https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 00:54:31 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-408655 Tue, 20 Nov 2012 21:27:36 +0000 Pancakes 408655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks ladies. I ended up taking 200 mg misoprostol orally. After 5 days, not much was happening. When I went in for a follow up, I ended up seeing a different doctor in the practice and he wanted to do a d&amp;c that day. Despite my fear of anesthesia, I am really glad I had it done. I am 5 days out now, and I am glad I finally have some closure. Here's to trying again in a few months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-385251 Wed, 07 Nov 2012 22:12:10 +0000 shopaholic 385251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: Oh man! I didn't read any of the comments until @photojane: 's. Glad you are still preggers this time! It's so hard and scary after a m/c.<br /> @Pancakes: I am so sorry for your loss. My BFF just went through the same thing with a blighted ovum. Egg stopped growing at 6 wks but she didn't find out until 12 weeks. They gave her medication to take also and it took her about 4-5 days to complete it, but I think it's a better option than d&amp;c for sure. If your Dr. can't fit you in asap, can you go to another Dr. with your health plan? I'd definitely switch if I could. Again, so sorry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-385236 Wed, 07 Nov 2012 22:03:13 +0000 sslm 385236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pancakes: I'm so sorry for your loss!! What a nightmare. I took misoprostol but I took it vaginally and then thankfully didn't need a d&amp;c. 3 weeks seems like an awfully long wait. I would think they could fit you in before that :( I am so so sorry. I'm here if you need to chat!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-385161 Wed, 07 Nov 2012 21:12:59 +0000 photojane 385161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>just realized this was an old post! i'm SO glad you're still pregnant with a healthy baby! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-385135 Wed, 07 Nov 2012 21:02:42 +0000 Mrs. Pen 385135@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so so sorry for your loss :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-385126 Wed, 07 Nov 2012 20:56:55 +0000 Pancakes 385126@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am glad I found this thread, because I am going through this right now. Two weeks ago, an ultrasound revealed what appeared to be a blighted ovum. Four (why??) ultrasounds and two (LONG) weeks later, the doctor met with me today to discuss my options. He gave me 1 tablet of Misoprostol to take orally...and he said if I want to have a D&amp;C it will be THREE WEEKS before they can fit me in. I should be about 12 weeks along today. Does this sound right or okay? I feel like this process has been dragging on for so long already. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92898 Tue, 13 Mar 2012 19:37:54 +0000 Darling 92898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really sorry to hear that this happened :( Sadly, you have company. I also found out I had a missed miscarriage March 2nd, Baby also stopped developing at 6w. My doctor offered Misoprostol tablets, which help induce the miscarriage to finish.</p> <p>This is my 2nd time with Misoprostol and I have to say it was the right decision for me. I'll share my first experience...</p> <p>I took 4 tablets of the Misoprostol (vaginally, to reduce the side effects associated with digesting the pills) at 5:30 and 800 mg of Ibuprofen for pain. I laid flat for about 1 1/2 hours to ensure the medication dissolved properly. I felt very light cramping around 8:00, but no bleeding. The cramps got a little stronger around 10:30, then I went to bed at 11:00.</p> <p>At 2:00am I woke up with painful cramps. I got up to pee and took another dose of pain meds. Then at 2:20 I felt intense cramping. Stabbing cramps in my abdomen that burned like fire. I was sure it was a clot and I felt every movement. I got up to use the bathroom again. Sure enough a clot (about the diameter of a lime) passed and I felt a million times better. I went back to bed and found myself sleeping in little pain at all.</p> <p>My 2nd experience was much better than the first. It only took a few hours and the pain wasn't nearly as bad. I had light to medium bleeding for about a week after. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92874 Tue, 13 Mar 2012 18:43:09 +0000 mediagirl 92874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: oh my. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. I don't have experience with this but can only say, I hope you are able to complete the process quickly. Hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92869 Tue, 13 Mar 2012 18:37:32 +0000 kml636 92869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so so sorry. So terrible! I chose to have a d&amp; c at 12 weeks, the baby died at 9 weeks. I am a very "natural" type person, so this was a hard decision for me. I just wanted to get it over with rather than constantly worrying about it starting, blood loss, etc. my recovery was not bad at all, but I was worried about scarring.<br /> Seems like I'm alright though, took 4 months but I just got pregnant.</p> <p>Thinking of you while you are going brought this... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92408 Tue, 13 Mar 2012 08:38:50 +0000 tequiero21 92408@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>=( having been through one myself, i always, always get so sad when i read about other people's experience. =(</p> <p>it was a no brainer for me - d&amp;c. i actually found out i lost my baby at 13 weeks - the baby was about 9 weeks. i was moving in 2 days, so the next day, they scheduled a d&amp;c for me. also, talked to my cousin (an obgyn) and she said that it's probably best for me to just get it over with. it was my first, it may be traumatizing for me to see anything that passed, etc. she lost her baby at like 5 months and she did it naturally and saw the baby! ugh. i can't do that. also, already had vacation planned and i really didn't want to wait for it.....</p> <p>the surgery was quick and painless (for me).... </p> <p>sorry for your loss! hope you get your rainbow baby sooner than later. definitely helps a lot. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92400 Tue, 13 Mar 2012 08:27:50 +0000 mrs. wagon 92400@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So, so, so, so heartbreaking to not only hear about your miscarriage but to read all the responses of fellow hellobee-ers and their experiences as well. So glad for this community that can help you along and let you know that you're not alone in this painful time. Sending you lots and lots of e-hugs and whatever love and positive thoughts your way that I can squeeze out of my heart this morning :( </p> <p>I hope your (physical) pain ends soon and that your grieving process is not too difficult, and you are able to move forward as soon as you possibly can. *hugs hugs hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92392 Tue, 13 Mar 2012 08:09:01 +0000 sslm 92392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MaisyMay: that's exactly what I did last night. It's going to take more than 4-6 hours (it's been 10) but I'm "glad" it's started. I'm so sorry for your loss and thanks for sharing your story. </p> <p>Thank you all for your stories and hugs. I really appreciate it so much even though I can't respond to you all personally. I'm in quite a bit of pain now and just hoping it doesn't go on for too long. Thanks again, and I'll be around when things are a bit better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92360 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 23:57:47 +0000 MaisyMay 92360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We miscarried in August and did neither. We made the choice to use the pills to induce the miscarriage. 4 pills are inserted vaginally and it starts the miscarriage. It was all done in a matter of 4-6 hours and the doctor prescribed pain pills for pain, nausea pills if needed for nausea. I didn't take the pains pills, but should have, and did take one of the nausea pills after I threw up. If you have any questions, feel free to message me. We had to make that decision and it was one of the hardest decisions I ever made. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92348 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 21:58:05 +0000 Mrs. Schoolbus 92348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm i'm so sorry for your loss! i hope you are doing well. i had two miscarriages and both of them were natural. the first one, i started spotting at 12 wks and had heavy bleeding, went to the ER and miscarried at the hospital. the second one was also natural. i went in for an ultrasound at 9 wk 5 days and the baby measured a little over 6 weeks. they gave me the option to do a d&amp;c or wait it out. and i scheduled a d&amp;c but i ended up spotting and the miscarrying at home 2 days later (on a friday). it's really up to you... i had scheduled a d&amp;c because i hated the "waiting game." miscarrying naturally sucks.. if you send me an email (mssally@gmail) i can give you a link to my miscarriage story. :) *big hugs to you* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92202 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 16:23:29 +0000 Penny Lane 92202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh, I'm so sorry :( I have no advice, but just wanted to send you more virtual hugs... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92193 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 16:13:19 +0000 Weagle 92193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a blighted ovum that we didn't find out about until 10 weeks. Because my body hadn't naturally miscarried by then, my doctor was concerned about the risk of infection. I had also heard from friends that the miscarriage process was very painful and lonely. So, we chose a D&amp;C. I think we would make the same decision should we be in the same situation in the future. The recovery was very short and painless, and I think that helped me gain some closure. The worst part for me was waking up in recovery and not having my husband with me. I remembered immediately what was going on, and I kind of freaked out. Luckily, the nurses were awesome and knocked me out for a few minutes until they could get me to the real recovery room where my husband was waiting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92191 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 16:12:26 +0000 KRunRun 92191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I went through the same thing last month - the baby grew until about 8.5 weeks, and we found out at what was supposed to be 10 weeks. My doctor (whom I really trust) strongly suggested the D&amp;C since it was not happening naturally. I went with his suggestion, and had the surgery the same day. They gave me IV meds to sedate me, and then fully "put me under" in the OR. I believe that they put me completely out because they wanted to intubate me, since I have asthma. But, it wasn't bad at all. By the time they wheeled me back to the OR, I was so relaxed, they had to wake me up to move me on to the table.</p> <p>Again, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92179 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 15:52:33 +0000 MamaMoose 92179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry. I had a natural miscarriage but that was how I found it. It wasn't like I found out the baby stopped growing and then waited for it to happen naturally. If I were in your shoes I think I would opt for the D&amp;C so you can go ahead and start moving on. Also, I had a friend who had a D&amp;C and her doctor told her they didn't have to totally put her under... so talk to your doctor about options. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss, I know how hard it is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92099 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 13:47:20 +0000 mrskc 92099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. Do what feels right for you. But I'll share my experience. I had a blighted ovum. Lost the baby around 8 weeks, but didn't find out until I thought I was 11 weeks. Unfortunately, I didn't really have a choice w/ taking a pill or D&amp;C. They were concerned I could've had a molar pregnancy because of some non-smooth tissue the tech could see in an U/S. So I had to have a D&amp;C so the tissue could be sent to pathology. Thank goodness it wasn't molar. That scared the crap out of me. The D&amp;C wasn't too bad. I was put completely under. I would say the worst part was waking up after being put under and the uncomfortableness I felt from the catheter. I had light bleeding at first and then it was pretty heavy. I bled a total of 10 days. I did have some painful cramping towards the end and I would pass large clots of blood which lasted about two days. I think I would've rather passed it naturally or with the help of a pill only to avoid the surgery. It took 8 weeks for me to get my first period. Of course everyone is different and you will have a different experience with it. </p> <p>Some women find more closure with a D&amp;C. They don't have to wait and be in limbo waiting for it to occur naturally. It's all a personal choice though. Make the decision that feels right for you. I wish you all the best.</p> <p>ETA: Being put under wasn't bad. They first gave me something to relax me. The nurse asked me what I wanted to dream about and asked me questions. Before I knew it I was waking up in recovery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92094 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 13:45:35 +0000 mamimami 92094@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sad for you... hugs. No advice, sorry! But lots of hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92088 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 13:40:34 +0000 mrsjyw 92088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: I am so sorry for your loss...</p> <p>The only experience I have is from two diff gfs.... one had a natural and said it felt like a really bad period...</p> <p>The other had 2 separate m/c's - 1 was natural and 1 was d/c... she tried avoiding the d/c the first time around, but said that it was the most paintful experience of her life... and chose the d/c option the second time it happened.</p> <p>Thinking of you...baby dust and condolences. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92086 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 13:38:06 +0000 Running Elley 92086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: I just wanted to say that I've been waiting to hear an update from you and I'm so soooo sorry that this was it :( I've had 2 MCs and they both started naturally for me. I think that if my body hadn't started naturally I would've gone with a D&amp;C. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. *Hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92077 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 13:25:13 +0000 banana 92077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. :( I went through 2 miscarriages and I know how hard it is emotionally. I chose to wait for it to pass naturally and it was pretty painful for a few hours (while my uterus contracted). It felt like very heavy period cramping for me. But it eventually passed on its own. I'm sorry you have to go through this. I chose to have it pass naturally but one of the biggest downsides of it was that I had to wait a few days for it pass. And it was really hard living those days knowing that I was still carrying the baby in my stomach. :( A close friend of mine decided to do the D&amp;C immediately when she had her miscarriage because she couldn't carry the baby for a few days knowing how it would all end. I say go with whatever you feel is right for you. I'm sorry for your loss. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92073 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 13:22:58 +0000 ashleyt 92073@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had this happen to me 2 weeks ago - all of our prior ultrasounds had looked fine but one week the heartbeat was no longer there. I was 9 weeks when we found out (stopped growing in the 8th week). It may have been different for me since I was a little further along but I decided to get a D&amp;C and had no regrets. The procedure was painless and easy and I only had minor spotting afterwards. It was so worth it to be able to psychologically 'move on'. And just so you know, you are given sedating medications through an IV but are not officially 'put under'. I don't remember the actual procedure at all but felt fine 1 hour afterwards. Its a very personal decision but I'm glad I chose to have a D&amp;C. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92072 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 13:22:17 +0000 Mrsbells 92072@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry to hear about your missed miscarriage.. its sad when you think everything is fine and then find out that you lost the baby. :( I dont know much about D&amp;C so I cant advice, but good luck eitherway and praying for a sticky baby for you soon </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92065 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 13:15:17 +0000 chopsuey 92065@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sslm: So sorry for your loss.. :( I don't have any experience with this or advice to give, but just wanted to say how sorry I am.<br /> I know girls who have done both--surgery and natural. If it happened to me this early on, I would probably wait for it to happen on its own.<br /> sending a virtual hug and lots of love your way..! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92062 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 13:13:22 +0000 heffalump 92062@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so so sorry that happened to you! I had a missed miscarriage too. I miscarried at 6 weeks and didn't find out until 12. Since it obviously wasn't happening naturally for me, they gave me the choice between a pill or D&amp;C. I tried the pill first (For me I think I wanted to deal with the physical pain of it to help me deal with the emotional pain... if that makes any sense). I tried too different pills but that didn't work, so I had to get the D&amp;C. And then that didn't work. Apparently I had sticky placenta, but I like to think my baby didn't want to leave me. The second D&amp;C she used an ultrasound to make sure everything was out, you can see the uterus lining thin out when it happens. It was her first time ever to have this happen to a patient and it's very rare, but I would still ask your doctor if you can have an ultrasound during the D&amp;C to make sure it doesn't happen to you. 1) You don't want to have to go through the experience of a D&amp;C twice and 2) It was not fun after the first D&amp;C because my body was bleeding like crazy to try to get everything out, but it wouldn't come out, so the bleeding was just nuts. I couldn't leave my house for fear that I would bleed all over everything and that's just embarrassing.</p> <p>I really think it's a personal decision. Either way, it might not go as you plan and you might have to get a D&amp;C anyway. But if I could do it again I wouldn't change it, I would try the pills again first. </p> <p>I'm here if you have any questions or need someone to talk to! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-dampc-or-natural#post-92055 Mon, 12 Mar 2012 13:07:09 +0000 sslm 92055@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess you can tell from the title what happened. We think we lost this baby a week a go at 6w2d, and just found out today. We are devastated, and now I'm confused trying to make a decision about a d&amp;c or just waiting to see if it'll happen on it's own. I'd love to hear some of your experiences and thoughts. </p> <p>The only issue I currently have with surgery is that being put under makes me really panic. The thought of it horrifys me. If it weren't for that my decision would be easy. </p> <p>Thanks guys. </p>