 08:00:57 +0000 heffalump 359499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: Did your doctor tell you what they'll do? For me they took me into preop, where they ask you a million questions, have you put on a gown, etc. and wait. They let you watch tv..... but I just sat there and talked to DH and my mom also came. They give you an IV and get you all ready. </p> <p>Then they take you away from DH and put you in another waiting room full of other patients, There they have you talk to the anesthesiologist and sign the papers saying it's ok to give you the drugs. Your doctor should come talk to you there too, before getting the drugs. They will probably give you something to relax, wheel you into the room, and then you'll be out. </p> <p>They'll take you into post op and that's where you'll wake up. They'll want you to eat and drink something, check your who ha and make sure everything looks good and you're not bleeding too much, and make sure you can pee before they let you go home. </p> <p>It's really pretty painless, you come out of it a little crampy but it's way more painful emotionally then physically. Let me know if you have any questions and I'm here if you need to talk! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-359496 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 07:58:34 +0000 sorrycharlie 359496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-359490 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 07:56:35 +0000 MrsTiz 359490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Cherrybee: She's Willy Wonka (the old school one)<br /> DH and her boyfriend are Oompa Loompas (they're both over 6ft tall haha) and I'm Violet. So hers makes sense without me, but not without DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-359487 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 07:55:17 +0000 MrsTiz 359487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: No you're being very helpful! I've never met anyone IRL that has had a m/c and def. not a d&amp;c, so I have no idea what to expect </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-359486 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 07:54:52 +0000 Cherrybee 359486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: I will be thinking of you. Hopefully, you'll feel fine the next day and will be able to go to the party and get steaming drunk. That said, if you don't feel up to it, I'm sure your sister will understand. </p> <p>What are you three going to the party as? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-359468 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 07:45:01 +0000 heffalump 359468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: That's understandable to be nervous! For me the whole thing was pretty surreal. I mean it's all so medical and sterile and you're going through all of these emotions that aren't really being acknowledged. They say "I'm sorry for your loss....." and then as you a million questions about your medical history. I don't mean to scare or upset you.... I guess for me it helps me be less nervous if I know what I'm getting myself into so you can be a little more prepared to deal with those emotions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-359460 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 07:34:49 +0000 MrsTiz 359460@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: Thats why I was upset they first scheduled it for 8 days out, I wanted it over. So now it's tomorrow and i'm nervous </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-359438 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 07:24:22 +0000 heffalump 359438@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsTiz: So so sorry..... but honestly I'd rather get the D&amp;C over and done with if I were you. They told me there'd be lots of cramping and bleeding after but for me it was really nothing, I was fine the day after. I'm sure your sister will understand if you're not up for the party, but hopefully you'll be able to go and it will be a good distraction. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/miscarriage-advicequestions/page/3#post-359417 Thu, 25 Oct 2012 07:08:19 +0000 MrsTiz 359417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsCastro: @caffeinated: My sister has a Halloween party Saturday night and her costume kind of relies on mine and DH's to make sense so i'm wondering if i'll be on bed rest or will I be fine enough to make an appearance..</p> <p>I'm not going to be doing keg stands, but I wonder if i'll be able to go and just sit there?</p> <p>This sucks in itself, but last weekend I had things to do, as well as this weekend so this could not have happened in a worse month. :( </p>