https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 23:41:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1212038 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 18:57:55 +0000 HLK208 1212038@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yin: I meant to reply the other day! First, HUGS! Second, it's so hard to transition to having another child. Harder on you than the first child, really. It makes sense because parents tend to feel the emotions that their LO's do x10! I remember feeling this way after my second was born. My first had been in a timeout and when I went to pick him up out of his timeout, he fell (I wasn't paying attention, he grabbed on to me and it was just bad). He thought I dropped him and he just CRIED and I CRIED even harder. I thought he felt so unloved. DD was about 5 days old and I thought for sure DS was having hard time. Luckily, it didn't continue. Life was more normal and we were in a routine by 8 weeks in.</p> <p>It gets so much better! You seem like such a fantastic mom! Try not to stress. Also, baby wearing and activities that made DS play independently helped so much. Like our train table or fire engine puzzle or play dough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1212032 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 18:47:24 +0000 Rubies 1212032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yin: Super hugs to you - I've been thinking about you (and @Mrs. Yoyo) every single day...Multiple times a day! Today was a rough day for me and like you, I just try to stay positive through the tears and exhaustion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1212013 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 18:29:39 +0000 yin 1212013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thank you everyone for your kind words and support. Sneaking in time on the computer as both kids are taking a nap. </p> <p>The transition is rough, and I'm trying my best to stay positive. I know that these early months will be the most challenging, and I have to look forward to the fun times ahead. </p> <p>My first day alone wasn't too bad, but it wasn't easy either. The baby didn't want to sleep, and it was approaching lunch time for DS1. Coordinating their schedules is tough, and I feel awful when I can't give DS1 the attention he deserves. Luckily the baby took a long nap that lasted all afternoon, and I was able to spend some quality time with DS1. Somehow I managed to cook dinner too. </p> <p>Today I wasn't so lucky, and I'm struggling to get through the day. The baby is going through a growth spurt and pretty much attached to me. He is either hungry, needs a diaper change, or wants to nap (but unable to sleep for longer than 20 minutes). DS1 must be going through a growth spurt too because he is constantly asking for food, even after eating a huge meal. Sigh. He needed to take a nap after waking up super early, and he was in tears because I couldn't be there with him in his room. I even cried. I miss our times together. </p> <p>Tomorrow DH is dropping off DS1 at Pop Pop's house for the day. Hoping that I get a small break and can focus on taking care of the baby. </p> <p>Must remind myself... it will get better. Just need to take it one day at a time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1211080 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 12:51:55 +0000 MrsScallop 1211080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw, you are doing great! I at times feel like I can hardly handle my one LO and everything else in my life, so you are an inspiration. I hope you are feeling better today! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1211060 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 12:45:11 +0000 mrs. wagon 1211060@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yin: I want to cry for you, reading this, because I know you are doing an amazing job and you are a wonderful mother. You are just literally at the MOST difficult time and one small "failure" makes you feel so low. I hope this moment has passed for you and things start to look up soon!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1210857 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 11:51:15 +0000 sheskrafty 1210857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are an amazing Mom!! Hang in there, it'll definitely get better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1210659 Tue, 12 Nov 2013 11:03:25 +0000 Maysprout 1210659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yin: Nothing to add except commiseration. Today our older LO cries if her dad holds the baby, she seems ok with me holding baby today but she has an absolute meltdown if her dad holds baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207726 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 00:48:08 +0000 birdofafeather 1207726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are doing great! No advice but the first couple weeks with 1 were tough with all the hormones flowing and getting to know a new little person. Please try to have some grace with yourself as you try to juggle the transition! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207724 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 00:45:56 +0000 Pepper 1207724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs. You're such a good mama, I can feel your love for your kids through your post. I'm sure that everyone will get used to the new normal as time goes on. I'm sure DS1 will find his footing as big brother, and that will help those feelings of insecurity he's having. You're doing a great job, be gentle on yourself &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207708 Mon, 11 Nov 2013 00:18:35 +0000 lamariniere 1207708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs to you! I am afraid I'm going to go through this exact same thing in a few weeks when baby2 arrives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207688 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 23:58:21 +0000 mrsjyw 1207688@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs mama. You are tge best mom ever to both those boys. Hope this transition gets easier! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207617 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 22:53:23 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1207617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aww you are such a sweet loving momma! One days those boy are gonna have so much fun together and e so in love. This is just how it has to be. He has to grow and learn to share and that's hard for you both. It's a concern of mine with baby two as well but I honestly do think that this will pass and you will see things become very loving in your little family soon. Give yourself and your son time to adjust and try not to take it all on your shoulders. Xoxoxo </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207528 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 21:27:29 +0000 bisous 1207528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! You are a wonderful mother to both of your children! I am sending positive thoughts your way for a smooth couple of days as you transition. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207516 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 21:14:51 +0000 chopsuey 1207516@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@yin: big hugs!!!!!!!! :( you're an excellent mom! The transition from 1 to 2 isn't the easiest, but it gets better.. I hope tomorrow goes well! :(<br /> I'm not sure if this will help, but I started soloing with 2 early on and pumping really helped me. I pumped while the baby napped and feeding him was quick. E is older so maybe you can have him help feed the baby? Seeing me not nurse DS early on helped my daughter not feel as jealous I think. I also had her help me get diapers, give the baby a bath, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207479 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 20:46:54 +0000 T-Mom 1207479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You poor thing! It will be rough for sure but you can get through it... Your DS1 is resilient and it's just the burden of being the oldest.. it seems unfair but he will be ok! I always had to remind myself that my DD had three awesome years of being the one and only. She had plenty of love and self confidence to carry her through the transition to becoming big sis even though it was hard at times. You are not a failure! You are doing great! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207471 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 20:40:19 +0000 maybebaby 1207471@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only have one, but I just want to say your sweet little DS1 is so lucky to have such a great momma who is trying so hard to help him with this transition and your DS2 is so lucky to have such a loving momma who is striking balance as you adjust to your new family dynamic. I can only speak from my experience with one, but each day will get easier as you figure out your new routine. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207423 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 20:03:49 +0000 SAHM0811 1207423@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww, I hear ya... The transition from 1-2 isn't easy. IMHO, in some ways it's harder, but just like the first time, you'll get through it! There will be good days and bad days. We're here for you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207381 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 19:41:39 +0000 Smurfette 1207381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs!! It has to be so hard. Things will get better!!! You will all find a way to work as a family of 4. Big change but you will find your groove soon!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207299 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 18:14:51 +0000 Andrea 1207299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Awww hugs! It's hard to know where to put your attention at the beginning and of course the baby needs more of it. But you'll find your groove soon enough! And when they kids are playing nicely together, I think that having 2 is easier than just 1 in that respect so keep your eye on the prize!! Hang in there!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207290 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 18:06:48 +0000 Rubies 1207290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Omg, huuugs!!! Going through the same thing. You are a wonderful mother!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207235 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 17:17:26 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1207235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are doing an amazing job! And congrats on BF :heart: They are so, so lucky to have such a loving mom! Try to remember that this is just part of the normal transition. It's a phase and although little E is having a hard time right now, he's learning life lessons along the way that will help build character. HUGS! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207232 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 17:15:08 +0000 shopaholic 1207232@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>{{{HUGS}}} mama! You are doing a great job! I haven't been through this yet, so I can only imagine. I think the transition would be tough at any age. Maybe if you make it like DS1 is your helper and teammate to help you, it would help him feel more special and has attention in that way? Like build it up that Daddy's going to work and you need his help and you can't do things without him? Might be more work for you, but be more inclusive? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207220 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 16:57:30 +0000 MarieJ 1207220@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs, you're a great mom! I've heard the transition period is rough going from 1 to 2, but the good thing is that lo's won't remember it and I'm sure he'll come around quickly! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207196 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 16:36:41 +0000 lemondrop 1207196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Big hugs honey, you are a fantastic mom! This rough patch will pass and you will have it all down soon. Hang in there, both of your little guys know you love them very, very much! </p> <p>I really appreciate this post, as I'll be going through the same thing in 18-ish weeks (yikes!). I know who to message when it happens ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207148 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 15:54:35 +0000 Maysprout 1207148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Aw, I'm sorry that stinks. I've been feeling a bit the same way but I'd be stressing more if DH had to go back already. We have a just today 2 week old and a 2.5 year old. Older LO is pretty good but def has showed signs of missing all the attention that she used to get from me. She's gotten irritated with me a few times and asked for papa or last night started crying when the baby would cry. It's a big adjustment so I try to look at all the things she's doing right and we've gone on a few walks just the two of us and we talk about how she'll always be my baby and she was my first baby and all that fun stuff. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207138 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 15:46:36 +0000 Mae 1207138@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are a good mom. Give it a few weeks and I'm sure you'll find your groove (and level out of the hormone dive) and feel much better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207121 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 15:36:19 +0000 MoonMoon 1207121@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs! Neither of your kids will remember these tough early days, but they'll have childhoods filled with memories of each other. Once you get out of the newborn days and into a rhythm, you and your husband will both have quality time with both children, together and one-on-one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207120 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 15:35:28 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 1207120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>HUGS. We are going through the same thing. DS has been acting out a lot more than normal, presumably because he misses the attention he once got. I have cried each day I've been alone with both kids at some point or another. It's so hard to keep them both happy for more than 15 minutes at a time. All I can do is try to make a point of spending quality time with DS when the baby is sleeping. Beyond that, I just hope it gets easier with time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207116 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 15:32:47 +0000 heartonastring 1207116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only have one, so no real advice from me. I remember those postpartum days well though and there were a lot of tears. Big, big hugs. This too shall pass, mama. You're a wonderful, loving mom. Transitions are hard for everyone but just think of all the love your LOs will have for one another for the rest of their lives. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-breakdown#post-1207115 Sun, 10 Nov 2013 15:31:32 +0000 sunny 1207115@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are a great mom and you're doing the best that you can. I don't have 2 yet but I have heard from all my friends that it is so hard balancing your time between the two kids. They all tell me it gets better with time. Hugs! :heart: </p>