https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 02:54:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies/page/2#post-30493 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 14:25:40 +0000 looch 30493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HabesBabe: classic! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies/page/2#post-30413 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 13:27:23 +0000 BabyLove 30413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agreeeeed :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies/page/2#post-30393 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 13:08:03 +0000 mrbee 30393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyLove: Sounds like she needs some training on how to build trust with her patients! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies/page/2#post-30392 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 13:07:07 +0000 BabyLove 30392@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You're right Mr. Bee and EcoGirl. There are many physiological differences among some races. But in this instance, her question was based in curiousity. I know this because she followed up the question with, "is your husband the same complexion?". And that's where the conversation ended. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies/page/2#post-30325 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 12:11:08 +0000 HabesBabe 30325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I hate when people mix up those terms, too! For some reason, it must be fun to "Guess the Asian" because at my old job (in hotel hospitality), people would ALWAYS try to figure out "where I was from." Except they would ask, "What's your nationality?" to which I would respond, "American." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies/page/2#post-30253 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 11:17:39 +0000 katdevargas 30253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my husband is 1/4 choctaw, 1/4 white {not sure what that background is}, 1/4 quechua, 1/4 peruvian &amp; I'm white, basically. I'm not too worried about the baby facing any sort of racism or being called names or anything like that. everyone thinks that nico is mexican &amp; we have such a high percentage of hispanic people in the dfw area I don't think that our having another little brown baby will ruffle anyone's feathers. plus, I see more &amp; more inter-racial couples here &amp; I love that since it helps so much to open people's minds up beyond the homogeneous mentality. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies/page/2#post-30114 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 08:45:35 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 30114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even though I'm mixed, it doesn't show (as in not physically) I'm half italian half french. I think it may be harder for say dark skinned or asians but I think now alot of people are mixed so when it comes time for your kids to go to school, he/she won't be alone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies/page/2#post-30063 Fri, 09 Dec 2011 02:39:13 +0000 looch 30063@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read something a long while ago that said among the identified racial groups at the time there were no genetic differences that could be found, meaning that if you had a blind sample from each group, you couldn't tell which one was from a caucasian vs. asian, etc. Not sure if the information still holds, I don't really have time to search around this morning.</p> <p>I also think that there's a big blur nowadays between race and ethnicity. People use the terms interchangeably in some instances and it's not always correct. People say they are mixed when they have parents that come from two countries in Western Europe, and it is correct that they are ethnically mixed, but may not be racially mixed. I hope that makes sense...it is a pet peeve of mine when people are asked their race and answer their nationality or ethnicity. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies/page/2#post-29969 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 19:44:33 +0000 MsMamaBear 29969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: Oh ok. I was just wondering.LOL They may be a mix of you both. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies/page/2#post-29655 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 10:43:48 +0000 ecogirl 29655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Babylove I hope that the doctor had good intentions. Many ethnicities have a higher risk for certain diseases and need to be screened early. Perhaps that is why they asked? Either way, that is something that I would explain before I asked. Having a mixed race baby will probably make me a more sensitive doctor in that regard if I ever go back to work.</p> <p>Oh darn it, @mrbee already answered haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-29637 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 10:07:21 +0000 mrbee 29637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@junebugmama: My sincere apologies! I was responding to another comment, and missed your earlier comment. I'll amend my comment now..</p> <p>@BabyLove: Ethnicity can actually have all sorts of predictive power when examining a patient. For example, infants of full East Asian parentage are more likely to be diagnosed with jaundice than white infants:<br /> <a href="http://archpedi.ama-assn.org/cgi/reprint/156/3/276.pdf" rel="nofollow">http://archpedi.ama-assn.org/cgi/reprint/156/3/276.pdf</a></p> <p>(Charlie and Olive are 75% East Asian and sure enough, they both came down with jaundice!)</p> <p>When Bee posted that Charlie had nursemaid's elbow, someone commented that their orthopedic pediatrician had said that "nursemaid’s elbow happens very often with Asian babies":<br /> <a href="http://www.hellobee.com/2011/12/02/nursemaids-elbow/" rel="nofollow">http://www.hellobee.com/2011/12/02/nursemaids-elbow/</a></p> <p>So the question definitely has medical merit! But I did some Googling, and it sounds like experts recognize that having doctors ask about ethnicity is an area fraught with difficulties:<br /> <a href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1797091/" rel="nofollow">http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1797091/</a> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-29631 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 09:57:25 +0000 BabyLove 29631@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hi luv! So nice to see you on here too. This is an issue I've been concerned with for such a long time. As you know, my lil lovey is bi-racial (the term I use so as not to offend anyone, seems the safest). I worry that people are still ignorant enough to judge her. I'm sensitive of this issue so I was already kind of defensive when one of the doctors in her pediatricians office asked what ethnicity she was. I answered her. But in my head I wanted to ask, "how does that affect the way you treat her as a patient?". Needless to say I'll be requesting the doctor I like only, from now on. There really isn't anything else I can do about the matter other than to raise her in an open, loving home. And to open a dialogue about this early on. We certainly cannot educate everyone. There are books to kind of help parents along the way, I plan to pick up a couple. I think you have to be delicate about it, I know some people that have developed complexes and can't seem to overcome the offensive things they've experienced as children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-29622 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 09:26:10 +0000 daniellemybelle 29622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: I don't really know. My best guess is that he doesn't want me to assume anything about our future kids? Just let them be who they turn out to be. But when I ask he doesn't really have an explanation other than, "You have no idea what they will look like. They could look like you and not me." I doubt that, but whatever, haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-29593 Thu, 08 Dec 2011 06:22:57 +0000 MsMamaBear 29593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: Why does he disagree so much? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-29556 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 21:50:59 +0000 junebugmama 29556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I think the term half-breed is more widely used in the Native American community. It was frowned upon that my father stepped off the res to marry a white woman. </p> <p>My grandparents were the first people to refer to me as half-breed, and there were many more to follow. It's a term that carries so much negative emotion for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-29512 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 20:37:03 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 29512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ hola abejita - I worried the same thing. Or that people would think he was adopted or something! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-29454 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 18:24:53 +0000 yrret107 29454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we have kids, I will have kids that will be half vietnamese and half german/irish. I don't know if I will tell people I have a 'mixed' kid. I'm fine with saying 'half asian/half white'. I have heard of the word 'ameriasian' before and it's kind of weird to me.</p> <p>As for negativity, I haven't seen any of it. My sisters and brother all married caucasians. My parents have accepted the fact that we weren't going to marry another asian. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-29442 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 17:39:01 +0000 hola abejita 29442@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes I have concerns that my future babies will not look like me. I worry what they would think as they grow up and realize, "hey, I look different than my mommy!" I hope that it will lead to a positive outlook on race and differences in general. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-29409 Wed, 07 Dec 2011 16:39:12 +0000 erinpye 29409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Funny you mention Japanese people loving blonde hair, not to threadjack, but DH is 1/4 Japanese and I'm of Swedish/ Norwegian descent. I have blonde hair and blue eyes and my hair was pulled by DH's family the whole time we visited them in Japan! </p> <p>I can honestly say we haven't experienced any kind of negativity from the Japanese side of DH's family when I came into the picture, in fact quite the opposite. His family embraces and loves its Japanese heritage, but it's never been an exclusive thing by any means. It's also never been a problem for DH that I know of, as far as name-calling or even having to classify "what he is" growing up here in the Seattle area. I'm pretty excited to see what our Asian/Scandinavian LO looks like when she's born! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-29020 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 22:12:28 +0000 Andrea 29020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Harry Potter! You crack me up. </p> <p>My daughter is half Asian, half white, too. I have been mistaken for her nanny by an actual nanny in my neighborhood. We live in a very white neighborhood so I guess she just assumed that I was a nanny because I'm an Asian person pushing a stroller. To be fair, all the other Asians I have seen ARE nannies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-29006 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 21:53:07 +0000 ecogirl 29006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha so many of our children are part Asian! How interesting! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-28970 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 20:36:13 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 28970@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My son is half Asian (Thai), half white. We live in an extremely small southern town, and no, I wouldn't be comfortable raising him here! We'll be leaving in the summer.</p> <p>Funnily enough, his Asian grandparents always remark on how "white" he looks, and the white grandparents say he looks so Asian. Ha. His grandpa sometimes calls him "farang," which is "Westerner/outsider" in Thai. He means it affectionately, I think, but it still rubs me the wrong way when he says it constantly. Last time he did it, LO started bawling. Had to laugh... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-28953 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 20:03:11 +0000 cyndistar3 28953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsguinness: I wish people could just mind their own business... People are so rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-28951 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 19:59:33 +0000 mrsguinness 28951@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cyndistar3: That's exactly how my sister and BIL are, except she and their son are blue eyed, blonde hair, and he is Native American. One time they were out shopping and someone actually came up to him and told him it was nice of him to my sister and "her" baby!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-28939 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 19:39:08 +0000 cyndistar3 28939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am only 1/4 native american and the rest is a mixed variety of "white" but I ended up looking fairly Mexican according to most people. My daughter looks just like me with dark brown hair brown eyes but slightly lighter skin but not by much. We tend to get funny looks because my daughter looks NOTHING like her father, who is blonde hair, blue eyes and of course pale skin. People always ask me if that is her father and it drives me batty. She hasn't had any problems being accepted so far but who knows what will happen when she starts going to school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-28938 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 19:38:57 +0000 mynoahbear 28938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ecogirl: I think it helps alot to be in a big city. when my husband and I travel around Japan and visit small rural areas, he gets stared at alot, which I'm sure is uncomfortable for him. Fortunately, we've lived in Asia for several years now, so he's gotten used to it and it doesn't bother him so much anymore. But we definitely don't want our kids to grow up being uncomfortable because of their race, as both of us have now had a chance to experience it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-28934 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 19:30:22 +0000 ecogirl 28934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mynoahbear we are in NYC and I feel like it will be better here too like in Tokyo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-28932 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 19:28:44 +0000 mynoahbear 28932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm Japanese but grew up in a small town in Wisconsin, that was predominantly caucasion. I remember getting teased alot when I was younger, like in kindergarten for looking different. I didn't know any other asian kids until I got to high school and there was 1 chinese boy there. My baby will be half Japanese and half German American. We are currently living in Japan, which can seem like a very ethnocentric country depending on where you are from. Since we are in Tokyo, I don't really think our baby will have that much of a problem being accepted. Also, we have a few japanese friends, but majority of friends are other expats, who also have multicultral kids. I know certain ethnicities have a very hard time here in japan. I've heard japanese korean kids are picked on alot. i also think the newer generation here is much more accepting than say my mom's generation. By the time baby starts school, we probably will be living elsewhere, but even then, I don't see many problems, as she will be attending international school, which is very culturally diverse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-28930 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 19:27:16 +0000 ecogirl 28930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My babies are half Irish half Japanese. Liam is gorgeous and I hope that the newest most enlightened generation will see his beauty. I want my children to be accepted and never feel shut out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mixed-babies#post-28928 Tue, 06 Dec 2011 19:24:13 +0000 minimonster 28928@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I live in a place where multi-racial backgrounds are the norm. My husband is Japanese and I'm Irish-German. Our kids will be Eurasians, or "hapa" as we say here in Hawaii. The blending of cultures is why I love living here so much.</p> <p>An interesting book to thumb through is "Part Asian, 100% Hapa" by Kip Fulbeck. The perspectives given are eye opening and to see where everyone featured in the book is from is fascinating. </p>