https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 01:23:42 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mombie-mom-zombie-in-desperate-need-for-some-ideasadvice#post-302413 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 11:21:33 +0000 Downward Dog 302413@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't do CIO, we co-sleep, and I don't generally have a problem with nursing to sleep, just to let you know where I'm coming from with this advice. At 5 months, we split up the night. I would take the first shift, and my husband would go to bed early. Around 2 am, I would go upstairs and get a few hours while he dealt with wakeups. We didn't do it every night, but those extra hours of sleep helped me function. It gets easier as you get more used to it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mombie-mom-zombie-in-desperate-need-for-some-ideasadvice#post-302398 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 11:09:43 +0000 cvbee 302398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: sorry CIO did nothing for you :(</p> <p>At 5 months and 3 days, I am 2 nights into CIO and it changed our lives. We went from waking up every 30 minutes to two hours all night long, to returning to the pre-regression sleep pattern. I was functioning fairly well even with the million wakeups but after trying everything and seeing no progress in more than a month I knew it was time to give sleep training a try. Night 1 was 40 minutes of crying (so hard to hear!) and night 2 was like 5 minutes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mombie-mom-zombie-in-desperate-need-for-some-ideasadvice#post-302397 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 11:08:48 +0000 T.H.O.U. 302397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We had to slowly do a CIO thing. </p> <p>First to get her from falling asleep while eating to falling asleep while being held. She would cry in my husbands arms for a few minutes until he could calm her down and rock her to sleep. She wanted to nurse to sleep but we stopped letting her. </p> <p>Then we worked to put her to sleep in her bed without being held. This was the hardest part. We pretty much had to go cold turkey and just stop picking her up out of the crib all together. We would calmly put her down in the crib and put our hand on her back and rock her in the crib or rub her back until she feel asleep. </p> <p>Then we had to get her to fall asleep on her own in her crib without us there. This was kinda combined with the last step. If she would stand up in her crib while we were trying to rub her back, we would walk out of the room (aka, bad behavior gets negative reaction, good behavior of laying down, got good reaction of us rubbing her back). We would let her cry for about 10 minutes and go back in there and lay her down and rub her back again. </p> <p>Hope that maybe helps some! We did all this from about 8-10 months on </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mombie-mom-zombie-in-desperate-need-for-some-ideasadvice#post-302389 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 11:00:17 +0000 regberadaisy 302389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been going through this for the past month and it is getting worse. I hope this is the worse before it gets better?</p> <p>I have even resorted to CIO (which I vowed never to do) last 2 nights and it has NOT improved!</p> <p>M is one week shy of 5 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mombie-mom-zombie-in-desperate-need-for-some-ideasadvice#post-302378 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 10:54:25 +0000 DpeachLu 302378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: @Thehistoryofus: @Thehistoryofus: @Mrs. Bee:<br /> Another first time mom HUGE MISTAKE :-(<br /> I will get a pack &amp; play asap (today) for her to sleep in!<br /> She hasnt rolled over yet and is just two weeks shy of 6 months but I rather not that risk.. she could any day. </p> <p>THANKS FOR ALL THE SUGGESTIONS - KEEP THEM COMING!<br /> I will try EVERYTHING until something works! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mombie-mom-zombie-in-desperate-need-for-some-ideasadvice#post-302373 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 10:52:39 +0000 keiki_mama 302373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This sounds like what my son went through during his fourth month sleep regression. It sucked!! He eventually went back to his normal sleep pattern (read 3 weeks!). Can you bring a pack and play to your sitter's for the baby to sleep in? Don't worry, this will pass. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mombie-mom-zombie-in-desperate-need-for-some-ideasadvice#post-302364 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 10:46:48 +0000 petitstrawberry 302364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh my goodness, that sounds awful and you must be exhausted :(. My daughter was similar and could only fall asleep in my arms and usually woke up screaming if I tried to put her in her own bed. So I ended up co-sleeping for the first 4 months. Which means I actually didn't sleep well, for fear my husband or I would hurt her while in bed. At first I didn't want to let her cry it out either, but by 4 months I was exhausted and desperate. I ended up browsing the book Healthy Sleep Habits, Healthy Child (they have a summary at the end of each chapter for tired parents) and decided to try sleep training. My husband hated hearing her cry, but he was getting more sleep than I was at the time. I had to wait until he was out of town (with his ok) to really start the sleep training. I started putting my daughter down drowsy-but-awake, which she did NOT like. It took almost 3 weeks, but she finally ended up able to fall asleep on her own. Letting her cry was so so painful, but since that time she falls asleep for naps and bedtime so well that I think it was worth it (she is 1 year old now). During sleep training the longest she cried was 2 hours.. but then she fell asleep after. </p> <p>I wouldn't worry about fixing her naps for now. I focused on my girl's night sleep before trying to get her day sleep in order.</p> <p>Another thing that really helped us with the crying was Dr. Harvey Karp's 5 S's: swaddle, side position, shushing, swinging, and sucking. Watching YouTube vids on this method helped me (I didn't know I had to "shush" so loud.. but daughter loved this).</p> <p>Good luck with this. Hang in there, remember you are an awesome mother for thinking about your baby's sleep. Meanwhile, use caffeine as needed (unless you're BF-ing like I was :(). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mombie-mom-zombie-in-desperate-need-for-some-ideasadvice#post-302355 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 10:44:00 +0000 Mrs. Bee 302355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>that sounds exactly like charlie's sleep at 4 months. he was waking up 10+ times a night but would be perfectly fine as soon as we picked him up. the only thing that ended up working for us was sleep training, although we were lucky that night training was pretty easy for us. it was life changing. he went from 10+ wake ups to sleeping through the night. i was a mombie too, getting 2 total hours of sleep at night, in increments because it would take me up to 30 minutes of rocking to get him back down only to have the cycle start again in 30 minutes.</p> <p>the problem is that she needs you to put her to sleep. she doesn't know how to self-soothe so when she wakes up after a sleep cycle, she realizes she's not in your arms and doesn't know how to go back to sleep. </p> <p>if she is passing out on the bottle, that means she is too tired. you need to start the bedtime routine earlier so she doesn't pass out on the bottle. give her a chance to go into the crib drowsy but awake after her bottle. you may be lucky and she does great without having to resort to full-on cio.</p> <p>and yes most definitely you need a pack n play for your sitter's! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mombie-mom-zombie-in-desperate-need-for-some-ideasadvice#post-302345 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 10:31:58 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 302345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You poor thing. That's never a fun phase. For the sake of my own sanity, I did whatever it took to get her to sleep. If that meant that I had to give her a bottle before she would go to sleep (instead of putting her in the crib and letting her cry), I would do that. If she needed to sleep next to me, I did it. If the swing would keep her sleeping, sold!</p> <p>Once I got her back to sleeping for longer periods, then I worked on getting her to sleep on her own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mombie-mom-zombie-in-desperate-need-for-some-ideasadvice#post-302334 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 10:25:56 +0000 T.H.O.U. 302334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Why does she sleep on a couch at the sitters?!?! I think you need to get her a safe place to sleep while she is there that will also be similar to where she sleeps at night. If you want her to sleep in a crib at night, put her in at least a pack and play for naps during the day. </p> <p>My daughter started wanting to be fed at night and wouldn't go back to sleep without feeding. We didn't want to CIO. We slowly transitioned her to going to bed being held, to comforted in bed, to her going on her own. We had to do a bit of CIO (10-15 min) to let her know we really weren't going to give in (aka give her milk). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mombie-mom-zombie-in-desperate-need-for-some-ideasadvice#post-302331 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 10:25:03 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 302331@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's probably the dreaded 4 month sleep regression. Having said that, if she falls asleep in your arms easily, would she sleep through the night next to you? Might be easier than being a mombie! </p> <p>Also, I'm pretty concerned about the babysitter having her sleep on the couch. I've seen some very bad outcomes from babies who roll into the back of the couch and suffocate or roll off the front edge. It would be better even if baby was just on the floor. I'd definitely talk to them about that!</p> <p>OK, I'll stop being nosy! I feel your pain as our first was a terrible sleeper from 4 months until about 2 years... but we did everything wrong that you could think of. You on the other hand are doing a great job. Don't panic, likely in a week or two your baby will be back to sleeping through the night! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mombie-mom-zombie-in-desperate-need-for-some-ideasadvice#post-302322 Thu, 20 Sep 2012 10:20:38 +0000 DpeachLu 302322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My baby started sleeping pretty wonderfully around 3 months of age, this is around the time I went back to working full time. She would generally be ready to go to sleep by 8pm. Our sleep routine (that just basically happened unplanned) was - turn lights off, change diaper, swaddle which later turned into get put into zipadeezip, feed last bottle of 6 ounces. This is where I may have made a mistake - she ALWAYS fell asleep while drinking the bottle, then I would try and burp her for 5-10 minutes followed by the last stop, crib. She really wouldn't wake up - from time to time she needed the paci back in her mouth but would quickly go back to sleep. At around 4 am she would wake up for another feed but again, fall asleep while eating - repeat the same process. I was OKAY with doing this - I always felt well rested at 6am to get my day started.</p> <p>Fast forward to month 5.<br /> Its been horrible :-(</p> <p>we pretty much do the same except now she wakes up every hour to two hours (if I am lucky!) just crying and crying. I go to the crib give her her paci but she just does not stop crying. The second I pick her up ... all waaa waaa's stop and she goes to sleep! I am at my wits end.<br /> I have tried to just leave her there while I quickly wash her bottles but the crying doesn't stop. I have even tried to just stand next to the crib consoling her (or trying to) and she does not stop crying (the longest ive waited is 20 minutes!)</p> <p>I feel so bad and the last thing I want to resort to is letting her cry it out - even if it means more nights of ZERO sleep for me..<br /> but I am starting to feel that's what I have to do.<br /> Last night it even caused a fight for my hubby and I :-(. Of course we are okay now but we just don't know what to do.</p> <p>I really don't have time to read a book on sleep training &amp; I really have no control over her naps during the day. She is at the sitters house who tells me she naps for an hour and then maybe mini-naps for 30 minutes. She sleeps on a couch when there. </p> <p>The only different thing this month is the heat in San Diego has been unusual AND we started side sleeping her with rice filled socks at the recommendations of her physical therapist (for flat head) but she manages to turn onto her back anyways. </p> <p>Could this just be a stage she will get through?! I just needed some sleep last night and ended up putting her in bed with us to sleep which is probably just making it worst but I had to get some sleep for work today. </p> <p>PLEASE HELP THIS MOMBIE.</p> <p>[ETA - Thank you for the tip against sleeping on the couch - another first time parent mistake. I will be purchasing a pack and play to take there asap. I trust my Aunt and I know she doesn't leave her alone or without her rice socks surrounding her but it can only take a split second for a huge accident to happen] </p>