https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 09 May 2026 04:55:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-bullies-and-a-baby-shower#post-907995 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 12:25:42 +0000 katsupgirl 907995@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: or you are a clever girl!! Clever indeed!<br /> Register where you want for what you want. I usually just nod and say "we'll see". It gets tiring always trying to justify your choices. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-bullies-and-a-baby-shower#post-907981 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 12:19:23 +0000 ShootingStar 907981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just nod along and do whatever I want. I had a friend laugh at a few things I registered for. So what? I kept them on there and we'll see if I use them or not. If you read the registry or gear posts here, one person will call something a must and another will say the same this was a waste. Everyone has different preferences and everyone's baby is different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-bullies-and-a-baby-shower#post-907967 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 12:12:33 +0000 cmomma17 907967@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@grizz: brilliant! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-bullies-and-a-baby-shower#post-907965 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 12:12:00 +0000 mamimami 907965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Check the return policies and consider just returning all that crap. Even if you don't register for it, they'll probably buy it for you anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-bullies-and-a-baby-shower#post-907952 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 12:06:07 +0000 tillma 907952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lol@grizz you crack me up! GENIUS. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-bullies-and-a-baby-shower#post-907943 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 12:02:34 +0000 Boheme 907943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a friend like that who wouldn't let up, so I put some of the things she insisted I needed on my registry... Then I immediately went home and marked them as purchased ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-bullies-and-a-baby-shower#post-907935 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 11:58:05 +0000 AmeliaBedilia 907935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I often use the phrase, "You might be right," with these types of people, then stick to my guns. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-bullies-and-a-baby-shower#post-907930 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 11:54:53 +0000 MamaMoose 907930@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just tell them where you are registered and just repeat over and over 'Thank you for your advice but hubs and I have researched extensively and feel confident that these choices are what will work best for us". They can't force you to anything. I'm sure you'll have to repeat yourself many times but hopefully they'll get it eventually! They won't refuse to host your shower just because you don't listen to them :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-bullies-and-a-baby-shower#post-907914 Fri, 05 Jul 2013 11:48:04 +0000 tillma 907914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Two of my good friends are what I refer to as mommy bullies. They are great friends but unfortunately the type of moms who think their way is best and can be condescending and pushy if you don't agree. I think their hearts are in the right place but quite frankly I find their pushy ways annoying and their condescension borderline hurtful. In the past I have had to avidly defend my right to take birthing classes, convince them at length that yes I could really feel my baby kicking earlier than the average joe and stand up for the fact that I don't want a slew of people waiting anxiously outside the delivery room. It can at times be exhausting.<br /> My problem now stems from the fact that they have insisted on throwing a baby shower for me. I am not one to love having attention called to me and think it is very kind of them to do this. In addition they have been nice enough to extend the invite to family and friends they don't even know since no one else has offered to throw me a shower. I think this is incredibly sweet and want to be as gracious as possible, however, my friends are insisting that I register at certain places ASAP and submit my registry to them for their scrutiny on what I did wrong or may have missed.<br /> I have done extensive research and feel confident that the products and options we have chosen will work well for us and don't really want them to pick apart what I worked so hard on. This is causing me anxiety...how can I tactfully put these ladies in their place without being hurtful to friends who are doing something nice but quite frankly being a little too pushy? </p>