https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 23:11:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-guilt#post-2504268 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 11:13:58 +0000 hummusgirl 2504268@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I might feel guilty if my LO would rather be at home with me than at daycare with his friends, but he wouldn't! I've been on maternity leave for MONTHS now and have still been sending LO1 to daycare full-time. The other day I picked him up early so I could spend more time with him, and he was bummed he didn't get playground time with his class! So as long as he's happy and cared for, I feel zero guilt about not spending every spare moment with him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-guilt#post-2504259 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 11:06:00 +0000 SweetCaroline 2504259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get mom guilt all the time. Next week DD is the only kid in her class cause all the other kids are going on spring break... Awesome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-guilt#post-2504234 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 10:51:28 +0000 MoonMoon 2504234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel guilty! I have a bad cold and feel like crap, so after breakfast I turned on the TV and LO and I are just lying around on the couch with Clifford playing nonstop! :shocked: </p> <p>I know he deserves more interaction/activity, but I'm just not able right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-guilt#post-2504230 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 10:48:28 +0000 gingerbebe 2504230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't feel guilty! </p> <p>I work 3 days a week, but our daycare only allows for full-time slots, so we have to pay for DS to go whether he's there or not. At first I felt like I should keep him home with me on days that I was home, but as I've gotten increasingly more pregnant, I cherish my Monday me days!!! We get up and have a leisurely breakfast together, play a little bit, and then I drop him off later in the morning. Daycare will take care of playing with him, feeding him lunch, and nap time, so I have time to clean, do the groceries, eat a peaceful lunch, take a nap myself, do the laundry, meal prep for the week, run some errands if necessary, and prepare a nice dinner! We had to travel the week before last and it was the same thing - I had time to run around and pack and get things organized without him underfoot, and things went so much more smoothly. I think having days like that makes me a better mom because I have gotten ahead of the game on my weekly/daily chores and I can be really present for him when he's home with me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-guilt#post-2504005 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 08:32:14 +0000 snowjewelz 2504005@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@FaithFertility: The struggle is real! </p> <p>But don't f eel guilty since you're gonna be glued to her for the next few days! Totally ok in my book that you need to get ready for the trip!</p> <p>I found out yesterday that we get off early for Good Friday. I contemplated not telling DH so I could have 1.5 hrs to myself, but in the end mom guilt kicked in and I will be racing home to see DD at 3pm, lol. </p> <p>Lately I find myself unwilling to take any time to myself on the weekends b/c spending all 2 days w/ DD is still not enough! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-guilt#post-2503985 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 08:22:06 +0000 bloved 2503985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it makes you feel better, I am a teacher and just dropped off my son at daycare. I love him to pieces and won't keep him there the full day (or maybe I will) but I also just need a break and a chance to do errands/watch tv in peace. I think it is all about finding balance! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-guilt#post-2503981 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 08:20:18 +0000 Jone0603 2503981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Doing the same thing here. On spring break and kiddos are at daycare. I am getting stuff done around the house and it is actually tidy and clean. Today I'm gonna be making loads of food. No guilt, it is necessary. Don't worry! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-guilt#post-2503973 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 08:17:24 +0000 catlady 2503973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think everyone feels mom guilt once in awhile. But you're probably a better mom after you recharge (I know I am), so I would try to relax and enjoy. I used to feel guilty all the time but after awhile I realized that it wasn't helping anyone (me or DH or LO) so I just let it go. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-guilt#post-2503971 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 08:15:44 +0000 josina 2503971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have slight mom guilt about dropping E off at daycare on Friday (when I have off) but he's been suuuuper whiny/clingy the past two nights, so it's making it easier! ;)<br /> I am in definite need of a me-day! And these toddlers make it sooo hard to get anything done! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-guilt#post-2503938 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 07:36:45 +0000 Foodnerd81 2503938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I sah and I've been feeling like maybe it's not the best thing for my toddler anymore. I have no patience and I'm yelling all the time. I think she would be better off with a sitter or at school a few times a week instead of with me just losing my patience all the time. So mom guilt goes both ways. </p> <p>But taking a few hours to recharge is definitely better for both of you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-guilt#post-2503936 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 07:36:05 +0000 FaithFertility 2503936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: SO true, I just never get help during the week or weekend DH works so it is nice to have a few days to just breath! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-guilt#post-2503935 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 07:35:13 +0000 FaithFertility 2503935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: Ohh I am definitely picking her up on the early side :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-guilt#post-2503929 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 07:32:29 +0000 looch 2503929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always have mom guilt! </p> <p>What if you did a half day with the sitter? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-guilt#post-2503927 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 07:31:09 +0000 Mamaof2 2503927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't feel guilty! Its important to have time for yourself too!<br /> Whenever we have a holiday off and DCP is open I always send DD - it keeps her on a schedule and I can get a whole lot of stuff done :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-guilt#post-2503922 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 07:28:59 +0000 Adira 2503922@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awwww, don't feel guilty! We all need time to recharge and get our own stuff done. I have every other Friday off and I still send both my kids to daycare so I can have a me day!! I used to feel guilty about it, but I've realized those days off are crucial to my emotional health and make me a better mom!</p> <p>Besides, if you kept her home and had to do stuff while she's begging for your attention, you'd feel just as guilty! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mom-guilt#post-2503917 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 07:26:44 +0000 FaithFertility 2503917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am having total Mom guilt this morning, I dropped DD off at her sitters again today, I am a teacher and on Spring Break I was going to keep her home today and go to beach or something, but it is cold again! We are heading out of town Tomorrow evening for a fun weekend and I just needed another day to get some stuff done!<br /> She loves her sitters, but I still feel like a bad Mom, all week at work all I want to do is go home to her, but now I have the time off and I am sending her.......gahhhhhh<br /> Sorry just needed to rant!<br /> Do you ever get Mom guilt?! </p>