https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 16 May 2026 19:59:07 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-guilt-1#post-1063913 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 06:57:30 +0000 heffalump 1063913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've had to take a lot of meds during both of my pregnancies for migraines. I already feel so guilty about it, but then when I see doctors or go to the ER they give me lectures about what can happen to the baby. Meanwhile I'm in so much pain I want to die and don't really have much of a choice. LO came out perfectly healthy so I just try to remember that. </p> <p>I also let her watch tv a little before she turned two. When I got pregnant I was exhausted and needed a break. I let her watch a show a day now that she is two, and I feel guilty about that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-guilt-1#post-1063912 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 06:57:30 +0000 heffalump 1063912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've had to take a lot of meds during both of my pregnancies for migraines. I already feel so guilty about it, but then when I see doctors or go to the ER they give me lectures about what can happen to the baby. Meanwhile I'm in so much pain I want to die and don't really have much of a choice. LO came out perfectly healthy so I just try to remember that. </p> <p>I also let her watch tv a little before she turned two. When I got pregnant I was exhausted and needed a break. I let her watch a show a day now that she is two, and I feel guilty about that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-guilt-1#post-1063875 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 06:15:46 +0000 Dandelion 1063875@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok, I said no...but at the time when DS was young, I thought I was going to mess up everything for him.</p> <p>But, he's 6, now, and I know that little things like that aren't going to ruin him. He's a great, smart, polite kid, and I guess I did things right! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-guilt-1#post-1063867 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 06:11:04 +0000 honeybear 1063867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@irene: I don't think 19 months is at all delayed for conversational speech. LO is 3 and he didn't really string words together/pronounce them so someone else could understand them until 2. He's really fluent now. I wouldn't worry--some kids are like light switches in this area, one day they're babbling unintelligibly and the next they're reciting 'Blueberries for Sal' to you. ;) You sound really conscientious, so I think you should just keep doing what you're doing, and be confident that you'll be discussing the relative merits of Robert McCloskey and Dr Seuss with your son soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-guilt-1#post-1063828 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 02:32:12 +0000 mrsvdv 1063828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: I worry also about interacting with DS: am I stimulating him too much or too little, am I offering the "right" things when playing with him, etc. He's 5 weeks old so our interacting is still mostly a one-way street! </p> <p>I feel the most guilt when he's awake and I put him in his bouncy chair or crib so that I can get something done, and then he's just lying there, staring at who knows what or even worse he starts crying.. I usually tell myself he won't remember those times and I'm doing the best I can! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-guilt-1#post-1063820 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 01:28:02 +0000 googly-eyes 1063820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Things I worry about:</p> <p>Not breastfeeding<br /> Side effects of my PPD and having other people help me during that time<br /> Leaving the tv on all the time<br /> Not interacting with her enough (how DO people keep a clean house/cook??)- This is the one I honestly think about the most.</p> <p>I don't think the nap thing would cause lo to not learn vocabulary/language. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-guilt-1#post-1063814 Wed, 04 Sep 2013 01:05:53 +0000 MrsLilybugg 1063814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was really good at restricting caffeine during pregnancy, but now that I have LO, and especially due to sleep deprivation, I drink more.than I probably should. I know that breast milk is affected and it makes me feel so guilty. :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-guilt-1#post-1063777 Tue, 03 Sep 2013 23:18:42 +0000 Pink Champagne 1063777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try not to worry. You could drive yourself crazy worrying about every little thing, or you could love your kid and trust yourself that you're getting it mostly right. The fact that you even worry about this stuff shows that you're already getting it right because you CARE.<br /> A little fertilizer never hurt anyone ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-guilt-1#post-1063774 Tue, 03 Sep 2013 23:15:51 +0000 pinkcupcake 1063774@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Lindsay05: I'm awful at remembering to take my prenatals too! I should actually go take one now...</p> <p>I drank a lot of coffee while I was nursing. Only way I could stay awake and sane. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-guilt-1#post-1063735 Tue, 03 Sep 2013 22:38:11 +0000 Lindsay05 1063735@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am TERIBLE at remembering to take my vitamins. </p> <p>We were bad with forgetting to wipe DD's gums. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-guilt-1#post-1063731 Tue, 03 Sep 2013 22:35:46 +0000 winniebee 1063731@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worried a lot that my son didn't love me and hated affection because I didn't hold him enough as a newborn. And only fed him from the boob for 6 weeks. But now he loves to give hugs And kisses is a pretty affectionate toddler and is super attached to me :). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-guilt-1#post-1063711 Tue, 03 Sep 2013 22:24:24 +0000 irene 1063711@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One more: Recently I saw a sign up on our neighbor's front lawn. They have a kid (4 months older than LO) and their kid play on the front lawn all the time, so for some reason, I didn't pay much attention to the sign especially it got blown down on the ground. I let LO played around and picked up stuff on the ground for maybe 10-20 minutes every day after school. Until my husband saw that and said, don't let LO go and play on that area, it has a sign saying do not let pets and children play on it because of the fertilizer and what not they have laid down. This fear creeps up on my spine and I couldn't believe I didn't even read the sign carefully and LO had been playing in that area for the past 2 weeks!! I hope he's OK and wouldn't damage his brain or something.... we do wash our hands quickly afterwards though (usually mealtime shortly afterwards).</p> <p>:( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/mommy-guilt-1#post-1063697 Tue, 03 Sep 2013 22:18:43 +0000 irene 1063697@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Did you ever fear that you may have done something that may have impacted your LO in his/her growth and development? What is it, and why do you feel that way?</p> <p>For me, thinking back, I always think/fear/regreted that we may have "impacted" LO's development, or even IQ (!!!) by listening to our pediatrician's unrealistic and unreasonable "advice" about how to get him STTN. His advice was to not let him nap between 3:30pm to 7pm, and put him to bed by 7pm and let him sleep without waking him. He gave this advice to us when he was 1 month old !!!! Of course we didn't know better and we followed (because we were on the brink of insanity too). To a point that I snapped out of it and realized this is insane to not let a baby nap. But I think we did it for a few months :( Sometimes I think I might have affected his IQ and speech, who knows, maybe if I had let him napped as he needed, I would be having conversations with him already (he is 19 months). </p>