https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 09:48:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646180 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 11:23:23 +0000 cheesehead 2646180@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you all for your kind words and experiences. I think I'm going to see how the rest of this week goes. The bleeding seemed to stop during the day, so al least if that trend continues I could work for a bit until things picked up. I do have the option to work from home if necessary, but we also just moved and don't have Internet hooked up yet, so that really limits my work from home capability. I'm just trying to keep busy with my boys here at home right now to get my mind in a happier place.<br /> @PurplePumps: thank you for the heads up....I will definately do what I can to prepare incase things pick up while at work, gonna have to warn my boss that I just might leave quickly at some point in all of this.<br /> I just really don't want things dragging out into the holidays. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646173 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 11:19:47 +0000 MaryM 2646173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss and that you're going through this. </p> <p>My first loss was around 9 weeks and we waited and watched. It was weeks with nothing happening before they suggested I consider a D&amp;C. By the time I made up my mind things were progressing, so I ended up miscarrying naturally.</p> <p>I wasn't bleeding most of that time and kept going to work/school (I hadn't told many people). My doctors had me come in at least weekly so they could see when the sac separated and things would likely happen (though they didn't expect it to take as long)</p> <p>I lost another baby at 13 weeks this last year, and we opted for a D&amp;C 5 days after we say the baby had died (her heart was beating on Friday slowly, by Monday she had died. Scheduled the D&amp;C for the following Friday)</p> <p>Two days later I started bleeding and cramping and was having contractions by that afternoon when my doctor was able to work me in for an earlier D&amp;C</p> <p>So I think there's no way of knowing. I've had doctors suggest waiting (to avoid surgery) and another suggest surgery (to make sure all the tissue comes out) so I really think you should just push for whatever makes you most comfortable mentally and emotionally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646170 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 11:11:55 +0000 erinbaderin 2646170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really really sorry you're going through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646088 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 09:31:29 +0000 Worrywart 2646088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. I had almost an identical situation. Active healthy baby at 8 week ultrasound and no heartbeat at 12 :sad: I decided to go the D &amp; C route so I can't help out with miscarrying naturally but I'm thinking of you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646076 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 09:12:02 +0000 Banana330 2646076@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So sorry for your loss. </p> <p>I had a d&amp;c for my MMC but it was twins and the doctor recommended it in case of too much blood loss. It was also easier for me to have a timeline and not be left waiting. I've also had a natural miscarriage much earlier, I would be prepared for a lot of cramping and bleeding and passing of tissue. I couldn't handle it the second time, hence the d&amp;c. </p> <p>You should do whatever you feel comfortable with, if it's getting intervention then advocate (or have DH advocate for you!) for what you need. If it's natural, be prepared for some time off, I'm not sure it's a process you'd like to go through while at work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646075 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 09:11:56 +0000 catlady 2646075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cheesehead: In your shoes, I might actually try to see someone else or get a second opinion (unless you do want to go through with it naturally). I think at this stage, it may end up being traumatic and I can't think of why a doctor would "prefer" you to go through that. I don't know why but it just seems cruel to me to put you in that position where it seems like you don't have a real choice. Hugs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646066 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 09:05:17 +0000 PurplePumps 2646066@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry for your loss. I had a D&amp;C for a baby that stopped growing at 8weeks and a natural m/c or chemical at 5.5 weeks. Graphical warning-----------At 5.5 weeks, it was just some overnight cramping, and a lot of bleeding, a full pad every hour or two. And then at one point just huge gush of clots and blood, I'm pretty sure that is when it passed. I am "lucky" that it happened overnight at home, I don't think there is any amount of pads that could have contained that if I were at work. I cannot even imagine what it would be like at 10-11 weeks. From others accounts that I've read there will be a time of some very severe cramping and bleeding when the baby is expelled and they just "knew" when the worst was over.<br /> The d&amp;c was definitely "easier" in that there was no pain involved, and it was just some more bleeding like a period for a week or two after, and not having to worry where I would be when it happened. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646061 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 09:02:50 +0000 lilteacherbee 2646061@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a missed miscarriage a few years ago and chose a D&amp;C because I couldn't handle waiting. I just needed it to be over and move on. Physically, I felt fine after a couple days. So sorry you're going through this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646057 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 08:57:00 +0000 lilyann 2646057@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a missed miscarriage in April and chose to take misoprostol because my body had not started the process naturally. Hoping the process goes quickly for you and that you find healing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646053 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 08:52:45 +0000 ocean81 2646053@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't speak to a natural miscarriage, but I have had a d&amp;c and physically, it was very easy if you decide to go that route. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646049 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 08:50:49 +0000 ValentineMommy 2646049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm so sorry for your loss. I had 1 miscarriage, and I ended up going the d&amp;e route. I personally could not take the waiting. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646044 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 08:48:57 +0000 cheesehead 2646044@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: @winniebee: thank you for your kind words. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646042 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 08:48:26 +0000 cheesehead 2646042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catlady: thank you. he said that's what re recommends and prefers over any interventions. I agree though, it will likely be much longer this way. :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646027 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 08:36:35 +0000 catlady 2646027@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm very sorry for your loss. I don't have any experience with natural miscarriage but my sense is that it's hard to know how long it will take. I've had two missed miscarriages and resolved one with misoprostrol and the other with a D&amp;C. Even with those, it can take a couple days. Any reason your doctor suggested miscarrying naturally? I think it will be alot harder to go through, honestly. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646022 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 08:34:05 +0000 FaithFertility 2646022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am so sorry! I have no advice, just hugs and prayers~ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646021 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 08:26:59 +0000 winniebee 2646021@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm very sorry for your loss. :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missed-miscarriage-question#post-2646020 Tue, 01 Nov 2016 08:26:10 +0000 cheesehead 2646020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At my 12 week appt the Dr couldn't find a heartbeat on the doppler but since we had just had an ultrasound at 9 weeks showing a wiggly baby with a strong heartbeat he wasn't worried. Fast forward to 16 week appt. He still can't find the heartbeat so sends me off for an ultrasound. That shows baby stopped growing at 10-11 weeks. Dr. recommended miscarrying natually, so here I am. Bleeding started yesterday, but my question is how long does it take for things to get going? I cant just stay home from work until it's over unfortunately, but don't really want to be there either. Not sure exactly what I'm looking for with this, but feels a little better to get it out of my head. I'm guessing things will take a bit and are different for everyone but if you have any advise, I would lobe to hear it! </p>