https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 17 Jun 2026 07:14:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-group#post-2853199 Thu, 25 Oct 2018 09:37:16 +0000 Anagram 2853199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not very introverted, and I work outside of the home full time....but I do have a group of "mom friends". I'd just call them my friends at this point.</p> <p>We moved to this area just the year before I had a baby, so I didn't have many friends anyway and I attended a new moms group a lot of my maternity leave and I'm still friends with those girls 5 years later. We actually just had a girl's night dinner last night. Half of us work full time, so our meetups now are usually sans kids and at night, but when I'm off work or something, I will try to plan a play date with kids.</p> <p>I have a smaller group of mom friends that have kids my 2nd daughter's age. We invite each other's kids to birthday parties and have very occasional play dates--but almost all of us work in that group, so it's even harder to plan get togethers. </p> <p>Similarly, my part time nanny has a very close group of other nanny friends and their charges, so my kids hang out with those kids basically daily after school. That part is really nice because even though I'm not there, I know my kids have strong social connections and lots of friends, between their school friends, my mom's group's kids, and my nanny's group friends.</p> <p>I'm a somewhat outgoing person though--not super outgoing with total strangers, but I definitely have a need for adult conversation outside of my husband, so if I stayed at home full time I think I would try to build a friend group that was also with their kids in the day so we could plan outings together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-group#post-2853192 Thu, 25 Oct 2018 09:26:41 +0000 LadyDi 2853192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, all. Glad I am not alone! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-group#post-2853171 Thu, 25 Oct 2018 08:29:20 +0000 Foodnerd81 2853171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I do have to say, going to the playground with just my kids can be so boring. It’s nice to at least have acquaintances there to make small talk with. But with an infant it’s hard to really do much with them anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-group#post-2853141 Thu, 25 Oct 2018 01:26:24 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2853141@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never got one and never really wanted one. I feel very much how @pachamama: said! I've made some mom friends which is nice but a whole group of always together moms is just too much for me. My favorite friends/acquaintances are the ones who don't even have kids, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-group#post-2853129 Wed, 24 Oct 2018 22:34:21 +0000 ALV91711 2853129@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When DS1 was born (he's 5.5) I did some Mom groups while on jybyear maternity leave. They weren't really my thing and I didn't make any friends. </p> <p>DS2 is now 8 weeks old and I'm on another year maternity leave. I don't have the desire to do these groups. I make small talk with some of the mom's at kindergarten drop off and for now that is enough for me. I have a couple friends with older kids and unless I feel the desire to be around people more I'll keep it at this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-group#post-2853048 Wed, 24 Oct 2018 14:45:40 +0000 pachamama 2853048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LadyDi: sometimes being around other SAHMs is exhausting and depending on what they're like, it can turn into a competition. As long as you have some friends and some support and you are (mostly) content in your situation, I would never feel pressure to find some random mommy groups to try to make work into your social circle. You sound busy and just fine to me!<br /> I am in the same position, SAHM for a while and again some of those ladies are annoying bc all we do is talk about our kids and sometimes I JUST DON'T WANT THAT. I have my other good friends who have kids and I stay bisy :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-group#post-2853039 Wed, 24 Oct 2018 14:25:43 +0000 Mrsbells 2853039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>During maternity leave people ask me that question. I have no desire to set up classes, play dates and meet ups in the newborn phase. The day is so busy taking care of an infant and its stressful adding in mom events. I actually dread being invited to things like that or people wanting to come visit during this time. I think people who aak this think staying at home means you are bored to death when its quite the opposite </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-group#post-2853037 Wed, 24 Oct 2018 14:18:28 +0000 AB810 2853037@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have some mom friends but they're mostly women I was friends with pre kids. I tried a mom group after my first but it wasn't really my thing. I think that's ok. If you don't feel a lack then keep doing what you're doing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-group#post-2853032 Wed, 24 Oct 2018 14:00:15 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2853032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LadyDi: I stay at home and am introverted and only have a few friends that I don’t see very often because of distance and work/ kids. I’m usually okay with it because I’m pretty busy with my life and kids and I’m just tired. I didn’t like the babytalk group I tried when my I first kid was little so I didn’t bother trying and it was at a bad time for naps. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-group#post-2853028 Wed, 24 Oct 2018 13:58:17 +0000 LadyDi 2853028@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@erinbaderin: The struggle is real as an introvert. I do sort of just assume that the other SAHMs that I know already have a "group." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-group#post-2853025 Wed, 24 Oct 2018 13:55:46 +0000 erinbaderin 2853025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not a stay at home parent, but I did take a year of maternity leave with each kid. I didn't really make mom friends, other than my immediate neighbour, who had kids about the same age as mine - we hung out occasionally, but we didn't really get close. I wished I had, though - I tried, I took classes and went to library time, but I'm pretty introverted and everybody else seemed to either already have their group or not be interested. I would love to have more mom-friends but I'm just not sure how to go about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-group#post-2853022 Wed, 24 Oct 2018 13:42:20 +0000 Foodnerd81 2853022@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I made a group of friends when my first was born and I did a mommy and me class and have stayed good friends with many of them, 5 years later, and still have a regular play date with at least one of them. </p> <p>It works for us because we live pretty close and have kids the same ages who generally get along well. No family close by. It’s a life saver for me, but this is a friendship I’ve had for years- it’s not the same as new friends where you kind of have to put in more effort (like I’ll pick up my house before they come over most of the time but not always, at this point). </p> <p>I know what you mean though- when we moved here I had SO many people ask if I’d made enough friends basically. It was awkward to be honest. Like, what, should I say no I don’t? Then what are you going to do, well meaning but awkward neighbor? If you are happy and you feel good about the level of socialization your kids are getting, I wouldn’t worry about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-group#post-2853018 Wed, 24 Oct 2018 13:31:21 +0000 LadyDi 2853018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When my second son was born 8 months ago I decided to become a stay at home parent. Since then I've had multiple people ask me if I have made other SAHM friends or if I have a mom group that I hang out with now during the day. And, I don't! Nor have I really looked for one. I do have a couple of friends who are stay at home moms but they aren't super close by (and are actually wives of my husband's friends). I am sure I could set up play dates with them or something, but I don't really have the desire to. I am pretty introverted so I don't often reach out to others to hang out, but I do take my kids out almost every day, my oldest goes to preschool, and we see their grandparents weekly so I really don't feel like we're missing out on anything socially. I still get really embarrassed though when people ask me that question, even though I am sure no one is judging me or is implying that I SHOULD have more friends. If you're a stay at home parent (or not), do you have a group of parents you hang out with and if not, do you feel ok about it? </p>