https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 16 May 2026 01:48:08 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missing-my-daughter-while-working#post-2754022 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 15:02:08 +0000 codeitall 2754022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It will definitely be harder the more vocal my son gets about me going to work. He's speech delayed and I've carried some guilt about that.</p> <p>The things I remember when I was that age.... vacations and adventures. And my mom was a SAHM, I just don't remember much of the every day. So that's what I do for my kids. I try and plan 'mom adventures' where we spend our time together doing cool things. Like going to the children's museum, dinosaur museum, farmer's market, grocery shopping, the park, a walk by the river. Haha, basically I try to get us out of the house a ton so he'll have fun memories of being together and exploring.</p> <p>I try and have pics on my computer background of our adventures so I remember that I'm at work so he can make those memories with me when I'm home.</p> <p>This may backfire, but can your daycare provider maybe give you updates throughout the day? I love when I get pics of him sleeping with his hair sticking up and such :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missing-my-daughter-while-working#post-2753987 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 13:14:19 +0000 looch 2753987@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son just finished kindergarten and I work full time. He knows there isn't an alternative, like him staying at home with me, or anything like that, so it's actually gotten a lot better now that he has an "official" place he needs to be...hope that makes sense.</p> <p>The flip side is that on the weekends, he wants to be with us the entire time. He doesn't want to do anything that doesn't involve at least one of us. So, we make weekends count. I've long believed in quality of time spent versus quantity of time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missing-my-daughter-while-working#post-2753979 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 13:05:13 +0000 catomd00 2753979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you reduce to 4 days? Or be "on call" the other two days for issues that may arise with your direct reports? What about working remotely on off hours the other day or two? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missing-my-daughter-while-working#post-2753943 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 12:31:37 +0000 rachiecakes 2753943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yep, every working day. I miss my son so much. For me, I actually felt that it got worse the older he got. When he could tell me he missed me, didn't want me to go to work, wished I could stay home and play instead. I have major working mom guilt and try to plan fun things for the weekend. I hope the memories we're making together last a lifetime and he remembers his childhood as fun things with mom instead of sadness that I was at work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missing-my-daughter-while-working#post-2753932 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 12:04:04 +0000 Jumpingjacks 2753932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: Thanks for your response. I'll try to remember those things too. Some days its just harder than others, you know? It helps to know others are in the same boat, and managing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missing-my-daughter-while-working#post-2753911 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 11:29:10 +0000 snowjewelz 2753911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry mama :sad: :heart: I WOH FT too; and I have those days too where I feel like I can't get enough time with my girls. Esp some days when daycare write something awesome that DD1 did, I feel sad that I missed it! I am a little less sad about DD2, just b/c she's a 2nd child I guess, haha. Plus DD2 sleeps next to me allll night so I know she def got in her mama time! </p> <p>What helps me is that A) I have to work; I have no choice so I can either cry about it all day or try to be positive about it. B) I know for sure that she loves daycare and has so much fun there. C) I am much more conscious of our time together; I have no problems not looking at my phone, and I have much more patience b/c I know I wait all week to spend time with them all weekend! I feel like I prob won't be as good of a mom if I'm with them all day everyday. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/missing-my-daughter-while-working#post-2753902 Fri, 30 Jun 2017 11:07:07 +0000 Jumpingjacks 2753902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi there Hello Bee community. It's been a very long time since I've been active on this site. But I'm really struggling and I hoped maybe someone here would have some kind of insight to help. My daughter is 4.5 years old and I have worked outside the home since she was one year old. I have to work to some degree for financial reasons. My heart still breaks on a regular basis when I have to leave her at Day Care. It's been 3.5 years. Her day care is wonderful and she is happy there. But I miss her all the time and it brings me such sadness. I have requested to shorten my work hours to 3 days per week, but was denied because I supervise people. Finding part-time work in my field is challenging. I feel trapped and sad missing my daughter and I feel like there is such a short time left now that she will still be so little. She will start kindergarten in September 2018. I'm scared that I will have missed so much of her young childhood. This isn't a debate about whether or not parents should/should not stay home with their kids. It's just that it hurts me to miss her so much through the day. Does anyone else feel like this? How do you cope? What do you do? </p>